This happened last easter and my family is still divided . I’m a 24f and I have 8 younger cousins I get along well with all my cousins except the 13 year old who we will call Chris. Chris is an only child and is very spoiled my aunt doesn’t really have many rules for him and doesn’t really care what he does he also has some minor anger issues. If things don’t go his way he will throw a tantrum , growl and even gets physical . There have been times when we’ve been playing video games and when he doesn’t win he will start growling and swearing and we have to tell him to stop and take the controller away from him like a little kid. This causes my aunt to yell at us and make us turn the game off as it upsets Chris. Now to the problem the last few years I’ve thrown an easter egg hunt for my 2 youngest cousins they were 3 and 5 when I started doing the hunts. The first 2 years Chris and my aunt didn’t come down so I didn’t have any issues and the kids loved it but this year Chris and my aunt came down I was debating wether to put Chris in or not and asked my mom what she thought and she said she thought that chris was too old and that instead of excluding him I could make him his own goody bag and get him to help me hide the eggs I thought this was a good idea and made the choice not to let him join as a egg hunter but as an egg hider as he’s a lot older then the other 2 and he doesn’t know limits very well and I don’t want him throwing a tantrum if things don’t go his way. So the day of the egg hunt I gently told him the hunt was for the younger kids and told him he could help me hide the eggs and that I had a goody bag for him inside but he threw a huge fit started getting physical, broke a bunch of the eggs and wrecked one of the Easter baskets he even threw a bunch of eggs at my other cousins which gave them bruises . I told him to stop and that caused my aunt to get involved and I got a earful she told me I shouldn’t have excluded Chris and told me I owe him an apology but I said I wouldn’t be apologizing to Chris and that if anything he owed me an apology for wrecking everything and hurting me (he gave me a big bruise). They left and my family is spilt some are saying I was in the right and my aunt needs to start disciplining him but others say I should have just put him in the egg hunt to avoid drama so AITAH ? Side note Chris’s dad left when Chris was born and hasn’t been in the picture for years.