Okay so my birthday was days ago. I received a birthday bag from her and inside are two coffee books and perfume looking which is actually for room scent. The books: one, a sport motivational book. I don't really do sports. Two, a beagel guide book. We don't have a dog and I often mentioned to her many times I love cats. I haven't even mentioned any beagel interest to her. I don't really use room perfume because there are specific scents that makes me sick. I mean I told her thank you and I expressed that I appreciate her efforts and spending. It's just that. None of them resonated with me. She told me she'd been struggling financially and I get that but these items are pricey. She should have atleast gotten cheaper items that I would like/use. After I received it, I didn't want to ruin MY bday, I just moved on and displayed the things on my table as my appreciation that she gave me something. But as days go by, I felt like she doesn't really care about me or my interests. We're really close and I know being like this with an age gap is kind of bitchy of me. But this happens like alot to me during birthdays and Christmas gifting. I would literally be happier with a $1 thrifted bracelet than a beagel book. I know she's very young but I've always been the one to spoil her anything. I gave her free items even when there's no occasion. During her birthdays/graduation/christmas, I gift her expensive bags, perfumes, jewelries etc. I'm not saying she should reciprocate equally. I'm just saying she could've atleast gifted items I would use/resonate with me. I don't care if it's hand me downs or how cheap they are. But I had been unintentionally expressing my interests everytime we hang out. I love cats. I like to journal. I love movies. I love to read romance books. I like jewelries. It just felt like she was obligated to give me something because I was very generous of giving her stuff. So she threw in that gift bag anything, never caring about if I would like it. The perfume looking one was the takeaway that she didn't even read the labels. She thought it was a perfume for the body. She was also shocked as me that it was a room scenter. For the beagel book, i don't get why would give one to me. I don't understand. It had a tear or damage on the cover. Okay so that has been bugging me for days and so I had a gentle talk with her. I told her I appreciate the gifting effort. I expressed how I would like it if she gifted items that resonates with me. And she tries to justify the things she brought for me is right and that she explained how she thinks they resonate me just fine. This also happens last years too. She often gifts me items that is not me. Like something I'd never use. I share her my thoughts and feelings about it. But she was upset that those items were pricey and I'm being an ungrateful bitch. I mean yeah but like I told her afterwards that I'm still thankful she thought of buying things. Idk anymore. AITA?