I (22F) have a pretty unique living situation. When I was 16 my mom came out as a lesbian. At first it was a shock, but then it felt right. She told my dad before me and my sister (who was 21, 27 now) so we didn't see his reaction but he was incredibly accepting. Having so much love for my mum, he just wanted her to be happy. Thats not the unique part, that part is that they stayed married and decided not to divorce. They're separated and date other people but still live under the same roof. It started off that way because when I was 16 I was going through tough exams and they didn't want to change home too much (mums idea), so it just kinda stayed? To be honest it did help, and whilst at first it felt different but quickly everything fell into place. They decided divorce was such a lengthy process, and they get on so well, really best friends, it wasn't really like much had changed, only that my dad stayed in the guest room. They decided that if either of them got in a serious relationship, then they'd divorce, but still live close to each other.They started dating other people pretty soon after. Ironically my dad got more dates than my mum, turned out her single friends always had a thing for him lol which we even joked about before. Anyway thats a long way to say they were happy living with each other and not being divorced. Sometime in the past month my dad called me, inviting me out for a movie. I was confused, because my parents go on friend 'dates' like twice a month to go see a movie, turned out she'd blown him off. When I got there my dad talked about how my mum was acting weird, she was ignoring him a lot. This worried me, so I called her to meet up. I met up with my mum over coffee and asked if she was alright. She acted odd and brushed it off, before I mentioned stuff with my dad. She acted weird again, and then straight up laid it on me that she was 'finalising the divorce.' Shocked, I asked her why, and asked if she'd found someone and she said she hadn't, then said 'isn't it weird we're still married? There’s no point' I guess I hadn't thought about that, but still, it was odd and random. She also discussed her plans to move to a city 5 hours away from us, which in the UK is a big change. I called my sister straight after I got home, telling her about it, worried about our dad, and she said 'oh she finally did it'. Confused, I asked her what she meant, and she said something like 'aren't you embarrassed? Don't your friends find it weird they're still together?' and that our dad should ‘get a grip’. I lost it. I asked why a 27 year old woman would give a shit about something like that, and called her heartless because she knows our dad is still in love with our mum, even though it's harmless and he just wants her to be happy. Our mum is also very introverted and will hate moving. But I want to know, am I doing this just because I want my parents to be together? Am I being a selfish asshole? UPDATE: Not sure how to make like a new post so i'll just put it here to brush some things up. Yeah, i'm the asshole. I've been acting like a kid and honestly realised that before coming back on here. I wrote this when really upset and even when writing it just felt like I was being an absolute asshole. I do want to brush some things up. 1. MY DAD IS NOT SHAGGING MY MUMS FRIENDS. My dad went on one or two dates with two of her friends five years ago, and did not sleep with them. My mum set it up, my dad didn't pursue bc he was uncomfortable. I PHRASED IT BADLY. 2. My mum is the breadwinner. No my dad isn't still getting a stay at home wife bc she never was one. She's been working fully since I was a kid, and so does my dad but he does more of the domestic stuff and so would I growing up bc I knew how hard she works. Stop thinking men always have the higher paying jobs. 3. I'm not homophobic. This one made me chuckle a bit, I like women. I currently have a girlfriend, i'm a bisexual kind of, don't really have a label, but I came out when I was 14. My mum said this was originally what made her think and unearth feelings she had when she was my age too. 4. My dad isn't some lovelorn creep. I phrased it so so badly, my fault. Emotions and a word limit. He has a lot of love for her, and if she wanted a divorce he would've done it easily. It was always my mother who couldn't be bothered to go through with it (literally what she said) because they were such good friends. I think honestly she wants to go not for her own sake but for my dads. She really wouldn't care if they were divorced and still living together but I think feels bad for making my dad stick around. 5. Also stop believing my parents had weird malicious intent? Uh, no. My dad isn't a sexist weirdo, and is her no.1 supporter. My mum isn't a freeloader. 6. I was defensive around my sister because she usually is like this, bossy and her words go, we're really close but she can still be so rude and snarky and I never push back, which is why I got mad bc I thought she was roping our mum into her issues, but then realised that no, it was my mum who needed the push. I called my mum an hour ago, and we had a really good talk. We're close but she isn't good at communicating with me, I think it's bc we're quite similar people. She's just going to move out and get the divorce, but move into a flat instead. She told me she was really going to miss my dad if she moved so far, and us too, so she decided to move closer after our conversation. I realised I wasn't angry at the divorce, at all, in fact it makes sense, I was annoyed at my sister because she always has to have control over these things, and she just had a lack of regard for our dad. My parents really do have a lot of love for each other, so stop overthinking it lol. I think if my sister hadn't been so condescending I wouldn't have been mad, tbh she said things that I couldn't put in for word count but who cares now. That's it for now. Also stop downvoting my comments, i'm agreeing with y'all 😭.