I (28F) have been living in a two bedroom apartment w my best friend and her girlfriend (both 28F) for the last three years and I’m ready to move out and in with my boyfriend 31M). I recently told them I was moving out and gave them 40 days notice. Their response was to ask me to stay longer so that they won’t have to scramble to move out as well. They’re in a tough position financially and say they don’t have the ability to cover rent after I leave. They are upset because they would rather I gave them at least 60 or preferably 90 days notice before moving. We had a conversation at one point months ago where I guess I loosely said I would give them 90 days but I honestly don’t remember it and we never brought it up again. I understand where they are coming from. I would never want them to be homeless and I’ve expressed that. I’ve also expressed how this move would be a good thing for me. I would only have to pay half what I’m paying now and I would use the rest of my money to pay off my over 10k in credit debt and save money for eventually getting a new place with my boyfriend. Our current plan is to move into his tiny studio apt and both of us save up for the next spot. My roommates now think that it is unfair of me to put them in this position where they don’t get to save money like I will be. They say that they would never do this to me if the situation were reversed. That they could have moved out sooner but they didn’t feel good about leaving me in the lurch like that so they didn’t. Over the last year I have spent less and less time at my house. It dwindled to maybe once a week. Sometimes not for two weeks. I mentioned around the beginning of summer this year that my boyfriend and I wanted to move into together but we had no specific date. Just that we were going to showings and I’d keep my roommates posted. So me asking to move out doesn’t seem like it should’ve been a big deal. They should’ve started their planning or at least saving money. From what I understand they have no savings, they have bad credit, and lots of credit and student loans to pay off as well. One roommate just bought a new car with the help of her parents but now doesn’t want to ask them for help in regard to this. Same roommate also only works 25-30 hrs a week. I would never want to put my friends in a bad spot but it kind of feels like they put themselves in a shitty position. Not having financial stability enough to cover one third of rent between the two of them. Now I am considering staying another month to make it easier on them. And I also kinda feel like it’s a choice between my best friend/roommmate or ~$1000 in a second month of rent. AITA for thinking 40 days is enough notice??