So my son (19) was the second child of 4 kids. I (39 F) had him young and raised him mostly by myself. His father was hardly around and went years not being around at all. He lives with me and his stepdad (39) his younger sister (6) and brother (11 months). He graduated from high school in May of this year and has really not been doing a whole lot of anything with himself since, but it really has only been a few months. We constantly try to get him to do stuff around the house and he does easy things like take out the trash or load the dishwasher, which is great, but he doesn’t do much else around here. I just started a new job and so did he. We told him that if he will watch his little brother for 3 hours in the mornings as needed Tuesday-Friday, he will not have to pay any bills here and can keep all of his own funds. I also provided him with a car to use (my old ‘05 Chevy Malibu) as he pleases, I pay for his cell phone ($65ish a month plus he has an IPhone) and but groceries for him regularly. Since starting his new job, he is now wanting to turn off the gps on his phone and says “it makes me uncomfortable” that I can see his location, even though this has been in since he was a kid. Last night he got off of work and did not come home, turned off his gps and didn’t tell anyone that he was not coming home until I reached out to him asking where he was. I don’t have much rules for him, but I have said if you go out, you need to be home by 11 or stay out so that you don’t wake the little ones or us up. He needs to keep the gps on. I’ve asked him to not sleep all day and stay up all night, but he does it anyway. The question is, am I the asshole for wanting him to keep his gps on? Should he be free to turn it off as he pleases? If he’s given freedom and not scrutinized in where he’s going or what he’s doing (something we are not doing) why is having to keep his GPS on such a huge issue? I’ve considered saying “if you have the car, you have to have gps on or you’ll lose the car.” But honestly I want the gps on when he goes anywhere, but that might be me being an over protective mom. Thoughts?