me and my family (currently my mom is 57, sister 32) moved to the U.S like 10 years ago and we come from a country were we didnt really need to drive or never learned and relied on public transportation, taxis, uber to go everywhere. when we moved here, I was only 17 and then 2 years later I got my drivers license because i took the initiative and mostly bc I knew if I waited too long i was going to get scared to do it and it would be hard. well, right after that it turned out that i was going to be my family's drivers for everything and I was suprised by it, their jobs, grocery shopping or going out to places. I was cool with it for a couple years bc I knew they were not prepared and who was i to pressure them (me only being a 19 year old). fast foward a bit more maybe around 2019 I started to get a bit more annoyed and tired bc sometimes my sister would get off 11pm and most of the times I had to wake up at 6am or 7am to drop her (she works in retail so her schedules are weird). The very first times I kindly asked my mom when was my sister going to get her license (mind you she was 24) she just simply said "i dont know". Timed kept passing and I saw zero innitiative from my sister and I casually asked my mom or at times the same question and it seemed the more I asked, the more annoyed she got, 2021 was when we had many confrontations about it , both of them had told me that "I am ungrateful, that my sister pays rent and my mother too" which I do appreciate and Is not that I dont help around the house, I pay the electricity, gas, any repairs and insurance for my car and myself, and in some occasions rent too which I dont mind. Many times they have yelled at me instead of being a little empathetic, and it just feels like my feelings were dismissed and have guilt-tripped me so bad at the end of the day I just end up feeling hurt and tired. Currently I am on my senior year of college hoping to graduate in spring of 2026, will attend career fairs and I am working part time in my University too. My mother is unemployed because she takes care of my grandmother which it seems she hates doing because they are always arguing and rarely is nice to her. I understand the fact my mom may not want to drive (again we grew up in a country where we relied on public transportation or taxis) and I wouldnt be upset if she didnt because she has anxiety, but my sister being 32 and still not showing any efforts is aggravating to me and because of this, my relationship with both of them has gradually became poor and Idk how to show them affection, I feel bad at times for this but I am doing my best to process my feelings by going to therapy and try to be nice to them. I just honestly cant forget the awful things they've told me and I am still bothered by how I am still the only one that drives and have to hear my mom complain about taking care of my grandma without doing anything about it(like getting a job and hiring a caregiver).anyways thx for reading this