Im a 33 y/o male and my now ex 28 y/o female carla had been acting off recently. In the same way she acted when she first cheated on me a year ago. Too many of the same redflags had arose. Protective over her phone, constantly on her phone, and always said she needed to go do these storm chasing meetings or promotions, spending sometimes 3- 5 days at a time with a bunch of guys i know nothing about but only that she cheated with one of them the first time. She recently broke up with me and had put alot the blame on me. After her gaslighting rant, i had the same feeling that she may be talking to another guy. Of course she denying ever talking to anyone. After a week passed i went to the house she currently lives in (We used to live there, i had permission from her grandma) was going to pick up my dehydrator to make jerky for our kiddo.Before entering the place i asked where my dehydrator was at so i could grab it. Inside door was open and unlocked, i walked inside. After finding what i needed i was about to walk out. Well in doing so i noticed no old pictures hung up except for pictures of clouds and 1 of her and this guy i recognized from her pictures of her storm chasing together. After digging on facebook it caught my attention that as long as they have known each other. They always stood together in photos which started to make more sense. Then i got a text from her telling me its not my house anymore and needed to leave, so i did but finally understood why she always had excuse as to why i could never go up. Thats where i may have gotten petty. I texted her im not sure why you dont want me up there, im not gona go around looking at your photos. After going back and forth about cheating on me again. She said to mind my own business. Ironicly that guy (drew) didnt seem to mind his own business. One way street i suppose. Continueing the more photos i seem of them together the more i got upset and hurt. What seemed like forever searching facebook i found out hes married with kids. Storm chasing is the perfect cover apperently to leave randomly with a bunch of people or just 1. Wasnt sure if i should let his wife know about the situation. I finally decided f**k it. Its the right thing to do. I did admit to her how much i knew and how but i dont know if it was the right thing to do. I get drew ruined my family. But was it the right thing to do the same to his? AITA?

So i live in a house with 4 rooms and we rent out rooms. The newest person the move in was originally fine with how rent and bills are split but as soon as the first bill is due they keep coming with complaints about the cost. Before I was in charge of collecting the bills someone else was and they would do it by room size or by person. So before it was about 550 for the 2 large rooms and 300 for the 2 smaller room and if someone stayed in the living room they were still charged 300. Then for a while it was 300 per person so if you had 2 people in the small room it would still be 600. Utilities were always split the same, divided per person. I was put in charge I kept the utilities the same but changed it to 340 per space since we have some one in the living room. The problem lies with the couple in the large rooms who have moved it recently. We let them move in a week into the month before they were going to move in with the promise they would pay what they owe with their next month rent. Now they're complaining they shouldn't have to pay for the first month and the person in the second largest room is agreeing with them since we let them move in early. Then they complained that they shouldn't have to pay utilities for 2 people since it's unfair that they're charged double then what everyone else is. As in let's say its 20 for eletric everyone pays 20 since all of us dont share a room with someone else. But since there's 2 of them the cost of them together is 40. Which they believed is unfair. When I first explained the all the bills they agreed but now that its time to pay they keep contacting the previous person who was in charge with complaints Even when I agreed to wave the first months rent since I didn't want to have to deal with it. they still kept insisting it was unfair. I am tempted to return to how the previous person charged since I know no matter what I do these people will just insist im being unfair to them. Every time someone doesn't pay their part I end up covering it which I've already covered about 2k for someone since they had a hard time and they're working on paying me back. But im not made of money and can't cover for everyone.

Hello. I am a 19F and I live with my brother 26M. We spilt the rent of a 2 bedroom apartment. But I am in a great place in my live. I have a fantastic job. I am ready to be living on my own. And I thought my family will be excited for me to be in a place financially that I can be on my own at 19. But all they said to me was how I vm an a-hole for leaving my brother. He is not in a place financially to be on his own. So am I the a-hole for wanting to move out and be independent? Or should I stay with my bother until he is finally ready to be on his own. The lease is up in 4 months. And I want to leave at the end of the lease.

I am male 20 years old still living with my parents. Every move I make is scrutinized and every time I show any for of independence or even character (like wanting to change my hair or my body) they have a problem with it. I came home one day with painted nails and my mom stopped me from walking in further into the house, forcing me to remove it before my dad saw. I can’t get tattoos, I can’t sing loud or anything… hell I can’t even use the blender because they don’t wake up till like 10am. I feel extremely shut in and watched and tired of being so fucking isolated and not allowed to explore things like dying my hair or trying new things. Dawg I can’t even get piercings. So would I be wrong by dying my hair and just showing up back home or FaceTiming them? I don’t want to dye my hair completely… just a few strands. I want to feel comfortable and confident and I’ve been waiting till I save up enough money to buy an apartment… but the dread of having to wait to even have a little bit of fun is killing me. So… help.

Today, my boyfriend (32M) and I (32F) went out running errands with our kids. We were using my car, and he was driving. We were mainly going to pick up orders for him at specialized stores. He has chronic migraines and isn’t sure what triggers them, but glare from the sun reflecting off wet pavement can be one trigger. While he was driving, I offered him my sunglasses so he wouldn’t get a migraine. When we got home and came inside, I noticed my sunglasses sticking out of his jacket pocket. I pointed it out and asked him to put them back in the car. He replied that he would just put them on the entryway table and that I could put them back in the car myself next time I went out. He said he had just driven for two hours and wasn’t going to go back outside just for that. I told him I wanted him to do it right away because it adds to my mental load, similar to when he leaves with my car keys, or when he takes my mittens and I end up without any. I also explained that when I leave the house, I usually already have my hands full with the baby, the diaper bag, etc. He replied that those situations only happened once, that the sunglasses weren’t a load, that I could just put them on my face, and that I was just trying to make a point at that moment. I ended up putting the sunglasses back in my car later, when I took the compost out after dinner, because I didn’t want to forget and not have them the next time I drove. While I was at it, I also put the grocery bags he had used that morning back in the trunk, threw a can away, that he had left in my car, and brought in our son’s snow pants that had been sitting in the car since he picked him up from daycare the day before... So, AITAH for asking him to put my sunglasses back in the car?

Literally the title. I (18F) don’t even know why this is an issue. I have been growing out my hair and trying cute hairstyles to experiment with my look, and wanted these cute hairclips from amazon to put in my hair. Nothing crazy, just a $5 set of tiny fingerpad-sized claw clips to clip my bangs and etc. I was going to buy them with gift money my grandma gave me for Chinese New Year, but my parents have amazon prime and get angry if I order things without consulting them and allowing them to question me about non-harmful things such as a refill of my face moisturizer. I have had such a stressful week and honestly just wanted to treat myself to something nice, so I go to ask my mom for the clips. Right off the bat she starts screaming at me about how I “already have so many hair accessories” (random hair accessories she buys me from the target sale section that I never wear that are pretty damn ugly) and that she doesn’t trust the 200+ reviews on the product. She screams at me to go to CVS and instead buy from there, but I tell her that I already checked the brand that CVS has and the reviews stink. I ask her why she doesn’t trust hundreds of reviews on an online product but trusts walking in to a store and purchasing a product with no idea how it performs. She ignores me and screams about how wasteful I am, how I need to leave her alone, how I need to stop arguing with her, etc. I don’t really know what I did wrong because she started screaming immediately. Also, I am literally a legal adult trying to buy $4 hair clips and I don’t really know why that’s an issue. So I buy them myself (with my own money ofc), and when the package arrives my mom just blows up. I get the same speech about my wastefulness and how wrong I was to go behind her back, but I just told her if she let me spend my own gift money this wouldn’t have been an issue. Also, I don’t really know why this purchase was a big deal because she orders so many random things off amazon such as RGB light up stud earrings that she wears once and breaks because she doesn’t read bad product reviews before buying lol. Was I wrong? I guess the only offense was going behind her back despite her saying no but I feel her reasons for saying no were flawed anyhow. My clips are very cute by the way I am wearing them as I type this and have been wearing them for the past week.

Last night and my sibling (non-binary) were having dinner alone separate from our parents. (We're both teens) A bit of context is that last week my father bought a family size container of ice cream for us all to share over a few weeks. My father had a single bowl then put it back. A day after it was bought I told my mother I couldn't find the new ice cream, she didn't have any either and didn't know where it was. I asked my father and he hadn't seen it. My mother and I hadn't even had a single scoop and my sibling ate the rest in one day. Flash back to today my father had given playful jabs at my sibling for eating an entire container. They didn't seem to mind. But then me and my sibling were eating alone and they got a large bowl of ice cream after dinner. I said "Wow, you eat so much ice cream." and expected an insult thrown back or a scoff. But instead they said "I know you're just trying to make me feel bad about eating" which wasn't true. Me and my entire family are on the chubbier side but I definitely didn't shame them for it, I'm chubby too. I got confused at the sudden seriousness of the situation. I was confused and asked what I said. They refused to explain because they were mad and upset. I don't get social ques so I didn't understand why the sudden shift in attitude. I explained what happened to my mother and she got mad at me too. So AITA?

