I (27f) have a daughter of 4 years old. Quick backstory: We live 1.5/2 hours away from my family. I coparent with her father 50/50, one week here, one week there. Because of the holiday period the schedules been a bit off. My dad celebrates his birthday tomorrow. It’s quite a far drive. My partner can drive, I can’t. It’s not my week so I do not have my daughter with me tomorrow. This didn’t seem like a big problem to me; we visited last week as well and she and I brought him his birthday presents. She also sees him NEXT week because it’ll be her birthday. Today I received a text from my dad saying he’s disappointed my daughter won’t come, because he will miss her and so will my aunts and uncles. Extra context: I never see my aunts and uncles, they never reach out and never come to our birthdays. I told him it’s a pity but they are more than welcome to come to her birthday next week. I said it’s her dads week and we’ve been off the schedule a lot (I just want her to have some rhythm in life before school) He does not like this and keeps stating it’s a pity and they’ll miss her not coming. My sister can’t come to her birthday next week so she comes the week after. My dad then told her “oh, but will (my daughter) even be there?” It was obviously about the fact I’m not bringing her tomorrow. My dad blames me for not even trying to keep her here this weekend even though it’s not my weekend. Am I the asshole for not doing so? I thought it would be fine since she came last week, stayed the night there too, and we already gave presents. I’m coming tomorrow with my partner. Also some context, I’m chronically ill and trips like these are extremely exhausting. I feel like it should be enough that we’re coming. I have had a rough couple of weeks being with my daughter 24/7 which I ofcourse enjoy immensely, but I’m exhausted and as I stated before, ill. It’s nice to go out without a child for once, it’s more relaxing. So am I the asshole for not bringing her?