My (F 34) “dad” (ex stepdad, bio dad of my siblings) came to my city yesterday to take me out to lunch for my birthday. I brought my partner and my dad brought his current wife. To my surprise, my aunt (mom’s sister) was there as well. At the end of the meal, my partner left to smoke and then my dad’s wife steps outside as well leaving me, my dad and my aunt. I can’t remember exact words but next thing I know my dad is accusing me of being on drugs and expressing “concern.” I have been sober from everything but weed for 5 years. Alcohol was my main issue. I hit rock bottom, signed myself into rehab and haven’t touched a drink or any other illicit substance (sans weed) since. I have been having financial issues recently so I have had to borrow small amounts for food and gas but have always paid them back. Apparently small amounts are suspicious? I also recently started a better paying job and am actively working on obtaining a second one. I am diagnosed bipolar and the meds can get a little heavy sometimes. My dad claims that while we were on a family vacation in May that I was visibly imapaired and was falling asleep talking to people and they came to him concerned about me. I recall getting sleepy during the game night but at home I usually pass out on the couch around 8pm so maybe I was getting drowsy? I am legitimately confused by this and my dad wouldn’t give me a time frame, alluding to the fact that I was like that the entire trip. That coupled with my financial issues has him convinced that I’m on drugs and he manipulated my aunt into thinking the same thing. My mom did have an opiate addiction but was clean for years before she passed away recently but she also smoked weed. I just denied it and tried to explain myself but ended up leaving after realzing I wasn’t getting anywhere with him. Later that night I called my aunt and she apologized explaining she was just worried and needed to see me in person so be sure for herself but she no longer thinks I’m on drugs. I called my dad as well. We talked for nearly two hours and he still didn’t budge. He even told me he added a condition to his will that states that I will have to take a hair follicle test to prove that I’m not on any drugs before I can access my portion of the money. I asked him why wait until now if he was so concerned back in May but I never got a straight answer on that. He basically staged an intervention disguised as a birthday lunch. My partner is livid because nobody bothered to even ask/talk to him and we live together. At this point I don’t want to be around that part of my family anymore but my dad is already accusing me of isolating myself stating that it’s a sign of my “drug use.” So now if I really do it it’s just going to prove him right. But if I do continue coming around it’s gonna feel like I have a huge spotlight on me because he has everyone convinced I’m doing drugs. So WIBTA if I just stopped coming around at all?