I left my parents home last year due to difficult circumstances (starts with V) and moved in with my grandfather who raised me much of my childhood. Around this time I met my partner who has been the most supportive and healthy relationship I’ve ever had. He’s kind and emotionally mature and genuinely makes my life better. When I first left, my mum went from sad but understanding to placing blame everywhere except where it belonged. Hoping to rekindle, I told her about him over the phone. When she learned his background, she abruptly ended the conversation and later said she wouldn’t accept him into the family. She also told me she wouldn’t accept end our relationship if I chose to stay with him, and made discriminatory remarks about not wanting him “in our bloodline”. Despite this I knew it wasn’t reasonable to give up someone so good to me. At one point she angrily suggested meeting him but said if she didn’t like him I’d have to end the relationship. I considered it but later found out from my siblings that she was still making racist comments about him which showed me she never planned to truly accept him. That broke my trust especially after she kept another important family matter from me which happened to my sibling. I felt she only wanted the meeting to prove her point that she wouldn’t like him. To protect him I delayed the meeting and blocked her access to his accounts due to constant stalking. This had caused repeated arguments. My partner has remained calm, respectful and supportive even though comments made have been deeply offensive. I know I’m not perfect either I’ve reacted emotionally at times and told her I lost respect when she speaks that way but I cannot and will not agree with racism. I don’t believe mothers know best when the reasoning is based on prejudice rather than love. It’s been over a year and the conflict continues. Most recently she said she’ll kick me out of my grandfathers house and again talked about cutting ties, using my decisions around blocking and delaying their meeting against me while also resorting to racist stereotypes. She also blamed my partner for the fact I haven’t gone out partying (truth is I’ve prioritised my studies). Despite this, my partner and I have continued to grow together. He’s someone I see a real suture with and I refuse to lose him because of bigoted views. In the meantime I’ve been finishing university, preparing for my career, and helping my grandfather with his health and household needs. I do plan on moving out eventually, but for now am focusing on my future and maintaining the healthy relationship I’ve built. I love my partner, he has changed my life for the better and I will not leave him to simply appease prejudice in my family. AITA?