Hi Reddit, I (F23) have been good friends with Cassie (F22, fake name) since 2020 but we’ve known each other for longer, I have been dating my boyfriend(M25) for about 10 months now. Cassie is very upset with me that she has not met him yet. Every time her and I hang out I always face complaints that she hasn’t met him, accusations that I am keeping him from meeting her on purpose and demands that she meet him, this happens every time we hang. At some point it has started to have an opposite effect on me, the more she demands she meets him the less motivated I am to plan a time for her to finally get to know him. I wouldn’t say I’m keeping him from meeting her, they have met one time when we went to a local fair together with a few other friends but she does not count it because they did not have a conversation (she wouldn’t even look at him at first, she gets nervous around guys). He was also a bit nervous since the week before, her and her sister drove by his house because they saw my location there and yelled “HIIII” at him. seems innocent maybe? But he was a bit freaked since he didn’t know who they were and how they knew where he lived. There have been so many chances for them to meet but they haven’t been up to her standard. My bf comes over for barbecues a lot and I always let cassie know he will be there but she is always busy or just admits she does not want to go. We go out on the weekends and it is too last minute. It can’t be a meeting that is on the fly, she wants to go to a planned dinner with just me, my bf and her. She’s been telling me that it’s been her dream for her to be best friends with my SO and vice versa when she starts to date(going on double dates and taking vacations together, things like that), which is why she’s so adamant about meeting him formally. We hung out today and she told me that now it is hurting her feelings and she is taking it personally that I haven’t planned anything yet. She comes from a family where dating in general is very traditional (like a modern courting process). I come from a less traditional family which is where I think the disconnect comes from. Maybe I am the asshole but I don’t think I should have to prioritize this meeting and plan it in the exact way she wants just because she needs to meet MY boyfriend on her terms? When she could just come out with us and other friends and get to know him casually. I haven’t needed to do this with my other 2 best friends, and I feel bad that she is the last of my friends to get to know him but there have been opportunities for her. I’m gonna plan this ridiculous formal dinner eventually since I do want them to meet but I truly want to know if I’m just not understanding and being an asshole or if I’m justified.