Throwaway for privacy. Hi Reddit, I need to to settle something before new years this year so I don’t feel bad. Context: for the past few years my highschool friend group has had issues with New Year’s parties. This goes back a while: First year this all started I was invited to hang out with Kylie and Susan (fake names), two of my close friends with one of our friends in a younger grade. It was fun, but apparently our other friends, Nia, Sally, and Emma (fake names) saw our location and blew up that they weren’t invited. They were already together, and hadn’t invited us, so we brushed it off. Fast forward to next year, this is the big one where I might be TA. Me, Kylie, Susan, and same younger friend + another young friend wanted to do our party again, as it was really fun. We were honestly much closer to them than to the other three, so it seemed right. We had done plenty of things as one large group that year, plus, we knew Nia didn’t like our other two younger friends. While planning, we received a text that the other three wanted a party, just the six of us, no one younger. It had been like that all year, so we thought telling them we had plans already would settle it. Boy, were we wrong. I sent the text, and immediately things blew up. Nia’s MOM was calling all of us, telling us how selfish we were and how they had always included everyone at their place (they hadn’t). I was on the phone with Nia, her mom, Sally’s mom, ect for almost 6-7 hours. By the end, I felt like TA for not just trying to include everyone, but looking back can’t tell if it was. The following year we caved to keep the peace and went to Nia’s for new years, it was awkward, and kinda miserable. I should note, Sally and Emma had later said they didn’t feel new years was a big deal, but Nia made them think it was. Both me, Kylie, and Susan didn’t stay the night, as we just weren’t comfortable. So this year, I have my own place. We’re adults, I don’t feel a need to have everyone in one place. I want to try my group out again, the three + the two younger ones, but I really don’t want another outburst that ruins the vibes. Both new years without them has cause huge issues, and I don’t wanna deal with the repercussion again. So Reddit, was I TA for not inviting the whole friend group for a New Year’s party, and WIBTA this year if I didn’t again?