Hey everyone. So I feel like I'm overreacting to this and want to get some new opinions. Throwaway account for privacy. I (20F) am roommates with my long time friend (also 20F) and have just recently moved into a new apartment together. For context, last year really sucked due to a lot of unfortunate events that happened to me that really set my year spiraling downhill. One of those events happened to be the passed of my ESA (emotional support animal). He was a great cat and meant a lot to me. It was very sudden and wrecked me since he had been living at my parents during my first year of college. My roommate was very aware of how much he meant to me, but wasn't great on providing much grief support. I never blamed her for it, I was a mess. She did get occasionally passive-aggressive with me grieving with comments like "are you going to sleep soon?" when i would be crying and overall seemed annoyed that i have been grieving my ESA for so long. For a while I wrote that off because i felt bad that i was grieving as long as i had been. Fast forward to now, about a year later. I have had a really hard time without my ESA still, and decided I wanted to bring a new cat with me to try and help make me less miserable and more confident, as my ESA had. My roommate was supportive, and even came with me to meet the cats i was choosing from. There was one we both liked, very sweet and calm. I warned my roommate cats can switch personalities in a new home. She's always had dogs and never owned a cat, just pet sat mine, so i figured that was an important disclaimer. So this is also my roommates first time living with the cat. Despite all that, I got the cat. When we moved in, everything was great. My cat has bonded to me well and is incredible already, but my roommate hasn't had the same luck. My cat is very standoffish with her and doesn't want a lot of affection from her. This has seemed to rub my roommate the wrong way. She now has started to make comments like "why can't you be like a dog?" or "dogs are so much easier" when my cat isn't affectionate. This has now escalated to her being very frustrated with my cat being loud now (like i warned, she did change personalities a bit and got fairly loud). She gets a little to rough with her for my comfort, doing things she would be doing with her dogs to my cat. Often if I'm not home, I'll come home to my cat being shut inside my room (not an issue to me, but I can tell she's being frustrated with my cat when she does this). Now I'm feeling guilty for bringing this cat with us as it seems that she's getting the brunt of my roommates frustration. I feel like its unfair for my roommate to put dog expectations on a cat that's been in this apartment a month and is still adjusting. It's my cat, i havent asked her to do much of anything beside one weekend of feeding her while i was out. I just don't want to start a fight if I am in the wrong, so WIBTA if i asked her to stop treating my cat like one of her dogs?