Context: She has cried about this before and I’ve given in. I’m 27. I was diagnosed with cancer when I was 26. She has come to every appointment, treatment, and scan since this began. She has a huge personality (sweet, nice, funny, kind of weird) and that plays into my guilt for not actually needing or wanting her with me at every appointment and 24/7 at every 5+ day hospital visit. I’ve struggled to discern why I want my independence, it’s not like I have something to prove or want this journey to be solely my own, but I’m tired of showing up to everything with her in tow. She has said “I want you to want me to be there”, well, what if I don’t?? And I don’t! I want some privacy, I want a little respect for my wishes, and I want her to be a part of the process but not my right hand. She’s my mom and she loves me more than words so I think she would rather be with me than anywhere else in the world. So how do I get her to understand that this is my thing to carry and I don’t want her with me at everything? I feel like I’ve tried everything so at this point I’m just wondering if… …am I the asshole?