My best friend of 4 years cut me off because his gf told him to. Last thing he said was, “I fucked up really bad and I have to block you.” Her reason was because he was hanging out with me at my mom’s house until midnight. I understand why that might’ve frustrated her, but 1. we were in the living room, 2. my mom was there the entire time, and 3. I have my own boyfriend of almost a year, and everyone involved knew that. In the past, we always told our partners before hanging out and only did so if our partners were okay with it. I didn’t know she had a boundary with him about not hanging out with a girl at night. This confused me because previously she was fine with him staying the night at another girl’s place on campus (I was there too and she knew). She’d never shown jealousy toward me in the 4 years we’d been friends. We only see each other about 4 times a year because of distance, and our texts were never flirty. She even had the password to his phone. I’ve always respected their relationship and tried to be friendly with her. After this, she lashed out at me over text and attacked my character, which felt random and unfair. I’m basically his only close friend outside of their relationship, and we supported each other a lot emotionally. I didn’t argue or ask questions when he said he’d block me, out of respect for their relationship. My friends think she is coming from a place of insecurity and jealousy and that I didn’t do anything wrong, but I still feel guilty…. I’m grieving the loss of my best friend and honestly it feels like he died, even though he didn’t. I’m hurt by how she treated me, kind of blindsided by how sudden this was, and I’m having difficulty coping despite the support from my boyfriend and friends. I’m even considering therapy. I need advice on how to process this, move on in a healthy way, and what your opinions on this are

So the school I studied earlier in 9th grade was kind of both good and bad in it's own . It's annual fees was only 100 dollar per year for 9th grade and bus facility costed 5 dollar per year if you were within the 15 km radius of school. The school was very strict in that students were beaten as punishment for you not scoring full marks in each test conducted weekly by them and the knowledge level of teachers was also very low. I knew one teacher in that school and she got salary of 30 dollar per month with her working 8 hours daily. Some teachers were very unexperienced and strict , one teacher punished my one friend by beating him with the stick on hands till his hands nail part started bleeding just because he brought a triangle scale which costed 0.5 dollar amd according to that teacher that student wasted his parents money by buying triangle scale so he punished him that strictly. But still due to the school strictness my and some of mine friends grades were very good we never scored below 95 in exam out of 100. But I changed school and my average grades fell to 85 average because other schools were not that strict even in my 10th and 12 th board. So was I bad for suggesting people to not admit their child in that school when the school actually improved students marks.

I've (34M) always considered myself a person who stands up for injustices. I like to learn about political issues and get involved with activism. I'm particularly enthralled by the plights faced by African-Americans. The horrors of slavery and the continued injustices against them enrage me. So, I decided I needed to do something to give back to their community. As a prolific Reddit user, I came up with the solution of donating Reddit gold to various African-American Reddit users that I've come across. I'll see a comment where a user self-identifies as African-American, and I will donate gold. Over the past three months, I've spent over $4,000 in Reddit gold. My wife (31F) noticed the increase in spending has been monitoring our credit card statements. She was already upset with the amount of time I spend on this website, so after admitting what I've been spending so much money on, she began to cry and went to stay with her parents. I understand that she's upset, but I stand by decision because we've had so many advantages in our lives, so I feel that it's right to give back. AITA?

I (F18) and my friend Jane Doe (F17) become close friends at our high school due to us getting placed next to each other in a majority of our classes. I always enjoy her company and we do have a lot of good conversations, but I’ve recently noticed that she tends to be more of a male centered gal and I don’t know if I am the rude person for being concerned or talking to my boyfriend about this. The first instance that really stuck out to me was during one of our classes, I expressed concern that my boyfriend (M18) has never had a job and did not intend on getting one, and how it made me feel upset. However, once she heard my concern and feelings on the subject she went straight to defending my boyfriend, telling me that he is his own human and that I shouldn’t be saying or thinking those things towards him. I of course agree with that sentiment but I was never ‘trashing’ on him for being jobless, I was just talking about how it made me worried about our future together since we have been talking about moving out and being independent. She then preceded to lecture me for about five more minutes and I let it go. There have been a few other times where she has sort of smushed my feelings in favor of ‘well you shouldn’t think that way’ or ‘well you chose to love him’, but today really was the day that made me question a lot of things! I was discussing with my boyfriend how I was sad that he did not make me a homecoming poster because it is our senior year and I’d expressed that I’d never had one while she was in the back seat. To be honest, I wasn’t the clearest on what I’d wanted because I wanted him to surprise me, so I never explicitly told him to make me a poster. Of course I forgave it since it was neither of our faults, but again, once Jane heard me mention the situation, she went on another long lecture along the lines of, “you can’t blame him for it. Men are just narrow minded and it’s not his fault. You should’ve just said you wanted the poster and it would’ve been easier”. This really hurt my feelings. Due of this, I have been questioning if how I feel is valid about my boyfriend because of what she says and I don’t know if she is coming from a good place, or is trying to show out for the man in the room. I take my friendships very seriously, and it breaks my heart having any doubts about her. ( My boyfriend is 100% not interested in her by the way. He does not talk to Jane and him and I have been in a healthy relationship for almost two years now. )

Ann (20F) and I (20F) have been best friends since we were 16. Even though we are both in college now and have other friends, she's still my closest friend and the one I share my deepest feelings with. We usually call about once a week to catch up. But lately Ive started to feel like she does'nt have time for me anymore. Ann is one of the smartest people I know. She's also very hardworking and has always been at the top of her class. Last semester break, she even interned at a very prestigious space research organisation, and i'm genuinely so proud of her. But lately, whenever I call to rant about a bad day, she's almost always busy and asks if she can call later or on another day. This makes me feel hurt and then I feel like an A-hole for feeling this way and tell myself its not a big deal and forget about it. Two day ago, was my first day as a corporate intern and I hated it. I felt so lonely - everyone in the office is much older than me and in my (Asian) workplace culture theres an age heirarchy and I cant speak casually with anyone. I also had to take the subway in peak rush hour and came back home at 9PM, completely exhausted and overwhelmed. That night I called Ann because I just needed to talk and rant for a bit. She said she was busy and would call me the next day. This hurt but I brushed it off and went to bed. The next morning my grandfather passed away after battling dementia and cancer for 2 years. I was very close to him before his illness. Watching him deteriorate was emotionally devastating and i have struggled a lot with guilt over praying for god to take him away so that his suffering would end. Ann knows all of this as we have spoken about it many times. That day, none of my friends called. They all texted their condolences, which I appreciated but I was really expecting Ann to call instead of just texting. She finally called me at 10.30 in the night but by then I had spent the entire day feeling hurt so i did not answer. What hurts the most is that whenever she calls me to rant, I always make time for her, no matter how busy I am. I would not have taken more than 15 to 20 minutes - I just needed some emotional support on a really hard day. So, AITA for feeling hurt by this or is this just how adult friendships are supposed to be?

My brother 22M could not keep up with his rent and had moved in with me 23F and my fiance a few months ago. When he moved in, he weighed less than 120lb at 5'9 due to skipping meals to game. I sat him down when he moved in to agree to some house rules: limit gaming, apply to jobs, eat at least 2 meals a day, vacuum once a week, and sleep at least 7 hours a day. He has literally not followed a single rule- when I cut his wifi off at 1am, he just uses his hotspot to game until 7am instead. Him gaming keeps me up all night, and I feel like I should kick him out. The problem is he has hardly any savings, all his friends live with their parents (so he has no potential roommates), and our parents live across the country. I charge him $1000 a month in "rent", $300 of which I use for his groceries (I do all the cooking) and $700 of which I put towards a savings account for him for when he moves out. I initially charged him $300 for groceries only, but he kept buying PC parts and had not saved anything to get back on his feet. I feel conflicted because I don't know where or who he'd stay with. My parents keep guilt tripping me because they don't want to be financially burdened by him again. WIBTA for kicking him out? Edit: Another reason I am hesitant to do so is because he is still in college. He does have a part time job being a server (makes maybe $1500 a month), but he has not bothered to apply to any internships in the 5 years he has been in college. The only reason he even chose his major, business, is because my parents told him to. We live in a HCOL where his last rent for a 1 bed in a 4 bed apt was over $1,700.

