My (25F) sister (29F) is turning 30 early next year and she planned a big celebration for her birthday. She invited most of our family and many friends, so it’s going to be at least 35/40 people. I decided to not attend and she got quite upset about it, so I’m turning to strangers for advice, as it’s a touchy subject in my family. The reason why I don’t want to go is the location, it’s a country in Asia (India) and I won’t feel safe there. I have a disability, a cervical spinal cord injury, which causes significant medical issues. I was in a car accident when I was a teen and it fractured my neck. I can walk a bit with a cane, but I use a wheelchair a lot. The idea of being in a foreign country far away, with potentially unsanitary conditions and an unknown medical system, terrifies me. What if I eat/drink the wrong thing and end up hospitalized because of it? My digestive system is all messed up because of the neurological issues, a stomach bug can very easily send me to the hospital. The long plane trip itself is going to be a challenge and mess me up. My sister thinks that for one time I should be a bit more daring and take some risks. She even proposed to pay for our (my husband I) plane tickets if necessary, but that really isn’t the issue. She says that I’m overthinking it, that things will likely go smoothly and that for once I will experience seeing an exotic location. She’s not wrong, things might go smoothly (or at least not catastrophically), but I can’t ignore the many possibilities in which it might become a nightmare. I have medical emergencies often, unfortunately it is part of my daily life. I told her that I would be more than happy to be part of a smaller celebration in our home country, but I won’t make a trip that I’m not comfortable with. She’s trying very hard to convince me to come and that I should try to get out of my safe zone for once, because she really wants me there and she thinks it will also benefit me. I don’t see it that way. So, AITA for refusing to attend her birthday party abroad?