Background context: I am 15(M) and met my friend 16(M) through my coding class at school. We had been friends for about 1 semester, game together on call when we have time, and I would say we have great chemistry together. I have started a food business for some money on the side to spend, since I don't get allowance. My family used to shop at Costco but since we only went a couple times back then, eventually they cancelled their membership and we stopped shopping at Costco. Now, lets go back a couple weeks ago, when my friend mentioned he had a Costco card and was going to shop w/ his family. I had met his dad once before and he seemed chill enough. So I asked him if I could tag along, if it was ok of course. He asked his parents and they were pretty chill about it, so I went shopping with them. After shopping I was going to play them back and realized I didn't have enough cash on me at the time since I had just started this business, but my friend covered me and said, "Hey, don't sweat it, pay me when you can!". So that was that. I do recognize that this was a shitty move to do, but I reasoned with myself that if I had payed back the original amount, it was fine, and so I did. HOWEVER, my mother found out and she was livid. So I payed EXTRA due to her telling me to, but it was ok since business was booming. Now flashforward about a month from that, and I was running low on supplies, so I asked my friend when they would go shopping next, and if I could tag along. I asked my mother, and this is the part where I was confused. Now my mom still believes in old values but has started to adapt slowly. When I asked her she said absolutely not. Since she only saw them and talked to them once and very briefly, she couldn't get a grasp on how they ran their household. (Mind you I have a pretty strict household due to some events in the past, but that's a story for next time.) Anyways she proceeded to shout at me to sit down and talked to me for 1 hour about how it was embarrassing for me to go with them. She said something on the lines of "Shopping is a very personal thing that you should only do with immediate family and it's parallel to doing laundry with them and showering with them. It looks like you're a beggar kid who's parents can't afford the membership, and they look down on your and probably feel bad for you." After 45 mins of this, I was tired of this and told her something on the lines of "OK, I get it" but she told me to sit back down and told me that if I wanted to go shopping with that family, the I should go live with them, and the only reason I want to go shopping with them is because I would buy everything I wanted instead of her nitpicking at it for only the bare necessities. I said this was true and she told me I betrayed the family. She them proceeded to buy a Costco membership and told me I had a shitty attitude. I understand her as i did. I tried to listen and remain calm but after an hour, I couldn't do it anymore. lwk wut u think

So last week my family went to a friend's house and my brother injured himself while playing football and yesterday my father injured himself while cooking. Today my family was going to another friend's house so I told my brother hey I hope so it does not happen and be careful to not injure yourself because according to the things last time my brother injured himself yesterday my father so now only you are left (only male left). My mother heard this and said something along the lines of "You are so stupid, you don't even have a brain" Am I the asshole for making this joke like I did not even wished something bad on him just told him to be careful in a funny way or at least I thought it was funny.

My hubby and my mother have birthdays just a few days apart, hubs suggested having them over for dinner to celebrate her birthday and his at the same time. GREAT! Invited my parents and all was good. Later in his mother asked what our plans are for his birthday, I let her know. Right off the bat I could tell she was either annoyed, or mad (maybe both). I asked if she had other plans and she said something along the lines of “you’re his wife it’s your responsibility now” (for context this is his first birthday since we got married). She is now pissed that “plans were made without them” I told hubs to talk to his mom and I’m done with her passive aggressive hissy fits (this is not the first, many were done, even about our wedding). He has not told me of any plans made with them, and I asked him that going forward he is to be in contact with his mother in regards to plans because I am tired of her pushing until she gets what she wants and ask that when she has these “episodes” for lack of a better word that he actually sticks up for me. I am made out to be the monster when it was HIS idea to plan it this way. He is only defending her saying she just wants to spend her son’s birthday with him. AITA for being annoyed at the both of them over this?! Keep in mind this is NOT the first, I have a mental list of all the times something similar has happened and he has not defended me in the slightest. Thank you!🙏

So me (17F) and my friend have been preparing for a really important college entrance exam for the past 2 years. It was a huge deal for both of us. We got the same exam center, which was about 1.5 hours away from home, and my dad volunteered to drop and pick us up. For context: my dad usually doesn’t like the passenger seat (next to the driver) being empty when he drives. He thinks it’s disrespectful if someone sits in the back while he’s driving alone in front. But that day, I was just really happy that the exam was finally over. When he told me to sit in the front, I asked if I could sit in the back with my friend just for that day and he said yes. On the way back, my friend and I were talking, laughing, making reels, just being excited that it was finally done. I’ll admit we weren’t exactly quiet, which probably wasn’t fair. But, my dad was listening to his music and podcasts, which he enjoys, so I didn’t think much about it. I barely spoke to him during the ride because I was caught up talking to my friend. It wasn’t on purpose. I wasn’t trying to ignore him or treat him badly. After we dropped my friend, he told me I was very selfish and rude. He said I treated him like a driver instead of a father, and that just because he allowed me to sit in the back didn’t mean I could ignore him and be loud. He was really pissed. There was heavy traffic too, which he said made it worse. He shouted at me the entire 20 minute drive home. Like literally shouting. It wasn’t just about me ignoring him, maybe about 60% of it was about the situation, and 40% was other things I hadn’t been doing right (which I admit were valid). But the intensity was way more than usual. He said a lot of mean things and really went all out. Usually when he scolds me, it’s toned down and shorter. This time it really hit hard. What made it worse was that my exam had just ended. He knows how much the past two years meant to me and how stressed I’ve been. I had just been feeling relieved and happy. I apologized multiple times that day and again the next day. I do understand that maybe it was a bit rude to ignore him and be loud. But I genuinely don’t think I deserved that level of anger or being shouted at for 20 minutes straight. He brought itr up again today and scolded me a bit today too. I still dont think I didnt anything very wrong, but he said that I can ask anyone, and that it is common etiquette and societal norm. TL;DR: I was celebrating the end of an important exam with a friend in the back of a car. I didn't acknowledge my dad who was driving, while going home. He later said I was selfish and shouted at me the whole ride home. I apologized but I dont think his reaction matched what I did.

Hey friends, got a small one for you. My friend just deleted his Facebook account, per his girlfriend he is going through a bad time right now. I've since checked in with him to make sure he is safe, which he is, though I didn't press for any details on what he is dealing with. We've chatted about stuff he's been going through in the past, and I know he'll reach out to me if needed. However, he wants to talk to me via text message on the phone. We send memes and jokes and talk nerd stuff to each other all the time, but I have yet to respond to his message. I'm thinking about whether I want to set a boundary of sorts. I dislike texting except for family and business, primarily down to preference but part of it is being agitated by either the constant notifications on my phone, or having to check it periodically with the absence of those notifications. I like using messenger on Facebook since I can also use it when I'm on my computer, which is a lot of the time. More time than I am on my phone, specifically. I would be more flexible in this regard for his sake if he hadn't deleted his Facebook profile a few times before in prior years, then hopped back online after a few weeks. I've been accommodating before, but this time I am more annoyed by it, and being expected to change my communication method because of it. Not only this, he has options besides going full scorched earth if he wants to be done with Facebook specifically. I mostly use Facebook for messenger, rarely actually going on the website proper, and if there is anyone I don't want to talk to I can block them. I know he can do the same. The other major reason that I am wanting this is because we are in multiple group chats together for planning activities and hangouts, one of which is a group I use for D&D. I'm the DM of our group, and thus I use the group chat to message everyone at once. With him not there, I then have to reach out to him individually, which in a vacuum I have no problem with, but as stated above I don't feel that he had to leave in the first place. It just feels frustrating for me to have to change a preference in my life when he had (at least in my eyes) reasonable alternatives to disconnect, plus the fact he has done this before. I'm going to be hanging out with him and some other friends tomorrow, and I am considering telling him that I am not going to respond to his messages unless he gets back on messenger. I don't plan to do this with the group, just 1 on 1. I am still perfectly okay hanging out with him and having fun otherwise. On the other hand, this is a 100% personal peeve that I have with the situation, and I would like a second opinion on whether it sounds reasonable. So please, let me know what you guys think!

