We’ve been together for nearly a year and I haven’t ever seen him drunk or high, despite the fact that he smokes weed like every night and drinks multiple times a week. I’ve gotten high and drunk in his presence countless times but I could count on one hand the times I’ve seen him not sober. He always says he doesn’t like smoking around people but that doesn’t explain never drinking enough to get tipsy around me and that also doesn’t explain how last night he went out with friends and after partying he got high with one of the friends. I just feel like I’ve never seen this side of him and I feel like he doesn’t trust me enough to show it to me. Today I called him and he didn’t pick up and said he was high so he didn’t wanna call. So I asked him if we could smoke together next time we hang out but he said no because he “might get a call from [his] mom” and then went on to say it makes him uncomfortable so it’s “not a farfetched boundary” I don’t know if I’m in the wrong for wanting to smoke together so I can’t see what he’s like when high. I genuinely have no idea what kind of drunk he is and that’s kind of weird I think?? AITA for kind of pushing him to drink/smoke with me?