Me and my husband had decided to have our wedding as a surprise at our one year engagement party. When we first made the invitations a few people couldn’t make it since they have other things booked. We then decided to tell them what the plan was for that day, and most of them decided to reschedule the other plans and come to our wedding/engagement party. One pair who couldn’t come even though they now knew what was happening that day was a close family member, to my husband, and it’s partner. Three weeks after our wedding they were having their wedding in a different city, a few hours away. During these three weeks neither of them have reached out and congratulated either of us. When we arrived to their wedding they didn’t mention it either. Now a few days after their wedding my husband receive a text where his family member says that the reason they didn’t talk to us or congratulate us is that they felt deeply offended and disrespected that we had our wedding so close to theirs. Worth noting is that including their family it was only five common guests at our and their wedding. Are we the assholes for having our wedding three weeks before a other family member? Edit: Thanks for all your answers! We know ”one year anniversary” isn’t a thing for an engagement. When we got engaged we didn’t throw a party for other reasons so now that it came close to the one year after we got engaged, we decided to throw a belated celebration and to use that as a cover for the wedding. Hope this clears it up!