My car was making a screeching sound. It was making me feel uncomfortable about driving home which would have been 1 hour and 45 mins. I found a mechanic near by and they said it was the rear break pads. Everything ended up costing $900. My wife yelled at me because I’m “getting stuff done without asking or thinking critically”. She said if it was her she would have driven home and researched more about it. Am I the asshole? I didn’t feel safe driving home.

Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I (22F) recently started modeling on the side in this new year. Throughout my childhood, I have always been on the smaller side, being quite thin and having a hard time developing a relationship with food. It wasn't until uni where I finally ate full meals and pulled myself out of destructive habits. Recently, I went to a friends house where three girls I will call Emma, Payton, and Kat (all 24F) were present. I used to be friends with them but we grew a part several years ago. At one point, I went to the restroom and came back to Emma, Payton, and Kat saying I was "too big" to start a modeling career. While Payton and Kat noticed I had come back and quit talking, Emma continued, saying that my waist wasn't small enough, I needed to be realistic, I am practically obese, and that I should be embarrassed that I am visibly trying so hard. I have never been the kind of person to judge someone for how they look, especially when I understand struggle can come from anywhere. However, in the moment I was taken a back and couldn't believe someone was calling me obese in a room full of girls who have always gone to bat for one another. We may have split, but I have always defended these women in other settings where people tried to bash them and hearing how they truly thought of me in that moment was heartbreaking. So, I said something hurtful. I told Emma that was rich coming from her seeing as she has gained 70 pounds since we have met and I have kept a stable weight. Payton and Kat looked horrified and left with her when she ran out in tears. The other girls present told me that it was deserved and that while it was rude, wasn't incorrect and they shouldn't comment on my weight if they don't want to hear it back. However, I feel guilty. It was a low blow and if someone had said that to me, I would be distraught. I have been getting texts, calls, and emails from Emma, Payton, and Kat saying I am the worst and I don't know if I went too far or not. And I can't wrap my head around if it was warranted or not. Other friends who have heard about it think that Emma had it coming since she had been saying this behind closed doors for weeks, and my family has shared the same sentiment when I told them. But again, the guilt is eating at me. So AITA? Do I owe an apology?

I was focusing on a build I was doing (in a game) and I asked my friend for help. Instead of helping, they keep asking to duel (fight) me in the game. I accepted for a few minutes and did what they asked. I won and then went back to building. They then said they wanted another. I said I couldn't because I had to focus on my project (which I had been procrastinating on for 3 years). They said then they didn't want to play even though they said they'd help (which they didn't.) They left and ghosted me. Am I the asshole for not doing what they ask?

AITA for taking my friend’s side? My friend, Erin, doesn’t get along with a friend (Lara) at our circle group of friends. Lara is a cheater, she used to live overseas and now she’s back in her own country due to visa issues. She cheated with a new guy, Henry, locally. She also has an ex-bf, Xavier, who is also Henry’s best buddy (they’re like brothers or something). Xavier still has feelings for Lara and tries to win her back. I don’t exactly know what happened but Xavier found out Henry is interested in Lara and they have a bro talk and Henry agreed not to pursue her (something along that line). Lara, of course, developed feelings for Henry, and they decide to date, behind Xavier and overseas bf’s back. This has been going on for 2 years. Both Xavier and bf still have no idea that Lara is with Henry. Lara is very good at keeping secrets. Other than the circle group of friends, nobody in the world knows about it. Now my friend, Erin, dislike her behaviour and confronted her about this. And so there is a tension between them and never get along ever since. Now, everytime there’s a big gathering, our circle will bring partners to the gathering. And Lara would also bring Henry. But Lara would demand everyone not to post any photos with Henry in it. Erin is a poster, she posts lots of photos on her Fb. Instead of individual photos, it’s more like an album with a bunch of photos in it. She may or may not think too deeply about this, and again because of the tension, she doesn’t really care about Lara. But my other friends think that Erin is being inconsiderate and trying to provoke war. So, is Erin an AH for posting photos with Henry in it?

I work crazy shifts as a nurse so I meal prep every Sunday for the whole week because I barely have time. It’s not fancy stuffs just chicken, rice, veggies, portioned out in containers in the fridge. roommate has been dating this guy (let’s call him Mike) for about 3 months. He started coming over a lot. At first it was fine. Then he started staying 3 to 5 nights a week. Still okay. But two weeks ago I came home exhausted after shift and opened the fridge to find all my containers empty. Mike had eaten my whole week’s food while my roommate was at work. He didn’t even ask. Just saw it got hungry and finished it. I was furious and texted my roommate to report this to her. She said sorry and that Mike felt bad. I told her it’s not about feeling bad it’s about not touching other people’s food without asking. Last weekend it happened again. Different containers but this time it was scoops from each. I lost it and told them Mike can’t stay here anymore and it doesn’t matter if he’ll do it again or not. It’s just how I feel at the moment. It’s got me so angry that I don’t want to go to work knowing he’s in the house anymore. My roommate didn’t take that seriously. Mike was still around and that made me feel so powerless like i dont have any authority here. Out of that anger and frustration i called my roommate’s mother to report this and asked her to tell my roommate to send Mike out. it was after that my roommate called me to talk about it. she said she thought we could just talk about it and reminded me the one time she went out with mike and got me dinner. she said i am making her chose between me and mike and now she’s giving me the silent treatment. She’s told everyone that I lost it over food. We could go separate ways if she chooses Mike over me but does this make me a good person? Have I overreacted?

A while ago my wife and I shared an Amazon prime account. A few times she’s mentioned she’d purchasing things for BIL but it would be paid from his account. I said cool. I recently tried to login and apparently the email for login is changed to something I don’t recognize and when I finally got in using wife’s login on phone, I saw purchases I don’t recognize going to different addresses. So I will be shutting down the account and removing my credit card without consulting my wife and will let her know after it’s done. Am an I asshole for doing this? I’m so disappointed. Update: I ended not canceling the account, just removed my credit card. So BIL can have the account now

I was travelling to a small U.S. city for a work trip and was there Tuesday-Thursday. I decided to stay an extra day to have some solo time without my team. I had been spending all day every day with them, for the work sessions, for meals, for free time, and after meals. It was a lot for me as someone who needs alone time to recharge. I already had a massage booked at a local spa so was going to spend most of the day out and about, and only really needed a room to put my stuff and sleep for the night. I decided to go to a hostel since it was MUCH cheaper than getting a hotel room and, like I said, I wasn’t going to spend much time in my room anyway. When I go to the hostel’s front desk, me and the attendant were making pleasant small talk and she was super appreciative that I had chosen the hostel. She pointed out the community room, kitchen, and a ton of food that was communal. I mentioned that I was leaving the next day and likely wouldn’t be using much of the amenities or community spaces, then asked for a private room with a private bathroom since I wanted the closest thing to a hotel room. She seemed offput by my request, but I know they had plenty of availability since I had called first to check. When she was leading me to my room, I tried to make small talk (which previously has been easy and pleasant), but she was totally silent and didn’t respond to anything I said. So, AITA for renting a private hostel room but not participating in any of the community offerings? I needed alone time an didn’t think this would offend anyone.

I(23) have been friends with A(24) for some months now, we’re good friends and very close but sth happened and she’s making me feel like maybe I don’t care about her at all. Just like I, she shares an apartment with a roommate who’s a year older than her and she’s been complaining that her roommate treats her unfairly, she doesn’t contribute to things, stays out late and a lot of other things she does to disrespect her. Whenever she tries talking to her roommate about this she shuts her down completely making her feel like a lesser person. Now the problem is she asked me to confront her roommate about all of this and I refused explaining to her that her roommate will only start respecting her if she stands up to her by herself. I don’t feel like it makes any sense for me to get involved in this, I have given her tips and told her so many things she could do to stand up for herself but she insists I confront her roommate because she will most likely listen to me more. Note: I’ve never met her roommate. I refused and told her she has to do it herself and she’s been giving me an attitude since then now I feel like I’m an asshole

Roommate has been seeing someone new. Really had to use the restroom this morning. Heard him and his girl moaning and stuff really loudly. Can’t tell if being like “are you having sex in the bathroom” is inappropriate. Just in the sense I don’t want them having sex in the bathroom. It’s a shared space. He has his own room. Just fuck there. It’s not that difficult

My grandma has been very cold and callous to me and my family since she found out our beliefs and how we want to raise our kids differ from hers. We’re ignored at family events or even outright told to leave by her. Now she’s on her deathbed, likely to pass this weekend, but she’s comfortable. I don’t want to see her because I fear we will cause her great distress in her dying moments, we won’t come to terms with anything, and we won’t make any sort of peace.

