Background: My (35f) partner (40m) is very underweight. (His BMI is 14 something) He is gluten free and lactose free. I believe he has ARFID, but he refuses to get tested. He does admit that because of his phobia of sickness, he has some psychological 'block' when he eats - if he feels even slightly bloated or gets the 'ick' or something, he will stop eating. He also doesn't like rich or creamy foods. He has always struggled with eating/weight, but was on the lower side of a healthy weight until recently when he was ill with tonsillitis and lost about half a stone - hence the current bad weight. Current: For a long time now, I have been responsible for cooking all of the meals in the house (3yr old and 6yr old kids and us). I am a SAHM and it made sense. I make my partner seperate high calorie/gf/dairy free snacks as well as either high cal etc versions of the meals our kids and I eat or a seperate meal with those requirements. I make his breakfast (just museli with added seeds and stuff for cals) as he won't put the extras on if I don't. I make his lunch (usually chinese with rice) to take to work, but often he 'forgets' to eat the rice, which massively lowers the calories. I pack boxes of nuts and dried fruit/dark chocolate as snacks too. Tonight he was at work until 11pm. I made him a caramel yoghurt (i added dark brown sugar to greek yoghurt) tonight i also added some of the vegan cream we had leftover, for calories and so it didn't go to waste. He gets home and tries it. He asks why it's runnier than normal, **but says it's nice**. I said it's got the vegan yoghurt for the cals. Then suddenly he says he can't eat it. He just can't. He isn't full or anything, just can't. I'm so hurt. I am trying to lose weight, and go to bed hungry most nights. He never makes food for me. I spend all of my day researching different recipes and trying them out and cooking and baking and making sure he has options. And he can't even finish a yoghurt? Why am I the only one putting in the effort here? I am so tempted to just stop. Stop making the extra effort, stop trying so hard. But if I don't, he will probably just keep losing weight. I feel so unappreciated. WIBTA if I stopped making him special food?