I (21M) grew up in the U.S, my grandparents are from Mexico, but my parents never taught me Spanish when I was little. Now that I’m an adult they’ve suddenly decided it’s “important” and have started talking to me in Spanish, almost like I should just pick it up. The thing is if I’m going to spend years learning a language I want it to be one that I actually care about and for me that’s German, I find it more interesting and useful for my future goals. I don’t see myself learning a language just to be able to talk to immigrants so that really puts me off. I want to learn a language with the same usefulness and prestige as English and I love English. My parents think that I’m “rejecting my roots” and that I’m being ungrateful and I’ll regret it but I think differently, they had the chance to raise my bilingual and they didn’t. I have no interest in using Spanish or going anywhere in Spanish speaking America. Now it feels unfair to expect me to put in the work to learn something I don’t want just to satisfy their cultural expectations I feel a little guilty because I know how important Spanish is to them, but I also think it’s my life, and I should get to choose the path I want.