Hello. I'll try to keep this short. To preface, my grandma (F88) is a very simple woman. Only got basic education, from my knowledge even that was not easy. I live with her to keep an eye on her, prepare her medicine etc. But she's very well and able (walks around, goes to shops around the apartment etc.) I'd say our living condition isn't really a family though. More like roommates. She cooks for herself and I eat my own food. She's mostly also watching TV, pretty much all she does are the romance novela channels. I just keep to my room and take care of my dog. Recently I've discovered an itchy mark on my hand. Then another. I thought I have an allergy spark or something. Turns out she brought home the freaking bedbugs that camped under her bed for around THREE MONTHS before migrated to my room. We're in the process of fumigating the shit out of our apartment. In the meantime we're at my parent's. While me and my parents work our asses off between the dogs, housework, funigation and all other stuff, she behaves like she's on all-inclusive vacation. Doesn't help with cleaning, shopping or anything really, even the basics of things. She's just... existing. Everything has to be done around her suddenly, like she's incapable. Yesterday she didn't even pick up her utensils from the pile prepared for everyone on the table and I had to give it to her. I just snapped telling her she's not in all-inclusive trip and maybe should start doing bare minimum. My father tries to stand by her side saying that she's just old, but my mother and I are just fed up with passive shit while we work our asses off with scrubbing the entire apartment and then having to cater around her too. AITA by wanting her to at least do the basics?