Im going to keep this simple. Me (24F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been together for about 4 years now going on 5. We live together and both of us cook every now and then for eachother. I absolutely CANNOT handle anything spicy sorry if I am a wuss but it just ruins any food for me. My boyfriend knows this and every single time he cooks he makes it spicy. He thinks I won't notice because he puts other things in it and denies it every time I ask him if he did. Today he made spaghetti and I begged him PLEASE do not put anything hot in it. If he chooses to put whatever ingredients to make it hot in his I have no problem with that. I serve myself a bowl and guess what? It was spicy ASF! I then ask him what did he put in it and he said "nothing maybe it was the sausage" I then proceed to go look on the stove and I see red pepper flakes all over around the pot. I go tell him what I just saw he then admits to putting red pepper flakes but only a little bit. I told him I was not eating it. I leave the room and he starts yelling at me about how ungrateful I am. So my question is am I the asshole?