Okay i really dont know how to do these posts but i will try to be clear as possible! Me (17F) and my friend Z (17F) have been friends since middle school. I really like her and i would say she is my closest friend and our vibes really match. Recently she had a boyfriend and they have been dating for 5-6 months i guess. They dont have the healthiest relationship, Z is cheating on him and the guy A (18M) isnt the nicest person i ever met. Once Z posted a video with her cousin and A broke up with her because of it, telling her she wasnt allowed to post any boys on her story except for her dad. I try to talk some sense into Z but she said she loved A but she is STILL cheating on him with another guy?? Also once we went to vacation together, me, Z and our other closest friend, at that time our national teams matches were up and she always said she didnt like watching matches and left us to talk with her boyfriend. Also, she said A is always trying to bring up sex even though Z told him she didnt want. The last time they fought it was because A told his closest friend that Z didnt wanna have sex and the closest friend told her sister to get some advice, (the sister was the closest friend of Z's older sister) so Z's older sister learned everything that A and Z did. Z broke up with A, cried to us and cursed after him. After 3 hours she posted a story with A? In our groupchat she told us she wasnt going to mention A again but she couldnt break up with him because she loved him(still cheating with the other guy), our other friend told her it wasnt about mentioning A, it was about how he treated him and how she shouldnt date him anymore. I wrote "Let her do whatever she wants, it doesnt concern us anymore. Im tired of trying to make her understand how much of a asshole A is", then she told me i cant talk to her like that, i was wrong with my attitude. We havent been talking since this, so im asking, am i the asshole in this? Am i the asshole because i answer her with an attitude?