Long story short, due to immigration reasons (I will not share any more details regarding that for my own personal safety) I had to cut out smoking marijuana cold turkey and my wife agreed to joining me through that process as it was for the sake of our relationship. We made a pact that we would both quit, her for me so that it wouldn’t tempt me and she agreed to be there for me. Bare in mind, it has now been months since I smoked and she has smoked many times since, I just feel let down because she promised me she would be there through every step of it, she’s broken the pact many many times over and over again. Now every time she begs me and asks if it’s okay if she smokes, I tell her that it is completely up to her what she does, that I cannot stop her from doing it if she wanted to and I won’t stop her but that I will not be very happy with that outcome. For the sake of our relationship, I had to stop doing it and she had agreed to be there and to not do it either. Am I the asshole for being against her doing it due to those reasons?