Throwaway because my family knows my main. I (25M) just left the military after being stationed abroad for 7 years. After my return, I moved in with my mom (56) and sister (24) who shares a house with her husband and their 3 kids. It was originally a temporary plan. I was going to get my own place, but my mom and sister offered me the kids’ old room to stay and split the rent so we could save more money together. I thought it was a win-win situation - my sister is saving for her own place, my mom is getting older, and I will be going to college from the spring. However, to be honest with you, they don’t sit right with me... Like we are not really a family here anymore. Some background: My mom raised us all by herself and worked two jobs to support us. I always admired her for that. But at the age of 13, one of my older sisters passed away. After that, my mom sort of went into a shell. Becoming distant, sometimes abusive, and as a result, I also moved away from her emotionally. It’s a major reason why I joined the military. Upon my return, I have made several efforts to restore our bond. I offered to my mother support such as financially so she could quit one job. Nevertheless, she declined saying that she didn’t require any help. I asked her to join me and my sister for lunch so that we could create new memories, but she rejects the offer. She said no to us, which was the most painful of all… nevertheless, she gave a positive answer to my older sister (30) who lives 3 hours away. Her reason? “She lives farther.” As if I was gone for seven years. Over the last couple of weeks, I have found myself in the middle between her and my younger sister while they are arguing over trivial matters. Today I finally lost my temper and asked them why we couldn’t just pretend that we were a family. I even told them if this went on for long I was likely to end relationships because it felt like nothing would ever change. So… AITA for pushing this issue? Or am I expecting too much after being gone so long?