I will try to explain this as best as I can and try to make this clear. I love my SIL but she is getting on my nerves. My living situation has put me and my SO directly beneath my brother and SIL. For the most part we get along, but there have been many (and I mean many) instances where my SIL and I have a bumped heads to the point of we probably both should’ve gotten concussions. The problems rang from petty bickering to full on arguments. The most recent issue we had was my brother (who is in the upper unit) was playing a game really loud and it was about 9, I texted my SIL asking her nicely if she would talk to him to either turn it down or put on head phones as we could hear the game through the floor and over our tv. No response. An at 10 we are getting ready for bed because my SO works early and I have to be up early, there was still no change (just screaming from his game). So I muster up the courage and call my SIL, she answers and we talk and basically she says that he doesn’t need to turn it down because it’s only 10, and she constantly hears snoring and basically she shouldn’t have to. (I know if the roles were reverse I would have to do what she says). Also she pointed out the he shouldn’t have to because I’m not working right now so I shouldn’t have to go to bed early(medical stuff). But after some passive arguing from my side (I just wanna go to bed man) she reluctantly said she would talk to him and eventually he turned it down a little (I can still hear it but it’s not insanely loud). There are so many other stories that I have where I have just turned into a door mat for her because I have to “keep the peace” but F the peace. Where’s my peace?