I F(31) carpool ride everyday to work with my coworkers, there's 5 of us total and our commute takes about an hour each way. We used to work from home a couple times a week before we had to return to the office full time. A couple weeks ago one coworker (Ray) decided to rent an apartment closer to work and said he couldn't carpool anymore. This would increase our daily cost by about $2 since we divide everything. I was fine with it but one coworker (Sam) was against it so she started looking for someone else to ride with us or give us a ride. Sam found a guy (Henry) willing to drive us everyday since we all live close. It was decided we'd start riding with him Monday. The problem was Ray wouldn't move until Thursday, so that meant 6 people for a 5-seat car. Sam's solution was to have one person ride in the trunk and rotate so it wasn't the same person every time until Thursday. I said I didn't think that was safe and that we could just keep carpooling normally until Thursday. Sam said it was ok and I wouldn't have to ride in the trunk but that we HAD to start with Henry on Monday since they agreed. Well, today at work Sam asked to talk to me. She then told me I am inflexible about the seat assignment and that although I wouldn't have to sit in the trunk, I won't get to ride in the front seat until Ray moves. I was taken back and again said I thought the trunk was unsafe and that if it was a problem I could find another ride home. She said that wasn't necessary, she just wanted me to know how inflexible I was being. Another coworker (Jaz) was there and started backing up Sam, which surprised me since Jaz has been late for our commute home more than once. I've been the one to tell our coworker to wait for her because leaving her would mean a 2 or 3 hour bus and subway trip home. Jaz doesn't know I've done that but was still talking about 'being flexible'. I was also flabbergasted them calling me inflexible since my shift starts at 8:30 am and theirs starts at 7 am (Monday through Thursday) and 9 am on Fridays. I've been getting up early to make sure they aren't late, but on Fridays I'm always 15 or 30 minutes late because they don't want to get up early on the one day they can sleep in. My manager knows and doesn't reprimand me since I'm there at 7 am every other day, but it still makes me uncomfortable. The company also sent a form for some workers to fill out if they want to work in a new building closer to where we live. The problem is not all of us can sign up. All five of my carpooling coworkers can move, but I would be left out and need a new commute. They know that but still plan to move. I'm not planning on staying at this company long; I've been job hunting for a month hoping to find something remote or closer to home. So, am I the asshole for not wanting to ride in the trunk until Thursday?