My wife is pregnant and I’m so happy to be a father. Throughout the pregnancy I’ve been patient and caring and doing everything to make sure my wife is as comfortable as she can be. She’s snapped at me a couple of times and I didn’t take it personally. But last night she said “I feel like you’re not ready to be a father because you don’t have a sense of urgency”. For more context the “urgency” that was lacking was because she wanted a weighted blanket that has had two dead spiders in it before so I was checking it throughly for her before I laid it on top of her. Well when she said that I took a step back and told her to never say that again nor question my ability to care for her and our unborn child. After that I was fuming inside and as I went to explain to her why that upset me she just rolled over and went to sleep. EDIT: I do understand that saying “never question me” could be very unsettling and threatening. I didn’t mean it that way.