My husband (25M) and I (27F) are currently separated due to severe emotional neglect and unmet marital requirements. FOR CONTEXT - premaritally, I was clear I needed a partner to be fully present in my life (involved with my family, friends and the hobbies/things which I care about) as I was striving to be in his. I left him early in the relationship due to this which lead him to pursue our relationship again promising he would change. He is the 4th born of 10+ siblings. Both his parents died before he was 20 leaving his elder siblings to raise the younger ones with the youngest being 3. When I married him, I understood that helping with his siblings would likely be part of our lives. We ended up taking 3 siblings in for a year. This involved financially providing, school runs, cooking, cleaning, paperwork and all the normal things caregivers would do for children. I have no regrets for providing the care we were able to but found that my husband completely withdrew from our relationship at this time. For over a year, he rarely spoke to me beyond logistics, never initiated dates, and barely engaged with me outside of work. I was also pregnant during this time, and still carrying all the household/relationship labor. There have also been multiple incidents when my husbands elder siblings have publicly (in family group chats/settings) reprimanded him regarding sibling care instead of speaking to us privately, which I objected to. This caused tension and they insisted the reprimands weren’t directed at me so I shouldn’t have a problem. Eventually his siblings moved out at the initiation of an elder sibling demanding they do this without consulting myself and husband first. At this point, we spoke about the boundary again and the elder siblings agreed to respect it and speak with us regarding things that affect our family before making public announcements. My husband remained emotionally withdrawn, even after his siblings left. He refused counseling, wouldn’t make a plan for our emotional future, and admitted he didn’t know how to change. We began the process of separation and even drafted divorce papers until we found that we had to be separated over a year to file. Around then I also found I was pregnant with our second child. During this process, my husband mentioned to one sibling that we’d filed divorce papers. That sibling told another, who then publicly announced in the family chat that I was being removed due to our separation. Neither of us was warned. When I reminded him of the boundary he’d agreed to, he claimed my husband told him (a lie) and said I shouldn’t care since I don’t plan to stay married. My husband tried to address it, but the sibling dismissed it as a waste of time. Since then, none of his older siblings have spoken to us. They’ve asked to take our child to family events I’m not invited to which I have declined due to their disrespect. AITA?