Recently I( a minor) gave one of my friends(a minor), five dollars as a Lunar new year gift. He accidentally left it on the school bus so my friend's "friend"(let's call this guy Paul) took it when my friend moved out of the seat. Someone else asked me if I had given my friend, money, because he saw Paul take it. We had a small argument but I personally didn't see it happen so I assumed that he just had five dollars on him. Yesterday when my friend got on the bus I asked him if he had lost the money I gave him. He checked his bag and it was gone. We confronted Paul on the bus and had a huge argument. I kept on demanding he give it back to me but he refused because it was my friends. I then said to give it to my friend but he didn't answer. We continued to have an argument and Paul said that he would give it to my friend on Monday. We all knew it was a lie since he had the money on him and could easily return it now. He then said that he was going to use the money for pizza. My friend got off the bus since it was his stop and Paul lied to me and said that he had given it to my friend when he left but I saw the money poking out of his pocket. I tried to take it out of his pocket since I figured it was mine before and he's refusing to give it back so I have that right. I kept on demanding he give it back but he refused for the reason that it technically wasn't mine. It was my stop but since it had gotten more quiet our bus driver could hear me asking him to give it back. I told the bus driver my story and that I would give it back to my friend on Monday. The bus driver had an argument with him and Paul kept on saying that it wasn't mine. The bus driver reminded him that there were cameras on the bus and there was evidence that I gave it to my friend and that he took it. The bus driver told him that no one was going home until he gave back the money. He hesitantly gave it to me. I understand that it technically wasn't mine anymore since I gave it to my friend as a gift but Paul had the chance to give it to my friend and refused. I didn't care about the money, I cared about the principle and doing the right thing. Yes, trying to take it from his pocket was a horrible choice but he's technically stealing so I thought it was fine. I'm not sure if I'm being the asshole here. Edited to make it easier to read since I used the word friend too much.

I (30 M, gay) am getting married soon. For my wedding, I’m getting my first custom suit, it’s a lovely sage green color, and fits me perfectly. I’m really excited to have this and plan on finding every chance I can to wear it. One of the times I planned on wearing it was for my best friend’s (30F) wedding in Europe next summer. I mentioned this to a friend and they said that the rules about rewearing wedding dresses also apply to wedding suits. Would I be the asshole if I wore it, even if some people think it’s tacky to wear?

Hello all! My wife (30) and I (38) have been married for a few years. We split chores and both of us are happy with the split. However, we recently moved into a much bigger house and both of us had to take on more chores, but I am growing more and more annoyed by the day by the poor nature my wife does her chores. Instead of putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher, she leaves them in the sink for me to put in the dishwasher, when she does laundry, she overloads the washing machine causing it to break, or adds too much soap forcing me to redo the entire load. If she does load the dishwasher, she does it in a way that will jam the machine (blocking the cleaning arms). We have a lid on our garbage bin in kitchen, instead of throwing things away and closing the lid, she leaves it so the garbage spills out of the lid (even if the garbage is empty), leaving me to actually put it in. If the garbage is full, she just keeps throwing stuff on top, causing it to overflow, the bag to rip, and leaving me to handle it. A bunch of stuff like this. I have spoken to her about this time and again, shown her how loading the dishwasher/washing machine incorrectly can break it, begged her to throw garbage in the trash, not just leave it spilling out or overflowing, even asked after a while if this was weaponized incompetence because I cant understand why this keeps happening, but she claims that she is trying her best and I am a jerk for expecting things to be done my way and its unfair to constantly correct her. AITA here, my wife is smart and I just cant understand how after this many times of asking and showing her over and over, these little things are still done so poorly.

look, this may be my over reaction or pettiness. I am friends with two people at my tuition, our friendship was strong and mostly started because we all shared the same surnames. I come to tuition earlier than the girls and keep a seat for them. our tuition is also kind of weird since they like to keep keep students compact and save space, so I have to be in constant worry that the teachers might make someone else sit in their place that I have to save for them. now recently they both come considerably late and rarely talk to me, I don't recall doing anything that might've upset them, I'm a quiet responsible person. just yesterday I had confronted one of the girls about being late and all and she said that she had to stay at the hospital for her grandmother. I stopped talking to her all together and stopped talking to the other one as well. today I sat alone on a very rare case, everyone else sat bunched up with their respective groups, and just as class started the two girls came and sat with me, they didn't talk to me at all and they would say "both of us are very smart" considering I didn't have beef with the other girl this was very heartbreaking for me, they didn't talk to me at all, not did I do the same as I have an ego as well, well is this a form of miscommunication or these two are assholes?

So, the 3 big pillar of why I do this post are \- he get mad because he has to repeat himself \- he get "mad" because I dont know something \- he get mad because lose (or die in-game) so, we would play a game, then I would ask something like "wait where are the \_\_\_", then he would proceed to say something like "oh its there" but "there" would not tell me where it is, so I make the MISTAKE to ask, "where there" making him mad and telling me im stupid because I dont know here there is for the second case, it would be something around the same as the first, I would ask where something is and he would say "are you kidding me, dumbass" because I wouldn't have looked very specifically in the corner of my screen to see a button and the third case is a bit more complex, we are playing a game, then I kill him with some stupid overpowered character, then he would get mad because he died, the second after, he kill ME with the same overpowered moveset over and over, other situations would be when I kill him and im at 1 hp and I would start saying things to rage bait, because I know hes better than me at the game and its just satire to say im better than him, but he would proceed to literally say personal attack against me? like "I didnt know you were bad at the game AND obese" like, its for no reason at all! im saying stuff just to mess around and he would directly use rhe stuff he know I hate about myself, and if I say that's hes mean he just say that I DO THE SAME when literally everything i do with him almost only revolt about not making him mad, even when I would say some meanish stuff I would laught about it to signal its not mean or not real so, for the help I need, I dont know what to do, he's my only friend i have that I can play game with, I really feel like I give too much for what he give in the friendship, I started being afraid to even ask question or explanation when playing with him, I dont know why he would be so mean to me, I dont ask question to make him mad? then why would he think I do. I dont wanna drop him because I would just end up alone on my weekend, I dont know why I cant force myself to say that its making me sad, do I even do anything to be an asshole (sorry if the post is slightly hard to read, im not 100% fluent in english)

I 19f share a bedroom with my sister 14f. She recently got a new bed so our mother took us shopping to buy new bed sheets. I bought some green ones with plants on, my sister chose purple. Her favourite colour is purple and she got her way when we had the room decorated years ago. Purple walls, purple curtains. Well I wanted to buy a green Valance sheet to match my duvet cover, my mother told me no because it wouldn't match the room. She wanted me to get purple or pink. I said no, that I didn't like purple and that it was bad enough sharing a bedroom that I can't decorate to my choosing but I wanted my bed to be my colour. She insisted on pink valance sheets for me and my sister so I told her fine, I would buy the green one myself. She then called me a cow ect and said that I ruined everything and to go put the pink ones back and buy two green ones. I said I didn't want to match my sister, I wanted my bed to be my own since the rest of my room wasn't. I ended up buying the green myself and the purple for my sister because she didn't even want pink either. We caused a small scene in the shop and she is now giving me the silent treatment. My mother is emotionally immature and I'm her least favourite child, middle child but oldest daughter, and she loves to argue with me. Am I the asshole?

My aunt F(43) who is well known and respected by so many for her strict and high handed style is someone I really admire and respect a lot. Growing up I always loved how everyone was always in their best behavior whenever she was around, she was a no nonsense person and never tolerated any form of disrespect. I’m M (25) a creative and fashion enthusiast who is overly passionate about his work, style and appearance. The nature of my work requires me to look really good, keep up with modern day fashion trends especially because I’m required to model from time to time. I won’t even hide the fact that this has been my source of income and how I’m able to provide my basic needs. Recently I ran into my aunt at a family function and she wasn’t happy that I had dread locks on and she wanted me to cut them off instantly at that point. I tried every possible way to explain why I had to go on dreads, and how it aided my fashion and aesthetics, she wasn’t ready to hear an explanation from me so unfortunately I told her no and I wasn’t going to cut off my dreads because it’s a part of me and a symbol of my work. It’s how I’m able to earn and provide for myself without depending on anyone. AITA?

