i (17m) was given a baby cat ( we dont know her age, all we know is that she had her eyes barely open when i got her) by my mother. this cat was a stray and she in my opinion needed a vet appointment as soon as possible to make sure she had no diseases and just for a basic checkup and to get her shots. however my mother never took me to get my cat the help she needed. i was okay with waiting since my cat seemed fine for the most part until recently. my kitten had gotten sick recently, she could barely eat, she wouldnt play as often and she slept more often then usual, not to mention she has being throwing up. i was extremely anxious and worried for her because i have some issues with pets i got connected to having to leave me and i didnt want to lose this kitten. my mother assumed she had worms, which i thought wasnt the best to assume because my cat was a stray and she could be dealing anything she caught from the streets, not to mention she ate cat litter a few times (this i had mentioned to my mom) so my mom went to go get over the counter worm medication for my cat, i appreciate the effort but from what i have learned from even a couple google searches and looking around on websites for cat owners that giving a kitten as small as my cat unprescribed medication could cause issues with her, not to mention she could just get a horrible reaction to it and we'll have to deal with that aswell and run the risk of hurting her more while shes still sick and i didnt want to gamble with those odds. I am not even sure my cat 100% has worms so giving medication with just our best guess scared me. so i told her that my friend i trust completely was willing to pay for a vet appointment for my cat, knowing that we probably couldnt afford it at such short notice, i told her my worries with my cat being possibly harmed by the worm medication at her age and size and my mother brushed it off completely, telling me that over the counter worm medication wont hurt her. i am terrified of going against what my mother says is best but i felt like this was extremely irresponsible for her to do even after me stating my concerns. so on the day my mother went out to get the medication, my friend and i set up a appointment for my cat, i asked someone i knew for a ride and they said they were willing to take me. my friend wouldve been paying the whole vet price and he said this was the best course of action to make sure my cat would be okay. i told my mom many times that my friend would pay for the vet trip completely and she wouldnt pay a thing, but she was bent on the worm medication working and telling me to calm down. i never went to the vet trip due to complications. my cat was fed the worm medication in the end. but i feel guilty for going behind my mothers back for my cats sake. TLDR: i went behind my moms back to get my cat a needed vet appointment because my cat got sick + needed a checkup. i couldnt go and my mom gave my cat over the counter meds. AITA