Sorry for my bad english in advance. I (22f) am a uni student, and I'll finish my studies in july. My twin brother (22m) is still studying. I've always wanted to do the camino de santiago, and I know it would be so special to do it with my brother, because it has always been a dream for both of us. For this reason, I brought up the topic of the camino with him and our family, but they all said "you guys have time, you can do it later on". The thing is, they always say "later on" about everything, and we never end up doing anything. I know that doing the camino this summer would be the perfect time for me, because I have time and money that i've earned myself while working part time during my studies. I've thought about it for a long time and I decided to do the camino by myself, cause I know I will regret it if I don't. The fact that I'm doing one camino now does not prevent me from doing one in the future with my brother if I get the chance, ofc. I will be gladly doing that, but at the same time i don't want to risk never being able to fully live this experience if i wait too long. What if i find a stable job, or family, or start a mortgage for a car? or a house? I know how i am and I know that it's probably a now or never. When I told my family about my decision they all called me selfish for spending so much money on this experience that I'll only get to enjoy. I don't feel selfish and I don't feel guilty, and I will do the camino. It's my time, my money and my decision. Am I the asshole?

I, F33 and M44 are in the process of purchasing a home. The process, however, has been horrendous. I have to practically beg our realtor for updates on the listing we want and insist on being sent more options. She also contacts my partner but not me, despite the fact that i'm the one in charge of our finances/arranging things/responsibilities. (That's just what works for us) When I ask her a question she'll contact my partner with the answers ignoring me, when discussions about putting an offer down need to happen she surpasses me to go to my partner who has to bring it to me anyway. Outside of the fact that it's starting to feel like a personal slight, it's incredibly unprofessional to not adhere to promises she makes ("i'll give you a list of properties tomorrow" and two days later I have to ask only for it to be sent to my partner,...) We are good buyers. Able and willing to pay in cash and do it right now. We are eager to own something. Yet, it's like pulling teeth WIBTA if I tried contacting the listing agent or even owners directly, costing her her commission? EXTRA INFO: Nothing has been signed.

When I was younger I was kayaking on vacation, and had some trail mix with me. I thought it'd be funny to scoop up one of the jellyfish floating past and use it like a bowl (it was an interesting shape jellyfish, it was sort of curled in a half-dome, but inverted to what you might expect so the tentacles were on the outside of the half-dome). It stung me a little at the end of the interaction, but not for the majority of the minute or two I held it. Generally I did, and still do, think its a pretty entertaining and a funny story. I told someone today, and they thought it was animal abuse. I asked if it they thought it was worse than factory farming, which i consider to be pretty bad - and they said yes because factory farming has utility. They felt being a benefiting participant in that system carried less weight than my direct interaction with a critter I was face-to-face with for my own gain. I really think the ratio between how much harm it did that jellyfish to hold a couple of dried nuts and apricots and stuff and the harm done over a the lifecycle of an animal in a factory farm makes the jellyfish bowl a real misdemeanor and illogical place to get concerned about animal abuse. I think killing bugs has got to be worse than subjecting a jellyfish to being used as a bowl for 5 minutes, and I know this person is happy to kill spiders. So while I can at core agree that jellyfish probably didn't appreciate it, which makes it some form of abuse maybe, I just don't really think its something that warrants looking at me like it makes me someone to watch out for. They compared it to TikToks of people repeatedly stabbing live large bugs with toothpicks. I feel like that's a magnitude of difference for sketchy signals relative to me being like 'haha jellyfish granola bowl'. Is the jellyfish bowl story a funny one to share or did I abuse the jellyfish for my own gain in a condemnable way?

Ok so for context I have a best friend, lets call her Jess for privacy reasons. She had a sister whose name we'll call Jane. Now we were on call playing roblox then she suddenly left the call game and texted a few minutes later she texted me that her sister was dead. For more context, her sister was brain dead and required medical attention and so her mom and her sister AKA Jane would always drive to a city that was hours away because we live in a small town with a hospital who can't help with her condition. Back to the story so as I was saying yes, Jess told me Jane was dead because she was extremely sick and called me a couple of days later telling me to tell our friends about it because it hurts her emotionally and physically when she has to keep saying that her sister is dead. I get it but I automatically assumed she wanted me to tell our friends when the winter break was over. Dont ask me why I just thought that is what she meant to say. So I didn't tell anyone. Then she texted me asking why i didn't tell our friends and I responded with "mb". I'm guessing she did not like that because I asked one of our mutual friends when school started if she was mad at me. She replied that Jess was mad at me because of the way I responded. So I sent an apology over text because she wasn't in school she has left me on read and screenshotted the apology. Im guessing to show to our other friends. I'm truly sorry for what I did or what I didn't do and I don't know who to talk to about this. AITA? Edit: thank you so much for your feedback, I will sincerely reflect on my actions and Jess said she wanted to talk in person. Again thank you and I appreciate your criticisms

Here’s the context: I, 25 (M) and 24 (F) have been in a relationship for almost 2 years. Recently she bought me a gift as a surprise for the holidays, she got me a machine which was decent and under 50$. Also, not to sound materialistic or anything, I also bought her gifts which would total to the amount of 100$. I was really excited and happy for the gift and have been testing it out since I’m really into coffee but not making my own. Since getting the machine, I’ve been looking for an upgrade because what she got doesn’t really give the freedom to practice and learn more and underperforms. I’ve been talking to her about the machines I have seen and told her that I’m considering to buy one myself in a few months time. She got upset and told me I don’t appreciate the gift however, it was the reason why I got motivated to learn more about making my own coffee. I’m not disappointed about the price or how it performs, I’m just genuinely looking for a machine more capable and not even considering throwing her gift out. Edit: I simply added the prices because people sometimes ask if I gave the same or not. I do not care about the monetary value.

I’m 20F and live with my parents while my brother and I recently started college. My father has long-term issues with alcohol and risky financial behavior like day trading and gambling. Because of this, our family has been financially unstable for years. Growing up, my father controlled all the money. I gave him every cent I earned from working, keeping almost nothing for myself. Despite that, there was no savings put aside for my education or my brother’s, and important bills are often ignored while he continues risky habits. Tonight, I brought home food using my own money and sat down to eat. My father immediately accused me of being disrespectful, wasting his money, and having a bad attitude. He said eating food I bought for myself was selfish and inappropriate. I finally confronted him. I raised my voice and told him I was exhausted from being blamed when his addictions and financial decisions are the reason we’re struggling. I pointed out that my college fees are due soon and there’s no plan to pay them, yet he continues reckless behavior. From his perspective, I disrespected him in his own home, challenged his authority, and embarrassed him by calling out his behavior instead of staying quiet like I usually do. He believes I’m ungrateful and selfish for spending money on myself and for blaming him for our financial problems. Afterward, I felt shaken and guilty for speaking up at all. I’ve always tried to keep the peace, but this time I couldn’t. So AITA for confronting my father instead of staying silent like I always have?

