(english is my second language so i’m sorry about grammar) my friend and i are in different colleges, we used to be very similar girls (very insecure and shy) but after i started going to therapy, i changed so much about it, i’m more confident and healthier. she has always struggled with insecurity, self esteem and anxiety. she didn’t want to study in that college but her toxic mom obligated her to study there. she is not comfortable there and her friends are also toxic. she keeps complaining about that to me and our other friend, and we give her logical solutions. i give her the same advices my therapist gives me, but she keeps saying she can’t have new friends because the groups are set, she says she can’t talk to other people or she’ll be alone… she never accepts our solutions, she always says that she’s not enough and that she’s bothering us. i don’t feel bothered about giving advices, but i’m losing my patience because she doesn’t listen to us and sometimes it looks like she’s just making drama about everything. i’m tired of trying to help somebody who wants to get helped but doesn’t do anything about it. i feel like i’m the asshole cause i was like her, but i always listened to people’s advices and tried to do something better than i was doing. she doesn’t, she just keeps complaining.