Throwaway since my boyfriend uses reddit. I am 26 years old, and my boyfriend Scott (fake name) have been together for 3 years. He has always been a jokester, and claimed he will "joke even at his own and other's expenses." Most of his humor is dark humor. Which at times can be too much, and his joke a couple nights ago is a good example. My dog was snoring, and Scott made a joke about suffocating and killing him. I ask him to please not say that, because that is just out of line and a proper joke is what makes everyone laugh, not just you. He rolled his eyes and said, "well obviously I'm not gonna do it." but I still mentioned that I do not like jokes like that. He states, "Comedy is subjective, and like this one comedian said, everyone has their own burgers built of comedy. Not everyone's burgers will be the same," (What the f\*ck?). I told him that if you loved me you can give me basic respect and he said, "I am not going to keep apologizing for things especially when I didn't do anything wrong. If you wanna go find a vanilla npc boyfriend with no humor then go ahead. I want someone who gets my humor anyways." I love him, and I don't know if maybe I am being dramatic and making a big deal out of nothing. I want us to work, but I fear all I see in my future is invalidation and feeling insignificant. I can't even vent to girlfriends without him saying that "women just group together to say men are trash." Am I the asshole for asking him to stop with these jokes? Thank you for taking the time to read. I hope all of you are doing good today.