So me and this guy have been “talking” for a little over a month now. We both live with our “families” (I live with someone else’s family. He lives with his) so I stay the night at his house. I have been for the last 3-4 weeks and I’ve obviously met his parents and hang out in his living room when I’m there. I stay through the whole week every week and go home to work on weekends. We’ve gone on a road trip together once as well. He still hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend. I did ask him already the dreaded “what are we” and he said he didn’t know yet but he likes me. I did ask again about a week later and asked what his plans here were and he said “if I keep asking him it’s gonna push him away”..What should I do? Keep waiting? (I know this isn’t the right place to post this but it won’t let me post it anywhere else unfortunately)

I got received in one of the best schools in USA. I was relieved, finally a place that acknowledges my talent. I am one of the best debaters in my field. Some articles even praise my speeches. I hold onto my talent dearly, because it defines me. It's who I am.So, i went to that so-called "prestigious" school. But the first day, in front of me, spread across the reception room, was a group of strange looking people : A girl with pink hair, a guy in a wolf costume, even a guy with a weird beanie staring intensely at me. Iwas confused ? Are these creepy sorts of people really attending the same school as me ? A pink-haired boy even tried to seduce me. Sure, he's not that bad-looking. But, he's some sort of influencer thing. I just said that i wasn't very "in the mood", and to find an employee for his questions. Then, the first day, i made a speech. It was a weird first day.All of us had to uncover the "culprit" of a Cluedo-like game. Obviously, i led the group. My relevant analyses and comments even helped to finish it earlier. Itook that opportunity to make one of my speeches while everyone was doing nothing particular. There was just that pink-haired girl, who was "trying", if it's even acceptable to consider what she was doing a "try", to say some nonsense things about friendship and cooperation. Then, i interrupted her. said that, even if some people there were competent here, most students were just dullards obsessing over some pointless hobby. I personally consider that my talent is an asset for our society ; theirs doesn't contribute anything of worth. Basically, that the only thing they're capable of is leeching off public attention for their own goals. (I said it more diplomatically, but it was the main idea).Since then, everyone has been laughing at me. I conclude that it was jealousie and projection. I know the truth can be rough sometimes, maybe i should have phrased it differently. I just sincerely think that they have to understand the worthlessness of their hobbies, i want them to be useful for our society, to help them to stop their denial and childish phase.

I (24F) have an older sister, “Claire” (31F), who has two kids (5M and 3F). I love my niece and nephew, but my sister has always treated me like the “free babysitter” because I’m single and don’t have kids. For context, I’m currently working full-time and studying part-time. My schedule is packed, but Claire constantly assumes I’m available. She’ll text things like, “Hey, dropping the kids off at 6!” instead of actually asking. When I say I can’t, she guilt-trips me about “family helping family.” Now here’s where I might be the AH. Last weekend was my birthday. I don’t usually throw big parties, but I planned a small dinner with friends. Claire knew about it weeks in advance. The morning of, she texted me: “Can you watch the kids tonight? Mark and I got last-minute concert tickets!” I reminded her it was my birthday dinner. She replied, “Oh right, happy birthday! We’ll celebrate another time. The tickets were expensive.” I told her no. She then asked if she could just “bring the kids to the restaurant” and I could “keep an eye on them” while still celebrating. I said absolutely not. She ended up not going to the concert because she couldn’t find another sitter. Now my parents are saying I overreacted and that birthdays “aren’t a big deal after 21.” Claire says I’m selfish and don’t understand how hard it is to be a parent. I feel guilty because I know parents rarely get nights out. But I also feel like I’m constantly expected to sacrifice my time, and this was literally the one night I asked for myself. So… AITA for refusing to babysit on my birthday?

i'm in college living with roommates, lets call her "c," is making me feel like i’m losing my mind. we are both Muslim, but our backgrounds are polar opposites. when I met her, she was the "ideal" religious daughter- she wore the hijab, ankle-length frocks, almost no makeup, and prayed five times a day. ive never been that religious; i don't wear the hijab, and my style is heavily influenced by kpop: makeup, skirts with stockings, and cute oversized fits. at first, the copying was subtle. she started asking for makeup tips despite previously bragging about being a "natural beauty." then, she started leaving her hair open to class, a huge shift for someone who claimed the hijab was her entire identity. when i felt depressed and started wearing my hair in a bun, she immediately switched from wearing hers down to tying it up too. after vacations, she returned with clothes that looked exactly like mine, even buying a lavender jacket because she knew it was my favorite color. the behavior turned competitive during a shopping trip for demon slayer magnets. i introduced her to anime, but suddenly it was a "race" to find our fav characters. the moment i decided against buying them, she dropped hers instantly, saying they "wouldn't be helpful," proving she didn't even want the item, she just wanted to beat me to it. the most hurtful part involves my hair. i begged her to get bangs or a haircut with me; she refused, saying she loved her long hair. then, she went home for vacation and cut it to the exact length i had planned, blaming the barber. when I finally got bangs, she refused to compliment me. while my other roommate was supportive, c stayed silent. a week later, she told our roommate she "suddenly" wanted bangs too. it’s a cycle, she refuses to acknowledge I look good, then does the exact same thing a week later. her insecurity is becoming toxic. when a stranger complimented me, she ignored me for two days, later admitting she felt "ugly" because the stranger didn't notice her. she even suggested I only "like people who call me pretty," which felt like total manipulation. now, she’s buying the exact products i mention wanting (like my kajal) the very next day. she even wants a corset now. how does a girl who flaunted "modesty" suddenly jump to corsets the moment she sees me in one? she claims she’s "scared" of being judged for her hijab here, but it feels like she’s using my identity as a costume because she’s too afraid to find her own. during "Truth or Truth," i admitted i dislike unoriginal people who copy others. she immediately asked me, "do you hate me?" followed by, "i don't even do that." the gaslighting is real. i said "no" to keep the peace because I hate confrontation and know my other roommate would make me the villain, but i feel like im suffocating. i feel like my entire personality is being harvested by someone who doesn't even like me enough to be happy for me. i feel like i'm losing my mind. AITA? EDIT: i don't want her to compliment me. its a rule she brought up herself. once i didn't compliment her new rings and she got mad at me asking why i didnt compliment it. after that i started complimenting her each time, but the reciprocation from her side kept reducing. what am i expected to feel ab this? ALSO HER PARENTS NEVER FORCED HER! she wanted to wear the hijab herself and would subtly insult people who wouldn't, only to eventually go on and do the same, which is what i cant wrap my head around. i'm a person that myself comes from a background where my parents forced me to wear hijab etc, which is another reason i do not get why she acts this way! you can be urself and dress however you want without judging someone else!!! once i bought a top and she questioned me asking how ill wear it and that it wont look good, only to later on ask me where i got the top from! this isn't insecurity anymore its toxicity (which i realized, the more i read the comments) and i also suggested bangs for her cus i thought she'd look cute in it! she declined and said she wants to have only long hair, only to later cut it short during vacations. then when i cut my bangs, one week later she said she wanted to get bangs, and mind u the salon is like 40 mins away. to avoid this exact circumstance, i told her to get them w me directly. but as always things went this way which frustrated me! not only do you disacknowledge my hairstyle after expecting me to compliment u each time, but u also wanna copy it a week later instead of just doing it when i told u to do it.

Throw away but I need some advice on this. So my partner let’s call him Henry gets up for work each day at 5am I do not need to be up until 6.30. Each day he snoozes his alarm several times which leads to me waking up when his alarm goes off. Sometimes I can get back to sleep after but here is where I feel frustrated. Our toddler’s 15months room call him Alfie is next door to us and we are so lucky he is a good sleeper - that said - Henry at 5.30am doesn’t get his things ready the night before so proceeds to open and close several drawers (this morning 12 times) which is loud looking for various items though he does this with the light off it makes a lot of noise. When I whisper can you please be quiet so the baby doesn’t wake up - he often speaks at a normal volume very irritated and tells me he’s going to work and I’m causing his aggravation. The noise he makes with the drawers and the several alarm snoozes often the toddler up before he needs to wake up meaning I also need to wake up sometimes an hour earlier. The older child 6 Hunter has told me he can hear daddy in the morning with the drawers and this often wakes him up early - he has ADHD and I can’t leave him awake alone once he comes down from his room to ensure he doesn’t do anything dangerous. I have asked him to please get his clothes ready the night before so I don’t have to wake up this early - I do this for everyone else and don’t feel I should have to do this for him too. I even times wait for laundry to be done for my son’s uniform or football kit to be done for the next morning whilst he goes up to sleep. FYI we both work full time and get both the children ready each morning and do two drop offs en route to work. On the weekend I often get the children up early even when I’m working so he can have a lay in and never wake him up when I do. He moans his stuff isn’t organised but again I do this for me and the children I think he should organise his own things. Am I being unreasonable to ask he gets his own things ready the evening before so at least he’s not opening and closing several drawers? Is it unreasonable to ask that he doesn’t snooze the alarm so many times. I’ve suggested a vibrating alarm he wont charge it and use it. This situation can often lead to arguments he really thinks I’m being unreasonable I think it’s being quite inconsiderate so AITA? Edit: he does not have ADHD - I do and also ear plugs would not be an option because I am the one who gets up if the children get up in the night because he is a heavy sleeper. Our eldest still wets the bed 3-4 times a week though we have a bed wetting alarm and other waterproof bedding night pants etc he still needs to be changed. I know he doesn’t like getting up in the morning. When he is on call he does sleep on the sofa so the calls in the middle of the night do not wake me and the children up.

