Throwaway account because my main account has my interests and it’s very obvious to people who know me that it is me on there. I know how this sounds. Please hear me out LOL. I (17F) have had a friend called ‘Connor’ (fake name, 17M) for the past 5 years. We met at the start of secondary school and have since been very close. I’ve always thought of Connor as my best friend and have always tried to be by his side during conflicts. Which is a lot. Connor is the type of person to have a large friend group one month and then ‘have no friends’ the other. He has never been able to hold down a friendship (except ours) and usually comes to me when he’s in conflict. He’s had friends who have dropped him, he’s had arguments with friends and has taken them back, the whole lot. I’ve never been a person who is confrontational so even if he has done something I would never bring it up. I once brought up that maybe he should stop talking to certain people if they kept falling out and he gave me the silent treatment for the rest of the night and ignored the fact that I had said anything the next morning. So I’ve obviously never really tried to speak up for anything. Connor had a friend group last year of 3 people - Connor, Max (16M) and Phoebe (16F) (all fake names.) Phoebe and Connor dated for a short while but he left her as he didn’t want to be in a relationship. For the record, I’m totally convinced they still like each other as they’re both their best friends and are very close for friends and I’m sure if Connor had the chance he would throw me off a cliff if it meant to save Phoebe, they have had arguments before and completely stopped being friends before but it turned out Max had told some lies and Phoebe had told some lies. (Typical teenage stuff, i’m sorry.) Nowadays, Phoebe and Connor are best friends and Connor absolutely hates Max. From what I’ve heard, Max and Phoebe still talk occasionally but Connor likes to be the ‘bigger person’ and completely ignore anything about him. Max and I have started talking more as friends and I think he’s a genuinely nice person. I don’t know why Connor and Phoebe stopped talking to him and I’ve never asked him about them. Max has recently started flirting with me which I thought was surprising. I went to Connor and told him about Max flirting with me. I am generally not attractive and obviously a bit of attention at 17 is the best thing in the world. Connor then told me that ‘Just saying, if you do there’s a slight chance I’ll never talk to you again’ referring to Max and I dating. Obviously I was very surprised by this as he has no problem with Phoebe and Max being friends or talking, and he tries to be the bigger person and I’ve never been one to flaunt my relationships. If anything, Connor is jeopardising our 5 year friendship over me dating someone who he doesn’t care about anymore. WIBTA if I told Connor that his friendship issues are none of my concern and I can date who I want?