Throwaway, For anonymity my partner Skylar is learning to drive. They have crashed a car once this year and came very close to second time. I have been trying to let them get comfortable behind the wheel since the crash but they are kind of scaring me. They do not seem to be that attentive when i’m in the car. I am not talking/distracting them or even playing videos, just scrolling my phone looking down. Once, they start to park i glance up because they are not very good & it’s a long car but i still do not say anything. Once we are out of the car they always ask how they did & i am always honest. When they crashed they were trying to merge to take an exit and ending up running into a sign i told them next time just keep driving straight take the next exit park somewhere safe if you need to & let your gps adjust , the second time (the almost accident) they were trying to take another exit & i will say it was a very short lane to get on as there was an entrance ramp right behind it. As we came up i noticed they weren’t slowing down and a 18 wheeler was entering the highway i told them to slow down and get behind the 18 wheeler and that they really need to slow down to take that exit and after slowing 18 wheeler & the other cars behind almost completely down they decided to continue down the road to the next exit. After that i told them they could’ve just caused an accident. They said they zoned me out because they don’t like when i give directions. Since then i try not to give directions but even when they ask how they did they seem like they zone out then too. Their comments make me feel like I’m dealing with a rebellious teenager sometimes. I take full accountability if i am being too hard on them or am being an asshole but am i the asshole?