I(21M) have had a rocky relationship with my father(46M) since I was a preteen. We have had several large verbal disagreements, one in which I was genuinely afraid of him. Most of our arguments were over very trivial things like saying “yeah” instead of “yes” or whistling in the house. My father is a Caribbean man who went to the army at 18 and later became a cop (yikes) So he's honestly a very sensitive man. He's never put his hands on me and has always taken care of me like I was his own. He’s constantly said me and my siblings are the most important things in his life, and I believe him. In recent years, since I was around 18, he has cooled down significantly and we haven’t had any fights. We have made a lot of progress in our relationship and we are at a point where I can joke with him. We used to get lunch together and he held me as I sobbed at my grandfather’s funeral, which meant a lot to me. A few months ago my mother(45F) decided to divorce my father, something I had long predicted to happen. I also learned that my father had emotionally/digitally cheated on my mom multiple times. Although the cheating barely scratches the surface of problems. In simple terms my idiotic father destroyed our family over the course of about eleven years. Now we live in separate houses. Me and my younger siblings live with my mom and my dad lives by himself about an hour away in an apartment. As the months have gone by I’ve seen him a lot less. He knows that our relationship isn’t what it should be and he keeps asking me to come stay with him when I can but I keep avoiding it. I love my dad and I want to be close to him, especially since he's been so sad. I know that if I were to cut him off he would be crushed, so I can’t do that (he also pays for half of my college funds). But something happened with him at Christmas that really set me off and now the thought of him has me seeing red. To explain it as simply the only thing I put on my wishlist was “money for grillz” after coming back from an almost 2 week trip abroad he gave me and my siblings book marks and later pulled a lego car out of a bag and said who wants this one. Later on in the evening realized he was wearing grillz. This completely took me aback as my father is a fairly traditional man who never expressed a previous interest in grillz. When I asked him about it he brushed me off and I didn't want to make a scene so I dropped it. I kept my cool that night but I have been thinking about it recently. I know that it seems like he's being an ass on purpose but he really is genuinely this stupid and has done similar things before. I have been fuming about the whole ordeal for the past 2 weeks and have been avoiding him since. When I talk to my mom about it she points out that that's the way he is and he's my dad so it's important that I try to have a relationship with him. Am I the asshole for not getting over the incident and avoiding him even though I know it was an honest mistake?

I 36F married to 36M with two kids (6M, 2F). After FIL’s death a few years ago, MIL showed her true self-serving nature: FIL had masked it by guiding her. Examples of negligence: Closed car door on son’s foot while focused on wanting to smoke; asked if he was “mad at her,” not if he was okay. Leftson alone for 7 min; he cut his middle finger with a peeler (bleeding badly), she thought he “flipped her off” and ignored his cries, later telling him “you made me look stupid.” He was 3. Let daughter run with pen, resulting in chin stab. She’s now barred from unsupervised time with kids (hubs idea after multiple incidents). Post-FIL, she couldn’t live alone, so we bought a new home and moved in together. She’s on our bundled home/auto insurance. Despite months of protests, she loaned her car to someone who totaled it during our home closing, she promised cash but didn’t pay. Husband wanted to cosign a new car; I refused due to closing risks. Months later, he still hasn’t removed her from our policy, saying separate insurance costs more and might make her drive cautiously. But she’s added dings to the new car, and our rates skyrocketed from the accident. Insurer is threatening cancellation by Feb over a paperwork issue: if she wrecks again, we could lose coverage and our mortgaged home. MIL inherited FIL’s restaurant but drove away staff and closed it unilaterally in Dec; no job lined up, doesn’t pay rent, and we’re stuck with property taxes. Past history: She racked up massive credit card debt in FIL’s name, stopped tax payments; state seized savings, nearly lost all properties. FIL considered divorce/fraud charges, but husband convinced him not to, fearing jail for her. Properties ended up in her name; husband has POA but not conservatorship. After our colicky son’s birth, she refused help, admitting daily drinking. He protects her as his last parent, but it’s jeopardizing our kids’ future. What do I need to do for him to understand the severity? Or AITA for bringing it up?

Hey. So I've posted on here before. Im the girl who's cousin wanted to pay me only 200 a month and sometimes food and smokes for babysitting her kids 12 plus hours a day. Things have not improved. She told me that she would start buying my cat food to but she was gonna take that cost away from my phone bill money. Im still babysitting her children for about 12 hours a day almost everyday because she "keeps getting called in to work". I have been keeping my mouth shut. She no longer pays even half my phone bill she buys me 24 packs of ramen that are 30 cents each, one bag of pizza rolls, and one bag of chips a month. She gives me about six monsters and the occasional soda a month. She buys me about two packs of smokes a month (wich is plenty as I am actively trying to quit). She also thinks that I will be willing to continue babysitting if she moves out. She also told me that she would have more money if she didnt have to buy things for me to wich I replied: You have 100 extra dollars a payday because you quit paying my phone bill so where does that extra 200 a month go? She also recently bought herself a fourth pair of 60 dollar earbuds. And when she takes her kids to town with her, instead of taking extra clothes for them incase they have an accident, she just goes and buys more clothes. I would bet she spends about 200 a month on buying the kids more clothes and gas because shes always finding an excuse to go to town. Today she again got called in to work after promising me she would tell them no, no matter what. Yesterday I found out that my mother possibly has cervical cancer. So after a lot of thinking and talking to my dad I have decided that if she does have cancer I am moving in with them to help take care of my mom. I told cousin that she has a month to find other arangements for her children. She called me a bitch and told me that I need to pay her back for "everything shes done for me these last few months". I may be the ass because I listed the few things shes done for me and told her I would not pay her back for the food because she doesn't even pay for it the government does (food stamps). I also told her that if she wants to be petty and make me pay her back for what I was owed for babysitting over the last ten months that she needs to pay me back for all I have done for her and her kids over the years with a list of what I had done. I thought a month was more than enough time to figure things out but apparently Im a petty bitch. She cant belive that i would do this to a poor single mother who's just trying her best. Someone who just got out of a toxic relationship (shes already talking to about four dudes on the internet and has only been single four a week). She has three different baby daddies (and might be pregnant) and the three year old has started calling me mom and my brother dad. I dont know what to do anymore.

I’m a groomsman in my brother’s wedding, and he’s now talking about having all the groomsmen wear matching custom-made suits, not rentals, with each of us expected to pay for our own. I pushed back and said I’m happy to follow a general dress code or coordinate accessories, but I’m not willing to buy a custom suit chosen by the couple for their wedding. In my view, if the groom and bride want the wedding party to fully match, then they should pay for it. If they don’t want to pay, then the normal alternative is a simple dress code like “dark suit, white shirt,” not forcing people to buy a single-use outfit. That’s exactly how I handled it at my own wedding. We paid for the bridesmaids’ matching dresses, and the groomsmen just wore suits they already owned while I bought bow ties for everyone. AITA for saying no unless the suits are paid for or rented?

So Reddit, this situation just happened a few days ago. I (20F) found out I was pregnant 6 months ago, this baby was a total surprise but we are excited nonetheless to meet our baby girl due in April! I told my boyfriend and he was stoked to find out he and I are expecting, even call our little girl a “princess” and the cute little talks he makes to my belly saying “dad can’t wait to meet you”, he even bought her a coming home outfit and everything! My only problem, is that he’s a total gym bro and spend a ton of time at the gym. A few days ago I was feeling the morning sickness worse than normal, that night he wanted to leave for the gym, I begged him to stay with me and skip the gym for one day (I don’t ask him to skip the gym a ton if any at all by the way) he told me how “his health and hygiene were important”. He told me he’d make it up to me by getting me what I was craving that night and giving me foot and back massages when he gets back. I just feel like he’s a good guy, but that just set me off the way he disregarded my feelings when I don’t ever really ask him to skip the gym. We had an argument about it today and now I’m at my parents house for the time being, my parents were kinda disappointed when they found out I was pregnant but are now excited and waiting for their granddaughter they can spoil haha. He’s been calling me nonstop saying how he want to be there for me and our daughter and I am so upset right now and contemplating on what to do. AITA for overreacting or being this upset?

