So, I have some family in France, and they wanted me to come visit them. The problem is, I don't have enough money to bring both me, my two dogs, and my daughter all the way to France (we're American.) I was going to be gone for a bit more than a week, so I called my sister and asked if she could take care of my daughter for that time while I was in France. I didn't mention the family part, since she has some bad history with some uncle-something-or-other. I didn't mention that I'd leave the dogs with her either, since her partner doesn't like dogs. She said no, that she wasn't going to house and feed my daughter for that long, that she didn't have the time and she didn't know my daughter well enough to want her in her home. I got a bit irate, swore at her (apologized right after,) and hung up the phone. I asked my daughter if she could stay with any of her friends while I was gone, and she asked if she could stay home alone. I don't trust the kind of people she hangs out with to not turn my house into a mess, so I said that she couldn't. My daughter seemed annoyed at that, but I let it be. The next day, my sister's partner called and said I was a "horrible back-stabbing asshole" and that I "should be ashamed." After I was done being cussed out, I asked what in God's name they were going on about. They told me that my daughter had texted my sister, and apparently she had her phone number from some (American) family gathering ages ago. I could feel the steam coming out of my ears, so I hung up there and told my daughter that she shouldn't contact family without my permission first, in case she starts some kind of stupid drama like we're having right now. My daughter asked why I didn't tell my sister that I was going to see family, so I told her that it was a stupid fight between her and someone else in the family, and that it was personal and she shouldn't pry. My daughter seemed done after that, so I decided to leave and do other things with my time. AITA? I don't think I'm in the wrong here, but I need my sister to get over her petty conflict with me so I can go to France.