So, I'm (35f) currently out of work and looking, so I currently do most of the housework me and my partner (36m) has, including laundry. Until now, I do our laundry together, and fold while watching TV in our living room, splitting up folded laundry piles by which drawer/open storage shelf the article of clothing goes into. My process is to take the clothing upstairs to the bedroom once everything is done, in order to assist me in maintaining even, neat and organized stacks for the open shelving for our clothes so it doesn't look sloppy and cluttered. The problem is, this takes us a long time, often running into the next day or two, so we so end up with stacks of folded laundry around for a little bit. My partner doesn't like seeing these piles around the house, and before I can finish tends to put all the neatly stacked laundry into baskets all together and take it upstairs, meaning I have to re-do a lot of the work of folding to make it look neat and tidy in the open shelving the next day. I can't get it all done in one day before he gets home. So I am considering changing the rule, and separating our combined laundry and do all of mine first, which I can get done and put away before he gets home, and then do his only after mine is done, if he won't come to a compromise and allow the tidy laundry stacks to remain in place until they get out away. He is responsible for putting away his own laundry, and does not use the open storage shelves that I do. I think I might be an asshole, because it means that he has to wait longer for his laundry, while simultaneously refusing to get more clothing that fits because "he's trying to loose weight" but isn't actually taking steps to do so, despite having the money and space to get a few more clothing articles to get through a longer period of time. ETA - okay, I guess I'm the asshole for wanting to do mine and my partners laundry for separate days and for wanting to keep my open shelves looking organized. I guess I'll just go ahead and create extra work for myself having to constantly reorganize the open shelving to keep it looking neat instead.