I (19F) live only with my dad. We’re very close, do everything together, and I rarely have time just for myself except late at night. I’m an only child, and even though we usually get along, we argue when it comes to me going out. I study in a bigger city 30 km away and spend weekdays there (7 a.m. to 6 p.m.). My friends and boyfriend are there, too. The only place in my hometown where I could hang out (a rock bar with live bands) closed down, so now the only way I can see friends, my boyfriend, or enjoy live music is by going to that bigger city in the evenings or weekends. From time to time, I ask my dad if I can go. The issue is that our car isn’t reliable, so he won’t drive me, and he thinks it’s dangerous. But there are safe options like bus or rideshare apps. Today, my boyfriend had a fight with his family and needed support. I asked my dad if I could go at 4 p.m. and stay until 11:30 p.m., when I had already found a female driver on a rideshare app for the trip back, which I considered safe. My dad completely freaked out. First he said no, then said “do whatever you want.” I decided not to go, but the real problem isn’t that he didn’t let me, it’s his reaction. He got very angry, said I’m selfish (something he always says when we argue), that I don’t care about him, that I ruined his whole Sunday. He said that I was irresponsible because I had work to do (he's autonomous and I help him), but I was sure we wouldn't work today. probably if we didn't had this argument, we wouldn't anyways. When I told him he was overreacting, he said if I didn’t want him to react like that, I shouldn’t have asked at all, since I knew how he’d react. That all of that is my fault, that I'm making myself the victim, since I made the mistake and now I'm saying he is wrong for being mad. Now he’s isolating himself to work, ignoring me, and our usual Sunday plans are ruined. This usually lasts a couple of days. And that's my biggest nightmare since I was a child: ruin his day. There's literally nothing scarier than that. I cried a lot and I know a serious conversation is coming. He’ll probably say he can’t take it anymore, that I’m a disappointment, and that I should either reduce contact with him or go live with my mom (something I don’t want, but he always uses it as a threat). He also compared me to my mom, who left him after cheating on him and was extremely selfish. My father doesn't have any friends, and has contact with only one member of the family besides me. He sacrificed his life to take care of me, and I'm being ungrateful. So… AITA for asking to visit my boyfriend when he was going through a rough time? edit: when he compares me to my mother, he means that I am selfish just like her, that she made lots of mistakes and apologized to a point he couldn't handle her anymore. they argued a LOT in my childhood, so it was never a loving marriage. he hates her and have always hated her. TL;DR: I asked my dad if I could go to another city to support my boyfriend. I had safe transportation planned. Dad freaked out, called me selfish, said I ruined his day, and is now ignoring me. Was I wrong to ask, or is he overreacting?