I turned 20 this year and am finally taking control of my life. I’ve been sheltered my whole life because one of my older brothers did drugs, drank, got arrested a handful of times etc, so I never did any of that. I’ve been a good kid, but I need to branch out. I met a boy a little over a year ago and we’ve been dating for six months now. My mom is losing her shit because I’m moving in with him while they move to a different state. My whole life, I’ve had a pretty good, but rocky relationship with my mom. My dad’s always been the mediator between me and her and has been able to get us to become “friends” again when something happens between us. Lately, he’s been taking her side because she’s gotten to the point of threatening a divorce if he tries to be on my side even the tiniest bit. Before I met him, she would Virgin shame me for being 19-20 and not having sex. I finally lost my v-card once we officially started dating and now she’s slut shaming me to anyone she can. I’m a big girl, 5’8” and weigh more than someone at my height should. She used to tell me my body is perfect but now that I have a bf, she says things like: “if you want someone to actually love you and not just want you for sex, you need to lose weight.” “If you want him to marry you, you need to dress girlier.” “No one’s ever given you attention because you’re big. You can’t just run away because someone’s finally paying attention to you.” She’s a diagnosed Bipolar Narcissist, so I learned to tune her out at a very young age but it’s getting to the point that I can’t. I’ve been crying myself to sleep every night because she’s beyond mean to me. I love my dad to death and would continue to live with him, but I can’t deal with my mom so I’m moving in with my bf. His family loves me and even apologizes for my mom’s behavior when I should be the one apologizing. My parents both make about $100K/year and have a $575K house on a lake, whereas his parents don’t make near as much and don’t live on a lake in as big of a house. My mom has made several comments like: “they’re ashamed because they’re poor.” “I don’t want you dating someone in poverty.” (Which, they’re not.) “I want you to do better than your father and I did in life, so marrying into that family won’t do that for you.” She’s so materialistic and wonders why his family is afraid to ever meet her again. She thinks I’m like her and gets mad when I defend them and tell her that not everyone can afford a half a million dollar house on a lake. I move in next week and my dad’s been (secretly) supportive of me. I’ll still keep contact with my parents as I could NEVER cut them off. They’ve done SO much for me in life, but living with them is not something I can do. They’re worried I won’t go to college anymore. (My dream is to be a CRNA.) My bf has already set aside money to help me with the next semester, but my mom’s already taken me off her insurance. Ik it’s moving too fast, but I’m miserable around my mom. AITA?