AITA: I live with my boyfriend and his brother. It is a pretty chill living situation for the most part…except when I have guests over. His brother always includes himself without asking. I’m gonna be honest he’s not my favorite person, he is lacking in social skills talks about people nobody knows like we should, talks over people, doesn’t listen and makes every story about himself. Tonight I had 8 friends over for a night of grilling and hanging out. We bought nice steaks, I made fresh bread, sides and dessert. He completely inserted himself into the entire evening without even asking and even sat down and got himself food. It’s so awkward. My friends are not too fond of him either..bc the way he acts he’s not a bad guy just a little socially inept. When he has friends over I give them space and don’t linger or eat their food and honestly I don’t want to hangout with them anyways. I feel bad for not wanting him around we are just very different and I don’t think the way he does things is appropriate. I would be less annoyed with the situation tonight if he has at least asked to eat. How do I set a boundary with him nicely? EDIT: for context we all equally pay the same amount in rent. We do not share meals and had an issue with this early on and then set that boundary. We all moved into this house at the same time.

I was in a shopping mall with my mom, we were waiting for my brother to finish his haircut. We had like an hour of time. There was a playground in the mall, so we went there. In the playground there was a thing where you could play tic tac toe, like those blocks that you can turn around. I asked if my mom wanted to play tic tac toe with me. We were minding our business, playing tic tac toe, and suddenly kids came up and started playing with the tic tac toe thing, just hitting it, twisting it, etc. I started to get annoyed so I told them to stop. The mom of one of the kids came up and started yelling at us in French. She told us that they are just children and we didn't want to start a fight, so we walked away. The kids were like 2 and 4, they dont know how to play tic tac toe. But the children were just running around, all they wanted to do was just hit things. Meanwhile, me and my mom were literally playing the game as we wanted. Yes, I know we are adult-ish and we dont belong in a playground, and the kids were just playing, I understand that. But I feel like this should be an opportunity for the mom to tell their child to wait their turn and say something like: "Hey look, those people are playing a game, maybe you could wait until they are done". I feel like the mom should teach their kids respect. So, am I the asshole for telling them to stop?

I was talking to a girl for a while, she would talk to me about her life, both good and bad. We became good friends fast, we went on call often talking for hour often over games. One night we finally told eachother we both like eachother, I was thrilled and we continued our talk for a while until we both went to bed. When I woke up I was terrified, idk why but I was suddenly terrified of being in a relationship. I instantly messaged her saying I wasn’t ready, she responded quickly but I let the message sit for about an hour. When I opened it she kinda understood but just wanted to try to keep the friendship.(if you didn’t think I’m the a hole you Probaly will now) I said no I was too embarrassed and proceeded to block her on all social media. I’m pretty sure I know the awnser but I’d like to hear what other people think.

My (28M) sister (25F) has come to me asking for advice on multiple occasions regarding a guy in her life who is extremely toxic. Treats her like she’s temporary and disposable, gave her a lifelong STD, keeps her around when convenient. She can’t kick her obsession with him. She also slept with his brother, the other “good influence” she talks about to my parents. In a recent conversation I had with my mom she mentioned something about “oh thank god your sister has those 2 friends who are great influences for her…they seem like gentleman that she can count on in life.” Me, being the caring and concerned older brother I am, told my mom that those boys may be the 2 people that have caused her the most damage in her life thus far. My mom was shocked. I gave no further details. My mom doesn’t even know she is romantically involved with them. The one brother has no idea that she slept with the other out of spite. She’s in a very plateaued phase in her life. We live together and she always lying to me about where she is, what her future plans are in life… I asked her to watch my dog while I was gone for a weekend and as soon as I left she brought another guy over (not one of the 2 I mentioned) and my dog, being a reactive puppy, freaked tf out. Before I left I told her that it is very important to me that my dog is well taken care of, which is why I was paying her. I told her to walk him daily… she didn’t walk him at all, poor little guy only poops on walks. Smh she even turned off the Wyze camera I set up to monitor my puppy as soon as I left. She didn’t think to turn off the second Wyze camera I had which is how I knew what was going on. Either way I showed her patience and didn’t even get on her about the ridiculous decisions she’s making sleeping around. I finally moved out yesterday and on my way out we got into a discussion in which I basically blew up on her for being a selfish sister and only worrying about herself and her fun times. I told her that her priorities were all messed up. I also told her that I told our mom about her2 “friends” she always talks about and how they aren’t good for her. I think I reached a point where I was tired of being lied to by the person I cherish most in my life. AITAH?

I threw a crabapple at my roommate Ramon and he got mad at me while we were walking down the forest and it was very hard. Am i the asshole I thought it was funny. he yelled at me and told me to stop and i was like damn. but looking back it was pretty funny so i’m not sure

AITA To give some detail before I start: My husband is in charge of dishes and trash his only 2 chores He can't eat meat today due to lent, I do not have that religious restriction I left to go do some shopping and asked my husband to defrost the seafood in a colander. I'm still shopping and its two hours later and he calls and he hasn't done it. no problem it doesn't take long I was wrong on the length, je read the bag on how to defrost it and it would need to be used immediately and I was still checking out. I come home, he's playing a video game online with his friend. I go to the kitchen, the sink is full of dishes I have no room to put a colander to defrost the seafood. I tell him hey can you please tell your friend you'll call him back and please come do the dishes or clear the sink so I can make dinner. He just says No, he just downloaded this game and just got started with his friend. I ask him to tell his friend you need to go because they don't need to hear this and I'm very upset. I'd been doing the dishes during the week while he hadn't it'd been building up and a frustration. When I got upset with him he said "I was just kidding, I was going to do it" and went on that he just likes it/thinks its funny when I get mad. During all of this he has not paused his game, has not muted his friend despite me asking. I got upset that if he wanted to get up and do it why hadn't he etc. The entire time I'm arguing he is chuckling and smirking behind his hand. He's not taking me seriously the entire time, which infuriates me more to yelling. I'm not proud I yelled but thats why I'm posting. I asked if he was going to get up and just goes I'll go when you're done meaning when I'm done arguing. I tell him this isn't funny, I don't know why you think its funny to see me mad or to make me mad on purpose I don't like the stress. Why would you want to cause me to be stressed and angry? Still continuing to smirk and laugh softly. (I felt so belittled) I said I'm done now (talking as he mentioned earlier), and he tried to get up to give me a hug with a look on his face like he was comforting a kid. I told him I wasn't asking for a hug I was asking him to get up off his butt to do what he was supposed to. I told him I wasn't cooking and I was going to go out to eat and he said he'd just order something. I stormed out and went to a restaurant. I've calmed down a lot since and now I'm wondering, did I overreact?

Context 1: My sister has not lived at this house (Previously my father's, which I have lived at for 20 years) for over 5 years since moving out but some of her belongings are still here. She lives very far away (6 hour+ coach/ tube/ train). My sister is 2 years older than me. I am 29, she is 31. Context 2: My dad recently passed away from cancer; he was bed-bound in the last week at home and was losing lucidity. Couldn't eat or talk because of the tumour on his tongue. During my dad's last week of life and passing, my sister: - Offered my dad a spliff in his last week of life. (He was already on morphine and had gone cold turkey in the last few weeks on smoking for 40 years due to his health); I felt this was entirely inappropriate. - Told me to hide my dad's money away from his siblings/ be secretive about it. - Started an argument with me saying "Dad's care comes first" (When I had been looking after him ever since he fell ill), called me mentally unstable (But she had drank 10 bottles of wine and half a bottle of vodka in her 5 days of staying) - Wanted me to neglect myself by not eating Additionally during the funeral arrangement process: - Didn't confirm any details with me about my father's funeral (Had an entire 4 weeks to tell me anything), No information was given except the date, time and place. - Lied to me saying she paid for it (When her mother had paid for her half) - And took them both 5 days to reach out to say this - Was speaking to my mother (Which my dad didn't want and kept his health omitted from her - Separated for over 23 years) - Said she was in debt when she paid for her half (which she never was) and gave me the impression she needed to be paid (Which I did), but she used to pay for the remainder of the funeral which I could've paid for myself. On the day of the funeral: - Didn't talk or communicate with me - Invited my mother implicitly through a facebook post to notify everyone of the date of the funeral (Which I sent an email to her to not attend), and still did anyway. - Didn't sit next to me in the Limousine and blanked my dad's siblings. - (When we arrived back at my dad's home) Went through my dad's possessions without me being present or asking for consent. - Told me that everything is supposed to be split between just me and her (Deliberately excluding my dad's siblings) I am currently in the process of putting all of her belongings into boxes and giving them to my neighbour for her to take but ***I am not*** letting her back in the house after this. Given the furtive behaviour with trying to hide the money, uncalled for behaviour of not giving me information about my own father's funeral, going through his possessions, lying to me about paying for things and the other aformentioned things... Am I the asshole here for not letting her back in the house? It seems evident but I just don't see a reason to trust her anymore.