I (19m) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (21m) for almost a year now. He plays bass in a band. To be completely honest, the culture around the genre is a lot for me to handle, and I’m not particularly fond of the music itself. Absolutely nothing against him and his bandmates, it’s just not my thing. We got into a playful argument about who’s more likely to succeed/be more successful. He said it wouldn’t be me, and I argued that his band sucks. Honestly, it’s the truth. It’s not a great look for him, especially for someone who wants to succeed in the music industry. In no way am I saying that he is not talented, because he is. He was genuinely upset with me after the fact, and I tried to apologize and rephrase what I said in the heat of the moment, but he was hurt nonetheless. For reference, I work full time as a graphic designer, and I’m doing very well in my situation.

I (F32) had been physically assaulted randomly and for no reason while on holiday in Poland to the point that I needed police and ambulance. None if the medical teams or police spoke english to me so it was hard to explain what happened with google translate. One of my exes is Polish. I do not speak Polish at all. My then boyfriend (M32) also does not speak Polish. In that state of panic and al emotions, I called my ex first instead of my bf not because he was the first person i thought about but because he was Polish, i don’t understand Polish and needed someone to translate for me and tell me what is happening and what i need to do with the police and at the hospital. Also my ex was from the same city I got attacked in and my then bf was 9hrs by train away from that city. I only reached out to inform my then bf of being attacked few hours later while waiting for results after I had all the examinations performed by the hospital and calmed down a bit. My then bf was upset that I reached out to my ex first and delayed informing him. My reasoning through panic anxiety and physical hurt was that i need to take care of logistics and know what to do and what theyre saying rather than emotional support. I also was afraid of being a burden and worrying my then bf if I called him in that moment of panic not knowing what’s happening and what to do while time is running out so I preferred to talk to him when I’m a bit calmer. Asking this as we had broken up and I’m now rethinking all my past decisions from these situations that led to breakup as in my opinion I thought I was being practical.

Hi all, 24M my girlfriend and I have had a pretty dead relationship for the past year or two (been together 4 years). We haven’t called it quits. But we also aren’t really there for each other in the ways we need anymore. Its… like a stalemate. Like sleeping in the same bed as a roommate. No romance. We have maybe “slept” together twice in the past year. She’s always picking fights and arguments over the smallest things like where I set her purse down on the table for example. Tonight she pushed me away again. I asked why and she said we never do anything romantic together as if thats the reason for the distance between us. A year ago We went to cuba for a week as a vacation to “mutually restart” and hopefully come back into our lives refreshed and in love again. That did not happen. When i brought up that a week away in cuba didnt seem like enough she then said because I didn’t pay for all of it. It kinda stung my cheek when I had initially heard it. So i guess the question is AITA for assuming a week together in the caribbean would be romantic regardless if it was a gift or a mutual trip? (We had a blast btw just a lack of romance) but then again i seem to be the only one trying to be romantic in anyway these days. Please help me see light. Am I wasting my time?

I met my husband 4 years ago, we got married 2 years ago (had a small $2500 wedding on a beach). We have a 2.5 year old and 13 month old twins. Throughout our time together, his parents have rarely offered to pay for anything, which I would normally think is fine as I don’t expect things from others. It’s key to note that they try to pass themselves off as being incredibly rich (expensive cars, always talking about being rich). The only thing they have ever paid for is when we moved away from Texas to Florida, they convinced my husband that if he moved back to Texas he would make more money. They said they would even cover the cost of the move. I reluctantly agreed - although I didn’t want to leave Florida - because I felt pressured by them and my husband. However, on a day-to-day basis since, they have never offered to even buy a can of formula or diapers when they see the kids. When I was 6 months pregnant with the twins and had just bought a house (I put all the money down, my husband contributed nothing), they actually asked me to pay them $2500 a month to reimburse them for the move they claimed they were paying for and for my engagement ring (apparently they did loan money to my husband to buy my ring). I refused, obviously. Fast forward to now. My husband’s sister is engaged. She and the parents like to talk about how rich her fiancé is. I find it odd that they always like to talk about people being rich. Anyway, she wants a lavish wedding. My MIL and FIL are admittedly spending $100k+ on their part of the wedding. They have also paid for the sister and fiance’s hotels when they traveled to Turkey together. My in-laws claimed it’s because their daughter got them free flights through her job. (Also key to note, their daughter lost her job when I met her and I got her a job at this airline. She would’ve been unemployed and none of them would’ve been flying anywhere free if it weren’t for me.) Considering all of this, I think it’s wild the parents have given literally NOTHING to help my husband and our struggling family with 3 babies, in fact they tried to TAKE money from me, all while they spend $100k+ on the daughter and her fiancé. The mother doesn’t see what’s wrong with this, and says this is what you do with your daughters, not your sons. I told her she’s absolutely insane. AITA?

Sorry for any typos, I hate mobile keyboards. Every week for a long while now, my immediate family visits my dad's sister and my paternal grandfather to eat. The latter is able to drive to the former's house. (Me: 25M, parents: 52M, 55F; sibling(s): 23F, aunt: mid-50s, grandfather: 83). I'm unsure of the meaning behind it all, and furthermore, I am sensitive to loud noises and get angry when confined with a source of loud noise. Unfortunately, not only do I have to ride with my sister, who can be a source of noise, but the aunt and my mother can be quite loud, and the former's house is not large. Both of my parents cite reasons like, "its only 3 hours a week," (because we do this once a week for three hours) and the generic "family is important" thing (which, as stated earlier, I do not understand). As for why I couldn't drive myself, my dad says its better if I ride with them for logistical reasons. Am I over-reaching for wanting not to go unless I drive myself?

I worked for IKEA as a Shopkeeper for over 4 years and when I started I absolutely loved it. The environment was positive and encouraging. The last 2 years have been absolutely hell. Because sales goals are not being met, they cut payroll. Because of tartifs, they raised prices, multiple times. Yet, they can't understand why sales are down. I was diagnosed last July with ADHD and OCD with a side order of panic attacks. Just lovely in the IKEA environment. I requested some accommodations right after the diagnosis and the write up started the very next day. It only took them 5 months to manufacture a reason to terminate me. Although I am glad that I no longer have the stress associated with the toxic environment, I am furious they are allowed to treat people this way. I have seen evidence of other people being forced out on BS made up violations. Anyone else experience this kind of crap? I am considering next steps, which may include a lawyer consultation. AITA for wanting them to be held accountable for wrongful termination?

There's a few moving parts here so sorry if this is a little garbled. I (49NB) was visiting my parents (Dad (76M) and Mom (72F)) over the Christmas holidays staying at their house. My Dad has had poorly controlled diabetes for 30 years and a range of other health issues but still has his drivers license and can drive. He's insulin dependent and mostly sticks to a very strict diet but splurges pretty often (usually a few times a week). My Mom gets on his case about sticking to his diet but I think he's an adult who can make his own choices and I don't want to be put in the position of policing what he eats and dealing with the resentment. My Dad and I were home together mid-morning when my Mom was out shopping and he did this thing that's always irritated me where he wants something but won't just ask for it. He pretends I want it and that he's getting it as a favor for me. He came in to the living room where I was reading a book and relaxing and said he was happy to "treat me" to some McDonalds. I just had to go pick it up for us. I really dislike McDonalds and haven't eaten there for like 25 years. I try to eat healthy (which he knows) and was starting a diet. I told him I wasn't really hungry and even if I was didn't really want McDonalds. I could tell he wanted me to offer to go anyway but I was so annoyed by the manipulation I just left it there. He got pissed, stormed off and wouldn't speak to me for the rest of the day. And he complained to my Mom when she came back that I wouldn't just run a simple errand for him and she now annoyed with me as well. I debated just going to get some for him but for me that feels like crossing a line. I don't care if he wants to eat junk in his own home on his own time despite all his medical conditions but I feel like asking me to go out and get it for him is asking me to be an enabler. I also pretty strongly suspect the reason he didn't just drive to get it himself was that he was already too drunk at 11am to drive himself and I didn't want to enable that either. McDonalds doesn't deliver in their area and they are out of range of restaurant delivery apps. Their house was full of other food options including lots of junk left over from Christmas. I know it wasn't a big ask, I wasn't doing anything else, I was probably overreacting to the obvious manipulation as much as anything else and I don't want to be judgey about his lifestyle choices, but what say you Reddit? AITA?

