This is not a joke title! Im being for real this is more than the title i swear! Me, 16 non binary (it becomes relavant) and my dad, 39 had a really bad arguement about the pronouns Caleb Hearon uses in the "pie" joke. Its also relavant that we both use pot, and he introduced me to it and allows me to use it. During an interview joke thing Caleb did, he makes a joke and he specifically says "i have She/theys shooting for me" and makes alot of jokes about sterotypical they/thems. im non binary and my parents dont know, they know im trans and i have been out as trans since 10 but they dont specifcally about me being non binary. Me and my dad this morning were sitting on the couch and we started talking about the discourse between Caleb and Mr. Beast and ive told him many times im a fan of Caleb Hearon and ive sent him tictoks about him many times. My dad starts telling me the joke about the "She/they shooters" but he used "He/Shes". I said in the joke he uses "They/Them" Actually. And i was wrong about that because it was She/They. I didnt mean it in a insulting way or to proove him wrong. I also didnt say that because i was "Triggered" or because im trans. My dad actually started FREAKING out. He starts yelling and me and belittling me by calling me an asshole, and that im why his blood pressure is so high. (He does have blood pressure issues but like...) It turns into him just yelling and im crying because he is yelling in my face and i cant get up from next to him on the couch. He keeps getting so close to my face i can smell his coffee with pumpkin spice creamer on his actual breath. My mom is wonderful but she has the spine of an actual wet noodle. She tried to intervene by telling my dad that we both need to calm down like im the problem and he told her that she needs to learn her place and she just started cleaning again the kitchen again. My dad then finished the arguement by mocking my crying my waving his arms around like an actual toddler and screaming that i look at him like he is insane but the way he acts IS actually insane. He kept telling me i only corrected him because im brainwashed. When he says this he is refering to me being trans. My dad is a transphobe but in an "i okay with it but dont want it shoved down my throat" transphobe way. The only lasting in trouble im in is he took all my pot away. He controlls me with it by punishing me for useing it for emotional regulating but then he will say "if your upset go hit your bong" or "go have a puff". My dad has always treated me this way besides pot stuff with started at 15 because of our only family traditons. We have no others. My mom knows how sad i am. I told her in private about how dad makes me feel. And the horrible names he has called me like fucktard on multiple occasions (My little sister is very autistic which why it hurts so much.) Mom never stands up for me. Never tells me im right explicity but she just comfort me and it makes me so mad at her Idk. AITA?