I lived in a college house with 3 of my life long best friends. We moved in fall 2022, and moved out summer of 2024. The end of our lease for the 2024 year was the end of July, well, life got in the way. My mom had a bad stroke in early June 2024, so I immediately found someone online to sublease my room. I moved back home to take care of my mom thankfully because my family was close. My friend (or at least thought was my friend) completely debunked my family situation and used it as a business opportunity. He decided he wanted to move out too since I was moving out so he found someone online to takeover his lease as well. Well, his guy said he needed to move in as soon as possible because he was in a terrible situation. So, he tells the guy he can move into my room if he pays him (my friend) the rent. He profited off my expense at a time where I was at an all time low, and paid two months of rent upfront (which was a lot for a college student) just so I could get out of my lease and move home to take care of my mom. He told me to my face he did it, bragging about it in a sense, which really set me off. I confronted him saying that was completely wrong and he has no respect for me given what me and my family were going through. His response, “it’s not like he’s living there for free”. I said you’re right, because you just made money at my expense. His response, “it’s not my problem you moved out early to take care of your mom”. Those words alone still boil me to death to this day. But, I ended up dropping everything and letting it go to preserve our friendship. My parents weren’t happy, I wasn’t happy, but I didn’t want to lose a long time friendship. Fast forward a year later (this summer 2025) I bring it up to my friend group to get their opinion. I kept everything internal for a long time, but this time I didn’t let up. I told my friends everything, and they couldn’t believe it. So, they completely went after him in our group chat. He was out of the country at the time, so he felt completely defenseless. He called me saying I should’ve never blind-sided him and ruin his integrity in front of our entire friend group and sabotage him when he had no say. Well, my response was “Why didn’t you respect me enough to apologize for what you did one a year ago at the time of the event”? He sort of just avoided the question and balled his eyes out over the phone and said he never wants anything to do with me ever again, and we haven’t spoken since. Personally, I don’t think he ever had individual respect for me, but broke when other people got involved. I say this because he paid me instantly, then called me to say I’m the problem. I’m just curious to hear others’s opinions on this situation.

Yesterday I got removed from the local community WhatsApp group chat… it was only 48 hours old, and I was there from the start. The group was supposed to be a criminal alert system because we’ve got major crime going on with dirtbike riders in balaclavas robbing the community at knifepoint in broad daylight. The group started to go off topic really quickly. Someone suggested starting a side group chat. The admin said “I can not offer a general group chat here at this time as it is too much to manage within one group.” So I stupidly created one without his permission. I added him as a member only out of respect, but I do see now that I should have asked his permission first. Other members had to “like” my comment IF they wanted to be added. THE ADMIN REMOVED ME IMMEDIATELY without warning or explanation. Even after I sent him an apology, he did not respond. JUST NOW he made an “announcement” (which I can still see as I’m only removed from the group I guess). The announcement says “If you or anyone of your family members are identified to be involved in any type of criminal activity you will be removed and blocked without explaination.” Out of the 80 members I’m the ONLY ONE that has been removed!!! It also says “You are welcome to private message me to arrange a meeting 'face to face' to discuss it.” but I honestly don’t want to meet him after being humiliated just for trying to help. I am beyond embarrassed, especially even more so now that this announcement has been made. Am I really the asshole just for creating another WhatsApp group chat? I only added approximately four people before I was removed and there wasn’t any conversations happening whatsoever. This feels so bad. I am a mother of 11… not a criminal… but now 79 community members who can see that I’ve been removed from the group, who now see that announcement are left to question my character. I feel so sick to my stomach. I wish they knew that my eldest two couldn’t be a part of the crime not just because of their upbringing but because they are severely disabled… my second eldest is still in diapers… he can’t even speak let alone organise crime.

I (22M) have a little brother (17M) who’s constantly walking all over me. When we were little, I had a toy that he destroyed & he got away with it because he was only 2 years old at the time, this is where the chaos started. My brother has always been manipulative, everything he did wrong? My parents blamed me because he was the younger one. My grandmother got me a specially painted piggy bank with my name on it, my brother crossed out my name & wrote his with sharpie, of course he got away with it. I had a $10 bill that he ripped, then when he found the ripped end, my dad paid him a replacement $10 bill because he found the other end. When Splatoon was coming out, I wanted to play it, but he wanted to play it himself so he licked the disc so no one could play it. FF to when the 3DS eShop closes, I buy a lot of the games on my green New 3DS with my money I earned from work, he gets like, 2-3 games with gift cards. He wanted it he 3DS all for himself, so he buys an orange New 2DS behind my back then says “this is yours, I get the green one. Don’t worry, I’ll mod the 2DS for you.”, I dont plan to-touch the New 2DS until he hacked it, which, he never did. I never even said yes to the orange 2DS, he did that without me ever letting him, I kept telling him not to. 2-3 years later and it’s now today, he still never modded it. I repeatedly ask him when he’s going to do it, he says he will but still hadn’t. Today, he accused me of losing the stylus for the green New 3DS. I explain to him when I last played it, the stylus wasn’t even there & that he’s doing this as I’m doing a complex task at work & let me work. He then texts me I’m never to use the green New 3DS ever again & that I can only use the 2DS & to mod it myself. I don’t find out about this until after I get home from work, so, I hid the green New 3DS from him & gave him the orange New 2DS & told him “all this over the stylus? I’m not being walked on anymore, this is yours now. The green one is mine, you can’t play it anymore. Everything on there was mine anyway.” Was ITAH?

ok so i have been best friends with a girl same age as me since we where babies when i turned 13 tho our friendship ended over something kinda stupid imo for a short summery i had sent a song to her and she played it in front of her mother and apparently it had one cuss word in it they are very strict and religious (they are christian) the very same day her mother contacted mine and said that i have been bullying her and how im not a good infuence pretty much they spectilated that i was gay and liked girls ...i dont im happily in a relationship with a wonderful guy but at the time this happened i had no intrest in guys so i understand where they where thinking i was into women but they agreed ( our folks) that we would only calll if we wanted to talk so no misundertanding can happen again the very next day later i was talking to my friends / cousins in a gc she is also in this gc and then "she" sent a very long mgs saying how i have bullyed her been rude and not one of god not to mention how our folks told us not to talk again keep in mind my mother never agreed to this and this was never talked about and so on this is the short summery this mgs was massive and there was a lot of things in it when i saw it at first i was mad and was typing a responce but then i had just gone to my mother and broke down telling her everything that happened she was pissed and a lot of things happened that day for starters she mgs my friends mother asking what was this and that this was not agreed apon but the mother said she didnt want her child to be bullyed and that shes seen our mgs and how im a bad friend and how she says i am gay this women then addmited to the most crazyest shit ever she apparently had been reading our mgs AND responding as her daugther whenever she wasnt there and no she never told me hey this is your friends mother SHE RESPONDED TO THE MGS LIKE SHE WAS MY FRIEND in hindsight i should have relizd something was off since at times her mgs where dry or just weird keep in mind this is a 13 year old friendship i have memories of sleepovers at there house and so on its just still amazes me how all of this started thanks to one song years later i am now thinking of her and her mother since i have heard things from my own mother about how my friend doesnt want to drive and so on keep like not even wanting to go to collage i honestly feel bad for my friend ik she didnt say any of the hurtful mgs shes always been kind and understanding its just her mother is idk they baby her and shelter her im just worried for her future and i want to make things right at least try to befriend her again but idk how to or where to even start knowing her mother she will prob do something like she did before when we where kids any advice would be greatly apprecated i have aready posted this before but im thinking ill get more adivce on here why im asking if i am the a hole is bc i might have been to loud or rude on accedent i am normally very polite but around friends i can make jokes and so on so maybe i did come off a bully idk i cant think of any situation where i have but im worried for if i do contact her what if she hates me and so on idk i just miss my best friend i use to tell her everything and we got along so well

