hi reddit im 18f and my boyfriend is 17m we’ve been dating just over a month and lately i feel really unwanted and unappreciated for the past week ive been putting in most of the effort complimenting him reaching out when holding hands giving affection texting first taking interest in his hobbies being a girlfriend basically and making it clear im here for him ive been trying to make sure he feels cared for and loved but hes been snippy distant and dismissive i feel like im the only one trying and its exhausting he barely shows affection doesnt compliment me rarely texts first and doesnt apologize when he upsets me in the beginning he was completely different he used to be so sweet writing love letters apologizing if he hurt me staying up late if he felt bad and always making me feel like he wanted me and didnt want to make me cry now that version of him is gone one call really shows it he went out with mutual friends which i dont mind i get if he wants guy time but how he communicated it upset me he said “i was asked for” then clarified he was asked to check who was free then said he assumed i wouldnt want to go i told him that annoyed me and he should have asked me because he doesnt get to assume things for me i said it came off like he didnt want me there and he just said “thats you thinking that” without trying to correct me after that he went quiet and cold when i tried talking he got grumpy muted the call and was vague for like 10 minutes saying stuff like “it doesnt concern you” or “im muted so i dont say anything harmful” he even mentioned his sleep struggles which he already told me about and it felt like he was just shutting down finally he said it was something he already told me before and it left me frustrated and hurt i feel like ive always done basic stuff a partner should do being sweet showing interest complimenting him putting in effort but he’s not doing the same this is both our first relationships and we both have autism but it doesnt change that i feel unwanted and taken for granted am i overreacting is this normal for a new relationship and am i an asshole for expecting him to act the way i act with him not assume things for me and respect my choices Edit for all the people saying leave I genuinely do not want to this might just be a rough patch and he’s good in other aspects I just want to know if I did the right thing or not I’m not sure what to do like today I’m going to wait till he texts me first because a friend suggested so