I will try to be as clear as possible. I have four kids, this is about my middle child Abby (fake name). Abby was an addict. She went off to college and came back in the first semester an addict. Soon after, she dropped from college and got much worse. My late wife and I tried to get her into rehab but she would just run the first day. Her relationship with the rest of the family deteriorated very quickly. She was soon kicked out of our homes permanently when she was 20. My wife soon got cancer and we stopped giving money altogether to Abby because it needed to go to the treatment. Abby broke into our home and ransacked it . This included heirloom pieces that were passed own from my wife's mother. She also left our doors open and our two cats escaped., we never found them. This broke my wife, and she started to go downhill after. My wife made it clear that Abby has gotten her inheritance already and that she wants nothing else to go to her, she was very clear not to allow her to have anything else or borrow anything. My wife passed and Abby didn't even come to the funeral. Abby is now 26 and has been clean for a year. She is planning on getting married next year. She called me and asked if she could use Mom's wedding dress, and I told her no. This started an argument about how its unfair because my oldest daughter did wear it last year ( Abby was not invited to the wedding). She claims it is unfair and that she was her mother too. I informed her she already got many things from her mother and pond them off for money. I need an outside opinion, I cant go to my family becuase everyone has strong opinions about Abby.