My mom passed away on 12/24/25. We made shirts in her memory. Wasn’t something I was asking if you wanted. When family was coming over they would say I want one and we would add them to the list. Everyone in our family got one besides my uncle (moms brother) and his wife. The day of the visitation came and everyone was wearing baby pink or white shirts that we had made. When my moms brother showed up with his they were in the very back and all dressed in black. I offered from them to come closer to us in front. And before I knew they were gone.. next day came and the didn’t show up to funeral (or cemetery). Came to find out they were upset that they didn’t get a shirt so they didn’t show up to say say there last goodbye to my mom. So I’m I the asshole for this? Is it me I’m I the problem.?

My wife and I just had twins who are 5 months old. and we have a 4yr old. My mom lives Brooklyn, NY and we live Bridgeport, CT. My mom called and said she wanted to come visit the twins for the weekend and wants me to pick her up on Friday and drop her back home Sunday evening. Knowing that since my wife and i both work fulltime jobs and get home around 5- 5:30ish after picking the kids from daycare, I asked my mom if she minds taking the train and i'll pick her up from the train station. She immediately said " I aint taking no train". My issue is driving into NYC on a Friday evening is not ideal where what would usually take 1.5 - 2 hours can easily turn into a 3 hour ordeal one way and the same goes for the return trip. I go to work around 6 and leave work at 3 and thats extra driving to NYC & back is something i really don't want to do A couple months ago my mom had a car that she drove to come visit maybe once every couple months but that car is now busted. I offered her my older car before the twins arrived, knowing that we were going to need a bigger vehicle and she said "She is used to driving an SUV and my smaller SUV was too small/ too low for her"... so we sold it. I havent responded to her last msg because I don't know what to say

I moved back to the state where all my family lives. I moved back for a job and to have more support with my 11 week old baby. My dad and I have a difficult relationship. When my parents got divorced, I lived with him full time from 13-17. We talk on the phone like once a week, but I haven’t seen him in person in 5 years. He’s not a bad person, but he’s been a bad dad to me. According to my last therapist he was so neglectful he was abusive when I was a kid. He really hasn’t shown up for me ever. When I was moving 1000 miles with an infant he was absolutely no help. It’s not a money thing or a time thing. I think you can love someone from a distance. For the first time I’m so happy and content. I love my new job, I have unproblematic supportive family to help me with my son. My dad has asked to meet him and I’ve said no. For context my dad now lives about a 3 hour drive from me. Am I the asshole for not allowing my dad to meet my son?

Got home from work today and told my bf I was gonna take a quick shower. As soon as I put shampoo in my hair he comes in and is like “I’m so sorry but you have to leave right now, I gotta GO” I respond “Dude, no. I’ll just close the shower curtain and you can go” To which he responds “Are you serious?!? You gotta get out!” To which I’m like “dude are YOU seriously asking me to get out of the shower right now?” Background: we’ve lived together for 2+ years, are pretty comf with each other but definitely not to the point of pooping in front of each other. He has IBS so when he’s gotta go he’s gotta go. We also live in a cold ass place that is heated with a wood stove and I hadn’t gotten the fire going yet so was just standing freezing and dripping and shampoo haired outside the bathroom waiting for him to shit. This is obviously not THAT big of a deal but like….am I crazy thinking that it’s a wild ask to make ur partner leave mid shower so you can take a dump?

I (17M) have been a Boy Scout leader for 2 years now. My scout group have many different units split by age and gender. (There is 2 units for boys from 5 to 10yo, 2 units for girls form 5 to 10yo and 7 units for boys 10 to 14 and 4 units for girls from 10-14). I’m a leader with 5-10yo boys since 2024. And in supposed to upgrade and have a more important role from now on. However, I got asked to change units and to go into a 10-14yo boy unit. And a lot of my friends are also leaders there. But I know that if I leave, my original unit will have issues for not having enough leaders and I’m supposed to become the "master" of the unit in the next couple of years. But I also have a lot of issues with people in that unit and I’m fed up with them. I kinda am running away from my responsibilities by leaving my original unit. WIBTH if I leave ? Ty for reading, sorry my English is kinda bad haha

I (31F) work a very demanding and stressful job. My commute alone is 3hrs a day, and even when Im not at work I have to deal with emergencies all the time. My brother (21m) refuses to cook for himself. For background, I do cook sometimes but most of the time we don’t like to eat the same meals and a lot of the time even when it is something he likes he’ll only eat it for 1 or 2 times. My guess is he doesn’t like to eat the same meal over and over again. But I only do meal prep because I simply don’t have the time or the energy to cook every single day. We have a fully stocked kitchen, pantry and fridge/freezer with which you can make just about anything your little heart desires. If he likes fresh meals and won’t eat leftovers then I think it’s time he learn to do it himself. Our mother lives in a different country and enables this behavior. She said he won’t do it and I should buy those frozen prepared meals for him, but that’d be about 5k a year. I said this to him and he all but said he’d rather starve. EDIT: Okay so let’s clarify a few things! We live together and also with a roommate. We live in MA and if you don’t have roommates you’ll end up homeless. All of us are on the spectrum and have our own levels of difficulty but we’re all functional human beings. He does work a full time job as well. There is a slight cultural aspect to this as we are Latinos. But in all honesty it’s mostly that my parents always coddled him as a child because of his autism diagnosis. We only ever found out about mine when I turned 28. You could say I was the glass child. The meal delivery service: it’s not that I would be paying, I meant that I’d offer that as a solution for him since he wasn’t receptive to the idea of cooking for himself. We’ve had problems with food before. I’ll make meal prep for the week and he wouldn’t even touch it. And then he’ll randomly eat all my snacks. Or he’ll open the cereal that I bought for the week and eat it in a sitting. It seems to me that he might have a bit of an eating disorder as he has a serious problem with portion control. We have a pretty good relationship otherwise, but this has honestly put a strain on me because there are times where I don’t even feel like cooking for myself.

(17 M) During the 2024 summer break I met a girl. We knew each other before but we haven’t really met each other. She was funny she was kind and super pretty. By this time I had some health issues so I was hospitalised. And that girl (who we will call Ana) went every single day of my hospitalisation to spend time with me. She would bring chocolate, flowers to me, all sort of gifts. She even taught me how to sew during that time ! I remember every single moment that we spent together. However, I had an extra crush on that girl. I fell totally in love with her, so I tend to be ambiguous with her because of that. And surprisingly, she was responsive to that ! So we were both flirting with each other, and we were very tactical. So much so that my nurses thought that I was her boyfriend !! So that she was showing me some pictures from her gallery and telling me stories about cool stuff she did. And after a while she had to go (it was like 11pm or something). So we got out of my room while holding each other’s hands, I took her to the elevator, and when she had to go, we kissed each other. It was magical ! It hurts me to write this down haha. When I got back into my room I texted her asking her to tell me when she got home safe. (Very important detail !) and after that little text full of love, I fell asleep. The next day when I woke up, I saw that she had blocked me everywhere. I couldn’t even call her number. And I was horrified. It was horrible knowing that my hospital room was filled up with her stuff (like she had given me her hoodie that i was wearing). I then called her sister asking her what happened. Ana’s sister told me that Ana didn’t like the ambiguity in our relationship. And I knew that something was off ! Cuz I’m real not a flirty guy, I’m really uncomfortable with all that stuff… and she was also super flirty, even more than me. I later found out that Ana had a boyfriend from the beginning that she met a month before talking to me. And I was deeply devastated. Some of my friends knew Ana before me, and they told that she was some girl with a lot of issues with men and with her family and all the stuff. And I couldn’t accept this as an answer to the end of that fairytale that was our relationship. 3 months after she had blocked me, ana showed back up into my DMs. Ana told me that she didn’t like that guy at all, and that he was some weird control freak guy and that he had access to all of social media. A week later, Ana had blocked me again. At this point I took my friend’s phone and I texted to ana. To which her boyfriend replied by menacing me of harming me if I kept trying to talk to her. So I distanced myself from all of that. Ana would then block and unblock me from time to time. And I wouldn’t pay much attention to her. In January 2025, Ana invited me to a restaurant. She explained everything to me and apologised for everything. To which I declined her apologies. So I’m asking you guys: AITA ? Ty for reading !

