I (34f) am getting married in October. The venue my partner and I have chosen doesn’t have sufficient rooms for guests to stay overnight so most guests are staying with friends nearby, in local hotels or b&bs. The venue does have a lodge on site that sleeps a maximum of 5 people and my husband and I will be staying there on the wedding night. I have a bridal party of 8 people (myself, mother of the bride, mother in law and 5 bridesmaids). The night before the wedding I have chosen to have just my mum and sister stay with me in the lodge which has been planned for about a month. My Dad passed away suddenly during the early Planning stages so I wanted it to be just my mum and sister so we can be together and feel what we need to feel. My mother in law asked about staying over and I have said that there is room if she would like to and she can stay with us if she would like. Here’s the thing; even though I have offered her to stay she has said that i have made her feel left out as I didn’t ask her originally and have made her feel like an afterthought. She also complained that I hadn’t asked her to go with me when I chose my dress (I explained to her I’d like her to do a first look with me on the day since my Dad passed away so this was why I didn’t ask her to help me choose my dress and she understood this at the time) but she’s been included with every other decision and event in the run up to the wedding. I have also paid extra for her to have her hair and make up done on the day so she will get ready with the entire bridal party, bought her gifts and included her in all other trips. She told my fiancé that I have made her feel left out and he said I need to make amends with her. When I explained all of this to him, he said I was the ah for excluding her originally and I have maid her feel like a third wheel. So AITA?