My husband and I are taking a European cruise with three other couples next month. I did the lion’s share of trip planning, and I asked everyone to consider packing lightly, as in carry-on only. There are 2 reasons for this, 1: we are changing locations in Europe every day and lost luggage would have a hard time getting to us (learned this the hard way) and 2: I had to arrange van transfers on both the front end and back end of the cruise to get us between cities, including a three hour ride after we disembark. I explained that while I requested a vehicle large enough for eight people plus luggage, I am booking this from another country and I could not see our actual vehicle and I want to make sure there will be enough room. I made sure to book a ship that has self service laundry and I made everyone aware of this. IMO this halves the amount of clothes needed. Several members of the group just announced that they will not be limiting their packing. Reasons include one husband who will be checking a large bag in solidarity with his wife, who cannot pack lightly and he doesn’t want her to feel bad. Another said she wants to be able to show off lots of outfits. The tone of these comments made me realize that my request was not taken well and I am afraid I made things weird for what would otherwise be an awesome trip. AITA for asking adults to limit themselves to carry-on’s?