I have a buddy that self describes as "non-confrontational", and vents to me about the most insane situations. Last night on discord (with a couple other people), he was complaining his "GF" got him to pay for a flight for a solo trip for her to go to Spain for a week. The story? She asked, he hesitated, she said he was being controlling, and he caved. Over 1000 bucks down the drain to fund financial abuse happened in a verbal exchange that lasted less than a minute I told him to say no, learn to put his foot down, etc etc, for the thousandth and he whines about how it'd make things awkward and he just doesn't like confronting people. I lost what remained of my patience by now, so I told him to "deal with it then" firmly. He clearly had more to say, and broached the topic several more times to voice his frustration, like "Yeah but isn't it crazy..." "But I just feel so bad...", and each time, I gave him a curt, firm response. "Deal with it." "Do something about it", etc etc. After a few minutes of that, he finally stopped, and logged off some minutes after that while me and my other 2 friends chatted for the rest of the evening. I'm torn because one friend is as sick of it as me and says I only said what both of them were thinking, but the other one says it was still mean to shut him down for complaining about abuse he let happen for years, and we should try to support him. IMO, all three of us have given him all of the advice and support we possibly could, and at a certain point he has to say no or deal with saying yes. I think its hypocritical/ moronic for him to say yes constantly then be upset about it, and I think its unfair for him to constantly turn our evening hang outs into a support group for his latest sob story. So, AITA? Notes: He's been dating his GF for 3+ years, all involved are in our early 30s.

Context: I have a child with my previous husband who passed away and my current boyfriend and I are pregnant with another. While my boyfriend isn’t the biological father my first child he had chosen the role as my child’s dad and will eventually adopt them. We also plan to get married in the spring. We’re basically engaged but he’s getting a specific ring made and is waiting to propose until it is complete, but wedding planning has started. (A bit unconventional but it works for us) Also I have known his family for many years even before we started dating so it’s not like I’m a stranger. My boyfriend has sisters that he used to see regularly when he was single because they’re all close. But gradually as he fell into a father role for my child and became a part of our lives more and more his time to see his sisters diminished. This isn’t to say he doesn’t see them but when he does have time to himself he likes to hang out with his guy friends and such so they’re not the biggest priority. That being said, there has been some issues as this transpired. His sisters will invite him out to breakfast or to hangout at their places and he has said things like “I was planning on spending time with my girlfriend and the kid. Do you mind if I bring them along?” This has resulted in his sisters cancelling plans and trying to reschedule for a time when it’s only him. This wouldn’t bother me if it wasn’t so frequent that they’re only inviting him to go do something. I come from a family we’re when somebody starts seriously dating/ gets married they become a part of the family and are invited to almost everything. And while sometimes people are busy, I can’t imagine any of my family or siblings canceling plans because I tried to invite my boyfriend. Well my boyfriend let it slip to one of his sisters a few months ago that I’ve been feeling a bit off about them only wanting to spend time alone with him, she got pretty mad and told the other sisters. And now they’re saying things like “have you talked about the ‘family dynamic’” As in, has he talked to me about that they want to spend time with just him and the assumption is that I’m not invited unless explicitly told otherwise. I don’t know, I’ve just felt so weird about it. I get wanting to have sibling time every now and again. Or if my boyfriend had brothers and they were having guy time. But there’s are girls close enough to my age where we get along at family events, but when it comes to being friends and soon to be sister in laws they seems to want very little to do with me and only want my boyfriend coming around. It also makes me feel off because what (soon to be) husband and father of 2 is able to go out all the time without his family? I get that they might not see my child as a part of their direct family’s but what happens when the new baby comes? Btw, this is only his sister’s. His parents and extended family have no problem with me and I’m invited to everything that they host. Edit: I am one of 7 kids. And get along well with them all and am close with a few. 2nd Edit: Also, we both give each other time for alone time and time to hangout with friends or family alone. When he plans something he typically will plan something with his guy friends or will take my kid to go see him mom (since we all see her as a grandma to my kid). His sisters typically don’t plan things in advance and will call him day of or the night before to invite him to things. He is working on his degree and working so he’s already strained for time and a lot of the times they will invite him to things when we have planned family time for the 3 of us.

I (16F) My friend (17F) have been friends since elementary school. We have a very close bond and I think highly of her. Some context, I am homeschooled, I have a hard time with crowded social situations and my mental health used to be so unstable I would barely attend school. My friend we will call her Claire, she goes to in person school and like every school they host a prom. Claire asked me to be her date since her boyfriend wasn’t able to attend because he’s over 5 hours away. I excitedly said yes, I would love to still have the prom experience and since it’s at her school not many people know me. Me and Claire have been talking about attending prom together, I kept asking her when it was and she always wormed around the question. Fast forward today, my prom dress arrived. The dress is stunning and I felt so confident in the dress, I then texted Claire about prom again. I asked her when it was and she responded 3 hours later saying “I don’t feel like going this year.” “I just want this year of school over with.” I don’t blame her but I am frustrated because I was excited she invited me, I already bought the dress and it’s beautiful but FAR from casual, I couldn’t wear it anywhere. I haven’t said anything about my frustration to Claire, am I wrong to be upset over this?

Am I the a-hole for wearing the wrong clothes? I(17f) and a girl, let’s call her X(15f) are in a high school show choir. I have had some arguments with her before but this takes the cake. I was grabbing (what I thought) was my clothes, changing into them and getting ready to do a run through of the show. She asks, “hey are those my clothes? This is your skirt.” I told her yes these were mine and that our seamstress switches outfit pieces all the time so that it fits, I thought nothing of it. She sighed and also got dressed. Afterwards I had hung up the clothes and she comes up to me, “those were my clothes! I just asked [seamstress] and she told me they never switched them!” I looked at her, at this point I was tired of her bs and the day, so I might have been the a hole, she asks if I could hang up the clothes she wore (my clothes). I told her no. I told her that I won’t hang up those clothes because I had already hung up hers. She scoffed and walked away. I didn’t want to talk to her for the rest of the evening, but she sent me a text (bellow) and was basically accusing me of being a liar. I’m not going to reply, cause this is petty. Am I the a-hole? Text: “Hey! I hope practice went well for you..I just wanted to be up front with communication so nothing dwindles. I was a little upset tonight by the costume thing but it was more that you lied about [seamstress] saying she switched it and stuff. Maybe you did think that and such but next time or if any time it happens like that we should both not just you but both should check with [seamstress]. If you did lie because you felt bad or didn't want to take it off I understand just would appreciate the honesty next time. I then was more upset because he seemed upset with me for being upset even though I feel like it was perfectly natural for me to be upset in the moment . I wasn't trying to be mean I was just frustrated. I hope we can clear this up okay. And whatever it was and such I forgive it and I'm not angry or frustrated anymore just hope that next time this sort of thing could be avoided :))) “

My husband (24) and I (22) are expecting our first baby soon. I am currently 36 weeks pregnant and our due date is February 4th. As we have started to prepare for our baby to get here, we have started setting some boundaries related to when we have our baby, especially as it is prime sick season. We plan to mainly stay inside and away from people. We plan to also limit how many people are visiting us as we don't want our baby to catch anything and also because we don't want to host a bunch of people, especially in a 1 bedroom apartment. Today my husband recieved a text from his mother, whom he has had a strained relationship with because of her decisions in the past and her continued mental issues. The text message she sent us started off with some questions about feeding the baby. Then she requested that my husband calls her when I go into labor and after the baby is delivered. Following this request she also asked if she could stay with us after we had the baby for 1-2+ weeks. My husband and I were shocked that she would request that and ask that as she hasn't really been involved with our pregnancy so far. It's also important to mention, she currently lives at his brother's house 2 hours away from us. She doesn't work, she just stays home all day and lives off him. She has also been known to jump around to other family members and live with them until they kick her out. I had my husband send a polite boundary setting message saying we will let her know when the baby is here and that we plan to just focus on it being us with our son when he is born. Is this rude of us?

