Hey everyone so here’s the deal. My wife 40F and I 42M have been married for 8 years together for 14 years. We took one year apart and during that time I dated someone and was completely honest with my now wife about it all during the whole process. During that time the loss of a loved one got us to talk again and we ended up getting back together. I did ask her if anything had happened with anyone she may have dated or anything like that. She told me about one small thing (nothing crazy) and it was all good I told her my stories and we got back together. A couple months ago we were talking and that time of our life came up and somehow we referenced what we had done while not together and there was a new event that happened then that she never told me till now. Essentially someone from her past (they were part of a group of friends and hadn’t talked to him in like 9-10 years) saw her social media and reached out. They had some online conversations where he had also got out a long term relationship and blah blah blah they started communicating. Well that led to her asking him to come over to her and her roommates place to hang out. The story goes they had drinks, talked, and he put his hands on her she didn’t want that but they kissed and there was a little foreplay but the guy couldn’t “make it work.” No sex and she’s saying that was never on the table. I don’t care about what happened as we weren’t together I care that when i asked back then she never mentioned it and now is saying there’s nothing to it. Well more details like after we got back together she liked some photos on his social media. She’s saying it was nothing and she didn’t think anything. They both stopped what was happening and she saying she was in a dark place and all that jazz. My issue is that she didn’t tell me even though she told me about the other situation and that involved a good friend of hers who was like madly obsessed with her and I knew it would eventually happen and it was a kiss and nothing more. I’m wondering why she didn’t tell me about the other situation and also how realistic this is: Knew someone from a group of friends Don’t talk to them for a decade They somehow see you’re single and message you You supposedly aren’t interested but talk to them anyway A few weeks later you invite them over and something almost happens but he can’t and you also decide it isn’t you You get back with your ex (me) and a few days later still look at this guys social media All that and never telling that the truth that it all happened. I’m confused. Is she telling the truth, yes or no and AITA for being upset? I feel like I was not given the details to make a choice I was comfortable with.