I (22M) have been talking to this girl(F25) for a while, and lately things have been really frustrating. For the past 2–3 weeks, we’ve barely spoken each day. It’s a long distance relationship and we haven’t met yet since we live two continents away. She often complains and has a pessimistic outlook on life, even when problems might be solvable. I try to support her and be there, but sometimes she snaps at me just for trying to help, probably because I’m the person in front of her at the moment. I was once told “just quit your fucking therapy shit i don’t want it” for trying to have a positive outlook to her situation and trying to cheer her up. Wasn’t the first time she has snapped at me unreasonably Yesterday , I was having a rough night, i couldn’t sleep, since i was feeling unproductive for a week, mentally exhausted and very distant from her since a while and i was trying to be vulnerable and open up to her and I told her I felt like shit. I told her that I got a job and I don’t feel happy about it maybe cause i keep raising the bar for myself and its something i struggle with and neither did i feel celebrated; even my parents barely reacted. I was just trying to be vulnerable and get some support. Her response was: “Sorry I didn’t react in the perfect way you wished I did. Next time send me a script.” It felt sarcastic and dismissive. I replied “wow okay,” and she went offline, didn’t follow up or check in. This isn’t the first time I’ve felt like she mishandles emotional situations. I’m trying to be present, supportive, and understanding, especially with her mental health struggles, but when I open up, I feel like she either gets defensive, dismissive, or snaps at me. Now I’m just annoyed and don’t want to initiate conversation anymore. I feel tired of being the emotionally competent one in the dynamic. Am I expecting too much? Is this just miscommunication, or does this sound like emotional incompatibility? Would love honest perspectives

My(26m) fiancee(25f) is in a coma after a car accident. When I went over to my nephew(6)’s birthday, he asked ‘Where’s Auntie Jane?’ My sister(30) asked me not to tell him since she didn’t want him to worry, so I lied. I told him she’s on a trip. Then I gave him the presents she got for him before the accident(a cap and a shirt), and presents from myself. My parents told both me and my sister off, saying ‘What if she doesn’t wake up?’ That really upset me but I tried to hide it from my nephew before leaving. Didn’t want him to see me looking like that on his birthday. It bothers me and scares me, knowing they might be right. I just don’t know how to process and handle this.

I’m 36 weeks pregnant and just trying to survive until maternity leave. I’m the admin at a clinic and one of the massage therapists, late 60s, has been making this so stressful. Ever since she found out I’m pregnant she keeps pushing prenatal massages on me. Not in a casual way. More like, “OMG you need to be seeing me every week until your due date.” I’m already getting prenatal massages somewhere else because it’s cheaper, but I just politely decline and move on. The real issue is that she constantly tells me about her financial problems. Stuff like: “I only have $50 left for groceries.” “My electricity is getting shut off in two days.” “I don’t know if I’ll be able to pay rent this month.” “It’s been such a slow month.” She always says, “I probably shouldn’t be telling you this but…” and then tells me anyway. She’ll also throw in comments like, “I’ve had this client for 20 years, she started seeing me when she was pregnant,” or “My boyfriend drove all the way here to book with me because he knows I had a slow month.” It just feels like there’s this ongoing storyline she’s building. I gave her my number strictly for work reasons, like if a client cancels. Since then she’s texted me things like “I’m quite concerned about you” which was weird, and then more updates about her electricity getting cut off. One shift she kept me over an hour past closing because she was crying and venting. Lights were off. I was 35 weeks pregnant and exhausted and didn’t know how to cut her off. She only stopped because my husband called asking why I was still at work. She talks nonstop when there are no clients, especially at closing. I’ve tried short responses hoping she’d get the hint. Nothing works. I eventually told my boss and they gave her a key so I could leave on time. Now she looks annoyed when I leave when I’m supposed to or when my husband picks me up right away. At this point I tense up before shifts. For context, I’ve been nice to her. I’ve listened. I even gave her my lunch once. I’m generally empathetic and I think she knows that. A coworker told me she had the same pattern at a previous job. Constant sob stories. One coworker let her use their washer and dryer. Someone from church gave her a car. She also doesn’t retain clients well and has made some uncomfortable comments about clients’ bodies and facial hair, which honestly makes me not want to book with her at all. When you add it all up, it feels less like random oversharing and more like guilt tripping. I’m 36 weeks pregnant. I’m not her emotional support person or her financial backup plan. Am I overreacting or does this sound intentional? I’m just exhausted and don’t want this kind of stress right before giving birth.

So, throwaway cuz my best friend knows my main Me 27M nd my best bud Omar 26M have been tight for years, we literally share everything, like, nothing is too dumb or too embarrassing to tell him Last month, I was venting about this Tinder disaster I had, Girl 24F, seemed normal at first, cute profile pic, working at some big TV station, but holy crap, once I met her, total trainwreck. Personality zero, Culture nada. Her entire vibe screamed, I only care about myself nd sleeping. She laughed at her own lame jokes like she was on Saturday Night Live. I refused to see her again, unmatched, blocked gone, no pics, no receipts, nothing Anyway, I’m telling Omar all this, cracking up, he’s laughing so hard he almost choked on his drink. Dude, he says, literally the smartest thing you’ve done all year. We had a solid laugh, agreed she was a disaster, cool, moving on Fast forward a week, Omar calls me, buzzing with excitement. Dude, I met someone, she’s amazing, I think I might really like her. He’s calling me after every date, telling me what they ate, how she laughed, how she smiled, I’m happy for him, genuinely So today, we hang out. He’s grinning like a kid. He pulls out his phone nd shows me pics of the girl he’s dating now And I freeze It’s her, THE SAME girl I unmatched on Tinder No way, no freaking way. She’s grinning in the pics, looking cute, all dressed up, completely unaware of the chaos she caused in my head a month ago. And Omar, totally smitten. He’s talking about future plans, meeting the parents, maybe even moving in together I literally have no idea what to do. Do I A) Spill the truth nd tell him, Bro, you’re dating the girl I unmatched cuz she was a disaster? B) Stay quiet nd let him figure it out on his own I don’t wanna ruin his happiness, but I also don’t wanna him get hurt when he inevitably finds out AITA

My friend, David, wrote a book about his experience as an indie author. He is proud of the work and as an avid reader, I leapt to support him & acquired a copy. Some backstory, I predominantly read fantasy stories, but I do dabble in romance and romantasy. I love stories that depict strong, capable women overcoming challenging situations. David is well aware of this. He's made comments in the past about me reading "smut" and I've always taken it as him attempting to joke. I also have read his other two books published before the one discussed below. While I thought they were mediocre at best, I was willing to give this one a go as it's non-fiction and figured he may be better suited for more straightforward content than more imaginative fiction stories. The very first page of the prologue had a line that caught me off guard. "That's a good little bibliophile keep reading this nonsense. See? I put some smut in my book. Hope that was good enough." I laughed, knowing this was wild for him to include given comments he's made before and continued on reading until I got to the next jaw-dropping snippet. "This book is going to be very different than most of the smut, oh my bad, romance novels... Now, I know I already lost a lot of you because I called your *precious* guilty pleasure smut. Get over it. We all know what it is, and what it does for you." My heart sank. Was this really what he thinks of me? That's I'm consuming literature about bad-ass women with swords because a few scenes describe the sexual acts as graphically as they describe beheading the villains? That all romance novels inherently contain "smut" because they are love stories? I finished reading. It didn't get better. I then left my honest review of the book on Goodreads. David and I have mutual friends who read romance, romantasy, and yes at times "smut". I encouraged them to read the book and leave reviews. Some of my guy friends aren't happy about this and are saying I'm an asshole. I tried explaining that when an author publishes a book, they subject their work to the opinions of readers, and I was valid to share my honest opinion on the book. It also isn't unheard of to recommend books to other readers that they would take interest in, so it isn't wrong of me to tell our mutual friends to read it. Here's where I may be the asshole, I hadn't left a review on Goodreads before so I made an account specifically to review his book. That's where I am wondering if I might be the asshole since this wasn't normal for me to review on that platform. Most of my reviews are on Fable or Bookmory, but his book wasn't on those platforms. To my knowledge, no one has told David yet. I'm sure he'll know if/when he checks the book reviews. So, am I the asshole? \*As a disclaimer, all direct quotes are available in the sample pages of the book you can read before you purchase the book. They're publicly available material.