AITA Looking for opinions here… my sisters believe it’s normal to share towels after you shower. We grew up never doing that, I am particularly clean and do not want to share a bath towel with anyone… when one of my sisters partners(M) came home for thanksgiving, they were confused with using my bath towel and didn’t think it was a big deal at all to use a towel I had indicated was mine… I freaked out because I noted before they showered that I am particular about my bath towels, and this happened a few years ago at thanksgiving which really upset me. Also want to add that our hygiene is different… both my sister and her partner do not always use deodorant and are comfortable with their natural scents being on the stronger side, including after exercise...am I wrong for wanting to use my own bath towel? And for not wanting to share it with people who have different hygiene than me? My sisters are both telling me I am wrong for feeling this way but I think this is very reasonable, if for no other reason than that I have expressed this boundary before. So, am I the asshole? Edited to add: The towel is not being washed in between.

My (24F) brother (20M) has been dating his girlfriend (24F) for about two years. My mom and I have never had a great relationship with her, but we’ve never been cruel, excluded her, or openly rude. That said, there are several reasons we’re uncomfortable with her. They originally met years ago at a grocery store where I also worked while in college. At the time, my brother was 16 and she was 20.. and she was his manager. One day she approached me at work and told me it was “weird” that I was hanging around a 16 year old so much, and that “he’s 16 if you didn’t know.” I had to tell her that he was literally my brother. I also didn’t know at the time that she was interested in him or that she was my age. She eventually apologized, but things have been awkward ever since. The bigger issue is that she waited until my brother turned 18 to officially date him, and then moved in with him one month after he moved out. He moved out in August 2023, and by September she had moved in and quit her job because she couldn’t be both his manager and his girlfriend. My brother has since admitted he feels obligated to “take care of her” because she quit her job “for him.” Two years later, she still hasn’t found a job because she can’t pass a dru/g test, so my brother has been fully supporting her while also paying his way through college. She also never leaves his side. She attends every family event, even when it’s inappropriate. Today was my grandmother’s funeral (someone she had never met) and she showed up high, reeking of Mary Jane, wearing see-through leggings and a stained T-shirt. During the service, her phone went off repeatedly because she wouldn’t silence it. People were grieving, and all you could hear was her text notification every few minutes. This isn’t new behavior. She regularly shows up to family gatherings smelling like that, barely acknowledging anyone, and staying on her phone the entire time. My mom and I have tried to be polite despite how rude she’s been, but today crossed a line. After the funeral, I told my brother that I agree with our mom: she isn’t good for him. I didn’t tell him to break up with her, but I suggested he stop bringing her to family events, especially after how uncomfortable today made everyone. He told me I was being selfish and caring too much about what the family thinks. Now I’m worried I may have damaged my relationship with him (and possibly both of them). AITA?

Made a new account because involved people are active on Reddit & I don’t want them finding my personal shitposting account. I’m a diagnosed narcissist & have been in therapy (by choice) for years. I was diagnosed at 16, now 28, still actively work on recognizing & correcting harmful behaviors. I was a bully in highschool & have since apologized in adulthood. I’m genuinely trying to do better & Reddit actually helped me recognize behaviors I needed to change. I have a new small friend group. The issue involves one friend, Tay F29. About a month ago, after I felt comfortable enough to say I was a diagnosed narc, Tay started questioning nearly everything I say with some version of “Is that you or is the narc talking?” This happens at least once per conversation & every time I’m left overanalyzing what I said wrong. In reference to an upset friend- Me: “That makes sense, I’d probably feel the same way.” Tay: “Do you really care or are you just saying that because you think that’s what you need to say?” In reference to Tay trying a dress she felt insecure about- Me: “I actually really like that color on you. It makes you look brighter.” Tay: “Is that your real opinion or are you trying to score points?” In reference to Tay getting a deserved promotion- Me: “You seem a lot more confident lately. Are you enjoying your promotion?” Tay: “Do you mean that or are you implying I wasn’t before?” Me: “I mean it? It was a compliment.” Tay: “Just checking it wasn’t the narc framing it as praise.” I asked her to stop. She dismissed me with “Just checking.” Other friends tried to get her to stop, but backed off, told us to work it out ourselves. Yesterday, we were pregaming at my place. One friend flaked on us last minute (again) & I said I was frustrated because it felt like our time wasn’t being respected. Tay said, “Okay, but are you reasonably upset or is the narc talking & feeling entitled to other people’s time?” I just snapped. I told her, “You wanna know something wild? I question myself constantly because I don’t wanna hurt people. I do it enough without you questioning literally everything I’ve ever said like I’m a fucking case study. Not everything I say is backhanded. You’re taking any progress I’ve made & keep throwing it in my face and I never gave you reason to. I’ve spent years learning not to be an asshole & you just keep finding ways to be a new one. I told you to stop, they told you to stop. I want you to stop. So, if you think every thought I have, every word I say, is manipulation then why the fuck are you still here?” She said that I was “proving her point” & “not as healed as I thought.” The night ended early & awkwardly. Our friends are split. Some think she crossed a line, others think I did. Most think I should accept more scrutiny because of my diagnosis, like I haven’t already years ago. My therapist is on vacation. So, AITA for snapping after being repeatedly asked if “the narc is talking”?

Look she’s great and everything, but everything has a limit you know?, I’ve bee friends with “Amy” since we were kids and now we’re both adults. But growing up with her I’ve been noticing she’s more male centered, like whenever we mentioned something small about ourself she will quickly change the subject about her and these Random’s guys she’s been doing it with.. like okay we get it..? She’s been like this since we were teens, when we hanged out with these guys to smoke I would see that she will flip her hair anytime one of them spoke to her and perked up a bit. No I don’t have any envy on her or anything I just think not everything you speak out of is about the men you slept with or used to have a Situation-ship with. Sometimes she will change her voice to all cutesy and everything, despise me just hearing her real voice like a few moments ago. I remember this one time I was talking to her about my problems and Amy changed the subject to all about her and her boy problems, I was stunned but I didn’t say anything. I don’t even know what to do, I want to be friends with her and everything but dude.. she owes me like a lot of money and dosent want to pay me back.

Sister who bought a gift for me post wedding, a branded hoodie(not cheap) size Small . I rather prefer Medium as it's fits a bit looesly rather than having it snug. She has no Reciept or provided a gift Reciept. Just expected it to be the correct size. Although I did find out that she asked about my size and was told I prefer it loosely fitted. She however ignored and still got the size she deemed correct in her mind as. I have spoken to customer services and they can't do anything without a Reciept or any kind. AITA If I ask her for a bank transaction screenshot as thats the only alternative that would allow me to exchange sizes. In UK this is acceptable. Mind you she is very private with regards to her finances and me asking for this might make her feel uncomfortable. Although, I'm a little annoyed she knew the size I like to wear for this particular garment.

