AITA in this story? So, I used to call my niece "the daughter I couldn't have" so God sent her to me through my sister. We were always very close. I taught her to drive, talked frequently even when I lived far away and I was the first one she called when she found out she was pregnant. 15 years later I moved back to my home state to be closer to family. It was good for 5 years. Then, one casual convo via text, I said I didn't like the colorful hair on kids. I didn't like it in the 70's either. I just thought it was weird (I've since changed my views). She didn't say anything...just quit speaking to me. Blocked me on everything. I found out a few years after that she interpreted that as "you're a bad Mom and I hate your kids". Less than a month after that text, they found a golf ball sized tumor in my brain. Six weeks later I had it removed. She never called or asked about me. Stone cold. A year later, it started growing back. I was given 6 months to a year to live. They were wrong about the time-line. Still terminal, but she's still stone cold. Given a death sentence, but she doesn't care because I didn't like blue hair. Funny thing is, on my scarriest ER visit, a girl with rainbow hair was the one who was able to calm me down. Completely changed my view point. But I never got to tell my niece because she shut me out. She even told my sister she wouldn't go to the funeral because funerals are for people you love and respect. It gets better. During these past few years I haven't been allowed at my sisters house if my niece was there because she threatens to not let her see her grandkids. So, every single holiday I'm alone. So, AITA for just not caring anymore. If she showed up at my door now, I wouldn't let her in.