So my “friend” recently moved in because shew was evicted for not paying rent which is a long story but I offered to let her stay with me. Fast forward a week into her moving I had a health scare and had to get a full hysterectomy being that I’m still youngish it’s been a pretty hard thing to deal with. I asked this friend since she’s not working would she be able to help me for the few weeks I won’t be able to do things like getting out of bed myself, cooking for me and my kid, cleaning Ect. She said she would and that I wouldn’t be alone during the recovery process. Fast forward to the day after my surgery and I needed help out of bed to go to the bathroom and called her but she didn’t answer I checked her location and she was an hour away. I sent her a message letting her know I needed help and she said she needed to pick up an order she had and would be back shortly. After waiting a hour and noticing she still hadn’t left the house she was at I eventually was able to get up to go to the bathroom unfortunately this caused me to rip my stitches and I ended up having to drive myself to the ER which is 30 minutes away because I live in the country. When she finally came back 8 hours later I let her know where I was and why. I told her I needed help during recovery and asked if she could be here. She said she would and that she felt bad that she wasn’t here. The next day she left at about 9am and I again asked for help she said she’d be back soon and that she needed to pick up medication from the pharmacy. I didn’t see her until 9pm that day when she finally came asking if I needed anything. I told her I needed food because I couldn’t really make food right now. She made me something quick and then went to bed. The next day she left my son here and hasn’t had him since and he’s 6 so I had to cook for him throughout the day. I’m now 10 days post op and this process has been really hard for me because she’s only been home on day 6 and 8 and while she was here her kids made a huge mess that I ended up having to clean up after…I absolutely paid for doing that and ended up laying in bed most of the day yesterday and today after cleaning up their messes, doing dishes as I was the last one that did them the day before surgery and I don’t like my house being messy. I noticed she was always at a specific house about a hour away and realized it’s a guy she recently met on an apps address. Finally today realized I’m at my breaking point and don’t want her here because I’m starting to be resentful and am having a really hard time healing with no help. I’m planning on kicking her out today but wanted to know if I’d be the AH. For context I know she has nowhere to go she has no income because she initially was being paid to be her now exs caretaker but when they broke up he wanted to move out and she stopped getting paid for it two weeks ago. I feel bad that the kids might suffer but this is taking a huge mental toll on me.