My boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) have been together a little over 3 years. We just moved in together and have been talking more seriously about getting engaged. Part of our plan as things got more serious was that we’d make an effort to see both of our families for holidays, and so far we’ve done that and it’s been going well. This year we were supposed to go to his family’s for Thanksgiving. His parents bought his ticket, but when I looked at flights they were super expensive. I just started a new job, my pay isn’t very high yet, I’ve got student loans, I’m trying to save for a house, and we’re supposed to go on a big trip next summer with him and his family. So money’s kinda tight and I wasn’t sure I could afford the trip. I told him how much I wanted to go, because I want to be with him and I feel like we’re starting to really build a future together. I also told him up front that I don’t like asking for help, but I went ahead and asked if he could help with my ticket this time because it’s really important to me that we’re there together. He said he understood where I was coming from and that he wanted me there, but then he told me it was “ironic” that I was asking for help right after saying I don’t like asking for help. He also said it feels too transactional and that he wants to use his money for more “important things.” He told me he doesn’t think this trip is important and that I should just save for our summer trip instead… but then in the same breath said he really wants me there. For context, he makes about 5x more than I do with his business. I hate comparing money, but I’ll admit it stung. If the situation was reversed, I’d try to help him out because being together with family feels important to me. I see it as part of us being a team and moving toward marriage, but maybe he just sees it differently. I get that it’s his money. I’m independent, I don’t usually ask him for anything, and I pay for my own stuff. He does cover most of our dates, but otherwise things feel really separate right now. I wouldn’t expect him to always help out or pay for me, but in this situation… if I was in his financial position, I would’ve at least offered. Honestly, what I wish most is that I didn’t even have to ask, that he would’ve just suggested it himself. So… AITA for being upset over this? Or is this just one of those “we value money differently” situations I need to get over?