My (26f) friend "Amy" (26f) is getting married next month. The wedding is in her homecountry so my boyfriend and I will fly out for the wedding, arriving a few days earlier because I'm also invited to the bachelorette party (not a bridesmaid though. Complicated story). Thing is, the whole trip will cost us about 1.000€, not including cost for the bachelorette. I thought because of that, and because I have been helping with venue preperations (I'm doing the photo slideshow, background animations for 2 screens and lighting for interactive dancefloor) I would not need an extra gift on top of that. However, my friends who are also in the wedding now told me that it would be a real AH move to show up without an extra gift (typically 100€ per person, so 200€ for both of us). Before I go and talk to the bride about it, I wanted to get some outside perspective. Personally, I don't think I would be an AH for not bringing a gift on top of spending so much money, but what do you think?