This is a throwaway because many people involved know my reddit account, and I don’t want to expose them. All names are fake. I(45M) was in a relationship with Denise(40F) for many years, we never legally married, but had a kid together, Martin(16M). My family has been a military family for generations, and I expected Martin to follow in our footsteps. I even started doing physical training with him so he could join as early as possible. When I explained my hopes for him, he got really mad, and said that he didn’t want to be a part of conquering and oppressing weaker countries. I asked him if he was sure, and begged him to reconsider. When he heard more about my background serving in the military, he called me a horrible person and cussed me out. That really got to me, and in the heat of the moment, I lost my cool. I started yelling and swearing and threatened him with a big ass beatdown. It was at this point Denise got home, and she lost it. She kicked me out of the house and told me to never come back. After that, I was so lonely. My whole family was scared of me. I eventually started a new life and a few years later, met another woman Ashley(33F) who I loved dearly. We had a kid named Ollie(1M), when tragedy struck. Ashley ghosted me, and left the country. I was left a single father. After a few more months, I ran into Martin at the supermarket. Apparently he was touring a college in the city where I lived. I immediately apologized for my behavior, and asked how I could reconnect with him. I told him about his half-brother, and how it was almost impossible for me to raise an infant alone. I asked him to talk to his mother for me, and to see if it would be possible for us to get back together. He refused saying that what I did was not nice. He said there was no chance that either of them would talk to me again. I said he wasn’t listening, that I had changed, and I was remorseful. AITA for losing my cool and alienating my family?