My sister is having a destination wedding. I would consider a destination wedding in a location where the bride and groom do not live. Her fiance is from this location however. It is across the country and a 5.5 hour $800+ flight. My boyfriend and I will easily be spending $2000 on flights and hotel alone with how long we will need to be there. That does not account for all the other costs of this wedding like dress, food, throwing her a bridal shower with the MOH, the list could go on and on. I have only been in one other wedding a few years ago so I can’t remember all the costs off the top of my head I just know it was a lot. I am happy to do it obviously with it being my sister. However she has decided to have her bachelorette in a somewhat expensive major city 4 hours (driving) away. In a somewhat expensive, popular bachelorette spot especially for drinking. She does not drink, but whatever. The trip is what you make it I guess. Am I wrong to consider this another destination trip? And to be irritated to be traveling again? We are not flying, no, but for this trip to be worth it at all we will need to be there 2-3 nights. This could easily be another $300 for Airbnb, plus the drinks, food, decorations, gas to get there, etc etc… how much have yall spent as a guest at this type of Bach? I was really hoping she would throw something more local like dinner or maybe 1 night within an hour away. Part of me thinks she is trying to show up to her friends and this is pressure but maybe not. She has just flown a lot of places for friends weddings. But again I think it was more of a circumstance where the couple lived there, or either a destination wedding OR Bach. Not both. But I’m certainly NOT going to tell her that this ask is too much. Please let that be clear, I will not say anything to her to make her feel judged. Anyways, we are sisters but not close friends. I know she would take it the wrong way and no one wants to question the bride obviously. My mom thinks it’s ridiculous and is trying to make subtle hints but I honestly don’t know if it will work. Thoughts? I don’t think I have the option of not going, or do I? It’s my sister. I think I have to swallow the pill of how much everything is going to end up costing. Would it make me go broke? No. But do I have other things I should be saving for? A house for sure and just life? I will also say my boyfriend and I also have to attend another wedding for his best friend that is also across the country. And is it wrong that i kind of want to save $$ for our own separate vacations? Would you go or not go?