My brother (28/M) and his gf (24/F) just had twins. Prior to the birth they sent a paragraph into a family gc expressing their rules for visiting them in the hospital “Please do not carry the babies for now”. The day after the birth me (23/F) and my sister (24/F) were talking to the mom. I asked if her stance on the babies being touched or carried still remains and she said it does she continued with how people in our family work construction and smoke cigarettes (does not apply to me nor my sister) and doesnt want to risk the germs. She used her cousin as an example, he had just came from work (construction) and wanted to touch the babies which she said no, I asked if he had showered prior to coming if she would’ve allowed it. she nodded no. Last night I was showing my bf the photos i took of the twins when I received a notification from the family gc, I immediately clicked to see it, it was a video with this caption “uncle came to visit the babies!” i played the video and it showed the mom on the hospital bed with a baby in the bassinet next to her, her brother is standing over the bassinet reaching in and touching her head as you hear the mom saying “isnt her head soft” when the video suddenly disappears! the video and message were unsent. Immediately a picture is sent instead with the same caption (this all happened in a matter of seconds) The photo is the same situation as the video except her brother has his hands behind his back and the mom is holding on to the bassinet. I immediately called my sister to tell her. we were both angry. We texted our brother saying we saw the video and he never responded while being active in other chats. Some background: throughout the pregnancy they vocalized not wanting anyone to touch the kids my brother had told me he was struggling to find the words to tell my mom that she wasn’t going to be allowed to touch or carry the kids. There have been times where my brother tells us one thing until he hears his girlfriend say something else and changes his mind. Twins’ grandmother on the moms side is carrying the babies, feeding, touching, etc. I can kind of understand only trusting your own mother to care for your kids I still find it unfair for my mother who is just as much a grandmother. BUT her 17 year old brother? who they always complain about going out clubbing every night until 5 am? My sister works an office job and I’m not even working because I moved away and went to visit for this reason only. Present: My sister and I confronted my brother over the phone today (he was alone) and he just said that her brother was able to touch one of them because he simply asked and “the mother allowed him to” he said we could’ve gone freshly showered and asked. we said no because we were respecting their very much communicated boundaries. I’m upset because why does her mom and brother get to touch them but not my brother’s mom or sisters? Am i the asshole for confronting/coming at him for that?