Look, I get that everyone hates traffic just as much as the next person, but I can’t stop myself from dodging as much of it as I can. Nothing makes me more frustrated than sitting in a 100 car traffic jam and never moving because everyone else is just merging in, in front of us. What makes it worse is the fact that this usually happens during the last leg of a grueling, hours long drive and I’m just trying to get home 😭

This happened a Sunday at the mall where I was going to meet my friends. I stepped onto the escalator and then pulled out my phone to text my friend so he knew where to find me. While I had my phone out, an older man further down fell down to the bottom of the escalator. Someone stopped the escalator about a minute after. IIRC, I was about 20 steps up from the bottom. There was one guy in front of me who left his bags on the stairs to go down and help. By this time, there were about 4 or 5 people around him helping. I stood on my step for a good minute trying to decide if I should go down and do something. I ended up deciding that would become a "too many cooks" situation. So, I walked down, walked past the guy who left his bags and told him not to forget they're there (I operated here on the pretense that I shouldn't touch someone else's bags?) and to the baggage claim to meet friends. So... AITA for not helping the older man, or giving the other guy his bags?

I had a house party and all my friends were invited and my sister too, she was being loud and obnoxious but I leave her do her thing. Next thing she says that dogs like beer, puts beer in his bowl and he starts drinking it so happy, I thought it was funny at first since it was a little bit. Later through the night the dog starts barfing and smelling up the place and apparantly she's been showing all my friends and not just beer also wine and vodka cola (???!!) like I heard that from other people I would've stopped her, I don't want my dog to become a fucking alcoholic like her shit husband who wasn't there luckily. I told her to fuck off from my house and I'm sitting with my dog now he's like totally dazed, my friends think I overreacted since it was just a little bit they say but what comes over you to do that in the first place

For ages I have wanted a certain colour prom dress, one of my best friends in school also wants that colour prom dress. This colour is my favourite colour and hers is a different colour. I go to the prom dress shop and get a dress in the colour I wanted as so many said it was the best out of my options and that they loved it. Later on my friend texts me and is talking about how I shouldn’t have got the dress, I explained to her that I have wanted this colour for ages and have also told her for months before. We decided to agree to disagree after going back and forth with her saying I shouldn’t have done it and me trying to explain why but I don’t think she understood. The next she then acts completely normal and we just don’t mention it at all. I then found out from another friend that her and a different friend were talking about me saying I shouldn’t have done it and they don’t understand why I did it. Which I would rather the other friend just say it my face and bare in mind they all know I have wanted this colour for ages. We still don’t really mention it.

This is going to need a lot of context, and thankfully I can provide it. Just before this post, my brother (35M) asked me (27M) "hey kiddo, after you're finished your League match, can you come help me make dinner? We're going to do KD with hotdogs because I don't want to do anything super extravagant tonight. I'm in pain and would like the help. My jaw is killing me." My first thought was, "what does your jaw have to do with cooking?" and my second was "why does a 35-year-old man need help with Kraft Dinner and Hotdogs? Just cut up the hotdogs before you start and follow the directions on the KD boxes". I verbalized the second one, and added a tidbit. "I'm in a ton of pain right now too, in case you forgot. I currently have a herniated spinal disk. I haven't started my meds for it yet because I need to take them with food. No, I will not have to bend over, but the position I will be in while leaning over the counter will irritate the disk. I've also made this meal for us by myself before, so why do you need my help? I will still try to help as much as I can, but.. yeah, why?" He did not answer, and just stormed off complaining to himself as he normally does. So I ask, AITA here for asking him why he needed help with making dinner? I genuinely don't think so, but I want to know from all of you.

So, I’m(f28) a Saturday night waitress, I thrive on being slammed. I’m excellent at my job. My coworker, I’ll call her K(f35) is not as good, because she’s really slow and I often see her tables sitting for 10+ minutes before she even greets them. So I picked up a shift last night for another server, and I was working with K. Our shift lead, H(f21), is lazy/burnt out and wants to be cut as soon as possible, but she can only cut herself after the servers are cut. So she cuts me CRAZY early, I was only on for like 3 hours. Why have me come in at all? Anyway, she cuts everyone 2 hours before our closing time. So K, the closer, has 2 hours of serving tables purely by herself, and because it’s only 7 pm, we get our nightly “rush” which is only a dozen or so tables because it’s January. Keke is in the weeds, and the shift lead is sitting down on her phone. Because Keke is already slow, the tables are sitting there for 10, some 15 minutes before she even says hi to them. Most servers would have an order in at 5 minutes. So more people keep coming in, and she’s not taken the orders for the previous people, and it just gets worse and worse for her. By this time, I am already finished with my sidework and ready to go home, but I can see how poorly K is doing and I offer to jump back on and take tables. K says no, because K wants to make money from every table. But then K asks me to do all these tasks for her, which are basically serving her tables for her, for no money. Again I offered to jump on and take some tables off her hands, and she isn’t interested. So I clock out and leave because my side work is finished. Now a manager put out an announcement about “teamwork” this and that and it could just be a coincidence but I’m wondering if K complained about me not serving tables for her, and if I should be mad about it. I offered to take tables twice, I’m not there to buss or expo or anything else. AITA?

A few coworkers and I climbed a 14er together and sent out the invite to the whole groupchat in case anyone else wanted to join. We are all experienced climbers/hikers and are used to the altitude. We had one coworker express interest, who from our knowledge hardly hikes nor has ever done a 14er before or spends really any time in the mountains by choice. We were a little skeptical at first but were more so when we picked her up to realize she was wearing skinny jeans, a very thin windbreaker and a pair of beat up vans to hike. Def not one myself to have all "the gear", as I myself have never owned hiking boots due to personal preference. About 10 minutes into our 6 hour hike, she was falling behind, looking pale and clearly was not doing well. The group stopped to check on her and have her sit down to take a second. She said her blood sugar levels were low, only for her to open her pack and have only plain rice cakes and no water. She insisted that we keep going and she was fine. After some more time, she was looking worse and we told her that it was ok to go back to the car if she wasn't feeling well and a few people offered to go with her. She kept saying she was fine but was on the verge of passing out. After essentially arguing with her to go back to the car, she grudgingly agreed and went back. Thoughts??

Hi, I wanted to get some perspective here. We live in the UK, and my husband and I have two kids. My daughter is 10, and very driven, very intelligent, gets raving feedback from her teachers. She tells me she gets done with her work 15 miniutes into the class. I'm having her sit for 11+ admissions this year for grammar schools. I've been prepping her, she's doing well. These exams are super competitive especially for the best grammar schools, and we are out of catchment for some of them so that makes it even more competitive for us. So naturally I've set up a fairly strict regimen for her, and am pushing her. My husband thinks I'm not letting her be a child, and will sometimes try to swoop in and tell her its ok just relax. That makes me so angry like I know its ok, she knows its ok, we're just trying our best. She's so talented, and some of these schools are considered a pipeline to Oxbridge. It makes it seem like I'm an evil mother, and I've told him about this in private, and he says I care more about this than she does. But I care about it because I care about her, she's my daughter, I want the best for her. His sister's daughter also goes to my daughter's current school, and she's also been lamenting that her daughter will lose out on her cousin. First, my daughter and her cousin are not bffs, and also why is this supposed to be a factor. But my husband brings this point up in our arguments as well. I feel like I'm being criticized for wanting the best for my girl. AITA?

I (18f) have a gay best friend (17m). We’re very playful with each other and tease each other all the time. When i first got a boyfriend, he said something along the lines of “girl he’s fine, pass him to me when you’re done.” i laughed and we moved on. he recently got into a relationship with a very attractive guy from his college. he’s like 6’4, he plays football, and he’s really sweet. my best friend is fat, and don’t get me wrong, he’s a cutie, but his boyfriend is like.. on a model level of attractiveness. him and i were hanging out one night, and i said “your man is hot, give him to me when you’re done with him.” i assumed he would laugh, but he gave me a weird look. i said “girl he’s out of your league, i should be with him instead.” he got pissed off, and called me an asshole, and left.. i called him after, but he never responded, he never tried to call. i texted him apologizing, and explained that it was just our normal banter, and let him know that i never meant to cross a boundary and didn’t mean anything i said. this is his first relationship, and i’m worried that i might’ve fucked up my friendship with him.